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MrsA71010
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Why do people think its ok to
MrsA71010
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tell me what I can and can not do when I am pregnant... Im not even talking about family I am talking about co-workers not even co-workers I would consider friends.
Today at work we had this little buffet/lunch thing, there were shrimp on the buffet... I had not one but three co-workers, two of which were men, question me about eating shrimp telling me im not allowed. First of all I only had TWO shrimp on my plate and I never have heard that shrimp were one of the fish that you were unable to eat especially in small amounts! I felt so uncomfortable and judged that I actually came back to my office and had to look up whether or not I could eat shrimp, which of course it said was fine. WTF!
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Re: Why do people think its ok to
I think those people think they are "helping" you by saying something which it isn't!! Some people don't know how to mind their own business.
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My SIL flipped when I told her I ate deli meat.
It's not like I go to Subway and eat their nasty meat, I go to real deli, where their meat is fresh.
What could possibly be wrong with hot chocolate?!
MH's aunt (who is a nurse) told me to watch my seafood when I had a few shrimp when I was pg with DD. I knew I was fine but she made me so uncomfortable that I didn't eat much of anything for dinner that night. Ugh!
Chocolate has caffine.
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This is what I was wondering as well.
I ate 2 chocolate cupcakes & a brownie.....I'm the worst! LOL!!
My boss asked if I should really be ordering an iced tea due to the caffeine. I said I was on the minimal caffeine plan and she gave me the side eye.
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Thank you everyone for joining me in venting and making me feel better!
My favourite so far is that I shouldn't touch my husband, who is a smoker, unless he's showered/changed his clothes first.
Other than that it's been the usual - sushi, shrimp, hot chocolate. I got a DEATH STARE from someone at work who knows because I had a single can of Coke Monday morning. I'd finished up a shift at midnight and was back in for 8am the next morning. I made the executive decision that one can of Coke was a good trade off for not getting fired for sleeping on the job!
Thankfully DH is pretty chill, and trusts that I'm not going to harm our baby. I told him I would possibly take part in the champagne toast on New Years eve, and he was just like "as long as you're not getting trashed, go right ahead!"
My family is actually the opposite, which is equally annoying.
They thing I should just relax and enjoy being pregnant, and not worry about deli meats, too much fish and eating plenty of sweets during the holidays. I keep telling my mom that I am listening to the advice of my MW/OB. Her response was "have they had kids?" It took all my willpower to NOT say to her "have you gone to medical school?" Even DH later complained to me about how unsupportive and ignorant they were being. Medicine has come a long way since my mom's last pregnancy - 35 years ago, or my sister's 22 years ago!
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ME TOO! Usually I'm the one who will steer clear of certain foods if I'm unsure about it, but my co-workers want me to eat everything in sight!!!! We also had a lunch/buffet at work yesterday with fried chicken, potato salad, pasta salad, potato chips, and an entire table dedicated to cookies/cake/desserts.
I ate the chicken after peeling off the 'fried' part (even though that is my favorite, lol), and then ate the fresh fruit/veggies that I brought in my lunch that day. The entire table of people I was sitting with gave me the "don't starve your baby" talk. I've been really grouchy lately, so it was very difficult to restrain from making a rude comment.
People seem to loose their filters around pregnant women, I've noticed.
Ugh, I get customers at work lecturing me on what I can and can't do. Old men customers... gee thanks random old man.
Some family members gave me odd looks when I had a glass of wine at Christmas dinner last week. I explained that I have at most one drink a week and OB said its fine. If they still want to judge they can get over it, not their baby.
I actually had a colleague (and mother of 3) try to talk me into a glass of champagne when I was 12 weeks! Then she went on to lecture me about reading all of those 'awful' pregnancy books and told me not to listen to anybody and just enjoy being pregnant. I know she meant well, but I really think that mostly she just wanted to drink at lunch!
As for the chocolate/caffeine debate - I don't even care for chocolate all that much but I have been CRAVING it. I've played everything pretty much by the books, but I am definitely a believer in if your body/brain is telling you that it wants/needs it, then there must be a reason. I'd probably have to re-think that theory if I started craving dirt or heroin or something like that, but in the meantime, chocolate pudding is tasting pretty wonderful!
Mine too! They practically shove sweet tea at me when we go over there for dinner. And if I decided (not) to do something, they always have an opinion about how it's ok. I consider myself pretty laxed and even kill about everything, but give me a break if I'm want to limit my caffeine intake and not pig out because I'm "eating for 2," then I think that's ok.
Now my doctor told me just the opposite. She said the concern with deli meat is that people who work in the deli could be touching the soft cheeses and spreading the bacteria to the meat, which is why you should stay away from that stufff. She said anything the comes prepackaged from like Oscar Meyer or Hillshire or from sandwich shops like Subway/Jimmy Johns is perfectly fine.
This is EXACTLY why I haven't yet told my MIL! She's a doctor (not an OB) and think she knows EVERYTHING. About EVERYTHING.
And since I'm not showing yet (I just look fat, lol) I don't have complete strangers bothering me - except today, when I was drinking a mocha in Barnes & Noble, flipping through pregnancy books/magazines, and every woman over 30 in the room was giving me death glares. For all they knew, it could be decaf! (Okay, it wasn't. But that was my only 100mgs of caffeine in a looong time.)
I have been more fortunate than some of you ladies but then it likely has to do with a lack of leaving my home (I was too sick during my first trimester - not that you could tell I was pregnant otherwise) and being unable to now. But I feel you all on that note. I'm a "little naughty" because I'm more of the mind that if I'm craving something there is a reason, but I still do my best to keep anything to moderation. I'm actually doing pretty well in the paranoia dept myself because, "while women have been having babies without regard to many of these instructions/cautions for centuries" I'd just rather indulge my paranoia here and there. Listening to my body has gotten me through life so far so I think I can trust it now!
I also hope that my dear friend who just found out she's preggers doesn't feel I'm "one of those people" that've been talked about here - mostly I'm trying to be helpful and share my own experiences thus far, commenting that they are MY experiences and every woman and pregnancy is different and I try to make it all hey fyi you may or may not want to know this and let it be. But I don't harp on anything, more trying to reassure that if she worries about something or whatever it's perfectly normal.
UGH! I hate it when everyone thinks they can tell me what to do/eat. My DH has been keeping me on a no caffeine/ no fish/ no fast food diet since we found out I was expecting. Before I got pregnant I LOVED seafood, but I ate it only once or twice a week, and I drank one cup of tea daily and an occasional soda. But if I even mention tea or soda or fish or whatever my DH gives me his "are you crazy" look. It is driving me nuts! Especially since my morning sickness has been soo bad and those are the only things that I actually want to eat/drink.
Ive also been craving a beer and I know I should not drink but I just want a cool sip of one but my DH is not having it.
It is torture not being able to eat what I want, especially when my DH or his family are all eating exactly what I cannot have.
Only six more months to go!