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Sleep help
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J. is 4 1/2 months. Last night, for the first time in weeks, he slept more than 2 hours at once (from 8 until 10:30). For the last few weeks, I'm lucky if he sleep an hour and a half. It's getting harder and harder to nurse him to sleep, which is really the only way he falls asleep.
He and I are so sleep deprived. He's constantly fussy and always looks tired. We have a nap routine, but obviously it's not working. We sing our "play time is over" song, change his diaper, and nurse.
Today he woke at 7 and he nursed in bed for about 15 minutes. He was awake and playing until 8:20 when we started our nap routine. He fell asleep while nursing on the couch.
He woke up a few minutes after I put him in bed, and wouldn't go back to sleep. We played until 9:10, at which point we resumed nursing off and on. He (finally) fell asleep at 9:45. And he woke up at 10:05. Clearly this isn't enough sleep. J. is currently fussing as he plays on the floor.
He's up at least 5 times every night. I know I can't do this much longer. I feel like I am losing my mind. Any suggestions are appreciated by this exhausted, at the end of her rope, mom.
He and I are so sleep deprived. He's constantly fussy and always looks tired. We have a nap routine, but obviously it's not working. We sing our "play time is over" song, change his diaper, and nurse.
Today he woke at 7 and he nursed in bed for about 15 minutes. He was awake and playing until 8:20 when we started our nap routine. He fell asleep while nursing on the couch.
He woke up a few minutes after I put him in bed, and wouldn't go back to sleep. We played until 9:10, at which point we resumed nursing off and on. He (finally) fell asleep at 9:45. And he woke up at 10:05. Clearly this isn't enough sleep. J. is currently fussing as he plays on the floor.
He's up at least 5 times every night. I know I can't do this much longer. I feel like I am losing my mind. Any suggestions are appreciated by this exhausted, at the end of her rope, mom.
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Re: Sleep help
I'm sorry.
Sleep deprivation sucks so bad.
Do you baby wear? I wore Isaac for the majority of his naps until he was about 5 months old and then I had to hold him in my arms for most of his naps until he was about 7 months old. When I would wear him to sleep, I'd have to walk and bounce around the house for as long as 30 minutes to get him to sleep. There were times that was really frustrating for me, but I just kept reminding myself that it was a short phase and would be over soon and then I'd miss snuggling with him. Also, do you sleep together at all? Isaac will nap for 2+ hours if I lay down with him. I hope you guys figure something out soon!
I will come back to this post later I don't have much time to write right now. However if he will not nurse to sleep anymore try laying him in his crib once he is done nursing. You may need to rub his back for a while but DD got to a put where she wouldn't fall asleep nursing but would go to sleep soon after when put her down.
He may just need his space to sleep.
We bedshare. Always. He has never slept in his cradle, bassinet, or Moses basket. I lay down with him for all naps. He won't even sleep longer with me there.
We didn't bedshare with DD full time but we would take her in from time to time. However it got to a point where she found it to be playtime and were couldn't take her in bed anymore.
The books No cry sleep solution, and Healthy sleep habits happy child helped me a lot. HSHHC is more of a cry it out book but it helped me to understand how much sleep my child needed at what ages also when is the best time for naps ect. We used NCSS to help get tips on how to put DD to sleep without letting her CIO.
Good Luck I cannot give you many more tips as we didn't bedshare full time.
Bless your heart! That is some major sleep deprivation. Since you always bed share, why don't you try laying him down on his own in his room, crib, or whatever. I've heard some people say that once they put their baby in their own bed that they all ended up sleeping better. It's worth a shot!
PP suggestion about babywearing is a good one too. Maybe rubbing, rocking, and patting would help too? Have you brought this up to your pedi in case there could be an underlying issue?
Big E (6) & Little E (2.5)
His naps sound a lot like how DS and DD's sounded when they were trying to consolidate sleep, which was about 3 months for both of them. How many times is he napping? If it's more than 3 or 4 you may have to try to keep him awake a bit longer by running errands, etc.
Also we bedshared with DD for over a year and it got to a point where I had to lay down in bed to nurse her to sleep and then I would slip away if I was still awake.
Once his sleep during the day is consolidated he may sleep better at night. I know that makes a huge difference with DS. GL!