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Coming out of the closet

I know this might not be the best time for this post but it's the best time for me. :)

I have been officially diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We are currently taking a break in TTC, no doctor appointments, no monitoring, no accupunture, no temping no nothing. Just going to live life like we don't have any baby making issues.

It's been pretty tough and I was hoping I would be a full fledged member on this side of the board by now. But it looks like it's going to be a longer road than I thought which sucks. I'm still working on coming to terms with my dx and each time I realize a new part of this tears my soul apart.

If we don't get a BFP during our break then I'll be moving to IUI in Feb followed by IVF if those don't work. I'm going to be starting to look into adoption options and that giant world. Hopefully something will work for us. Until then I'm taking it minute by minute, letting my feelings be what they are and trying to see the great things in life that sometimes are taken foregranted.

I don't want anyone to feel sad or sorry for me. It's not why I posted. I needed to get it out there. IF is scary and isolating and I don't want to feel scared and the need to hide. So here I am in all of my infertility glory! Merry Christmas! :o)

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Re: Coming out of the closet

  • Well I do feel sad for you and I can't imagine how hard it is, esp around the holidays and esp with being a part of this board. BUT - I feel very, very hopeful for you too.  You WILL be a mommy and even though the journey has been and will be a bit longer and harder for you than some of us have traveled...the end result WILL be the same!!!! Hang in there and everyone is here to listen if you ever need to vent!
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  • Well, I'm definitely sad for you but I do admire your attitude.  I wish you nothing but the best of luck, wherever this journey towards making you a Mommy takes you!  And remember, we're here for you anytime!
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    I don't want anyone to feel sad or sorry for me. It's not why I posted. I needed to get it out there. IF is scary and isolating and I don't want to feel scared and the need to hide. So here I am in all of my infertility glory! Merry Christmas! :o)

     

    I so admire you for this part of your post!  It is a really sh*tty thing to go through and it totally sucks.  But seeing my BFF go through it silently and alone for the past 3 1/2 years tears me apart.  I am so hopeful for you and the coming year.  Your attitude is something to be proud of! 

  • I'm so sorry that its been such a long road for you. I hope the next steps in your treatment plan are what works for you. We are definitley all here for you!
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  • Hey D... I wish that you had better news. I know how important becoming parents is to you and YH. You can always be a member of this board.It can be helpful for those TTC as well as those with LO's. I know that it can be painful at times to hear us vent about crying or sleepless nights or teething etc. But just no that one day soon the LO you are meant to parent will come into your life no matter the road you take to find them.

    As a spouse of an adoptee I know how precious that gift and type of family can be.

    You will make a great mommy.

    Blessings to you and the family.

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  • Your positive attitude will carry you far, along with the support of your friends.  Wishing you all the best on your path and that you can find your way at the right time

  • I'm so sorry you're going through this. Like the other ladies said- it seems like you have an awesome attitude! It's great that you guys are open to so many options and 1 of them WILL make you a mommy. Best of luck to you and DH!
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  • Your attitude proves that you will be a wonderful mother to a very lucky child.  I have friends that have been blessed with children through IVF, and others through adoption (4 times over!). 

    Best of luck to you and your husband!

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  • I'm so sorry about your struggles.  I had my oldest son by IUI so I can relate to some of what you're going through.  It's not an easy road.  I wish you the best of luck.  And feel free to vent or stop by here anytime!!
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  • Thanks for all of your kind words and support. I feel very blessed to have such a kind community! :o)
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  • Aiden is an IVF baby. And we are thinking of doing IVF again next year some time. I can kinda relate to what you are going through. You attitude is amazing. Keep your chin up and have faith in your doctors and treatment plan. Always remember if you need anything there are people here.
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  • I am sad that it ended up this way for you instead of finding answers. I admire you for how you've handled your experience to this point. I can only imagine how difficult it's been for you. I wish you peace in the new year. Know that if you ever need to vent or whatever, I'll be there if you need it.
  • I'm sorry it has been such a long road for you.  Your positive attitude shows what a great mom you will be one day.  We are always here for you if you need us.

    I noticed in your siggy that you have endo.  I have it too(I think it was stage 2 or 3 when dx) and was able to have Abby.  I was lucky and conceived her on our break from clomid.  I wish you the best of luck and hope you have the same luck I did. 

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  • Like pps said, you have a good attitude about it.  Hoping for you to have better news soon.

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