High-Risk Pregnancy

Having a mini- meltdown, advice needed

It's been almost a week since I got put on hospital bed rest and the reality is starting to set in. Although I was on at home bed rest for a month before I felt like I had a little bit of control. I'm upset that I can't go register for my babies, or complete their nursery or wash their clothes and get my home prepared. I know this sounds petty and the most important thing is growing healthy babies but this nesting thing is hitting me hard. Anyone else there or been there? Any advice on how to deal?
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Re: Having a mini- meltdown, advice needed

  • I am right there with you.  I haven't been able to prepare at all for this baby. I am kinda freaking out with everything and we may be moving to a new city after the baby is born if DH gets this job.  I don't have any advice for you, but wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
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  • I totally understand. I have been on hospital bed rest for a little over 2 weeks now and at minimum will be here until I'm 28 weeks (so a little over 2 more weeks) but will not be able to go off bed rest until 34 weeks.

     

    I feel as though I am missing out on enjoying this pregnancy as well and not being able to prepare for the babies arrival. However, I just remind myself if I wasn't here there may not have been anything to prepare for (I know not very uplifting but it works for me to stop and think why i am on bed rest). I'm able to work through the day so that helps pass time and then in the evenings I just try to do something relaxing.

     

    You can get through this! We all can do it. 

  • I haven't been there, but wanted to tell you that I'm sorry you're feeling trapped and like you can't enjoy the pregnancy the way you want. Here are a couple of ideas to help:

    Register online. You won't be able to see the things in person, but at least you'll still be the one picking them out. 

    Choose a color for the nursery and have your partner bring lots of paint chips from Home Depot to the hospital. You can lay them all out and choose the color you like the best. You really shouldn't be the one to paint anyway. 

    This one may sound silly, but ask someone to bring a couple of loads of washed baby clothes to your hospital room. You can sit in bed and fold/hang to your heart's content. Really, the fun part of washing all of the little things is that you get to hold them and imagine what it's going to be like when your baby is there.

    Like I said, I haven't been in your situation, so my ideas might be stupid or not helpful, but I thought I'd throw them out there. I hope that time goes by quickly for you!

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  • Thanks ladies for the advice and commiseration, sometimes it helps just to know that someone else out there gets it! I will definitely be trying those ideas and try to remain focused on the fact that I am in the best possible place for myself and the babies right now.
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