1st pregnancy! And Husband is about to deploy :(

tpowers8 · December 2010

My Husband & I just found out we were pregnant a few weeks ago. On our Anniversary actually! He is fixing to deploy in March for 12 months. So needless to say, I will be on my own after he leaves and would love any information anyone can give me. One day I am excited and the next completely terrified.

Christine G · December 2010

Sorry, I have no help in regards to being pregnant while your husband is deployed but I have been through my husband being deployed(no kids at the time). Not sure if this will be the first deployment you have been through or not but if you need someone to talk to just about the deployment please feel free to reach out to me. I know how hard it can be.

NatesWife81510 · December 2010

There isn't much info I can give you. My husband will be deployed after our baby is born to Afghanistan for 12 months and I like you have days that when I think about it, I get very sad and scared on having to raise a newborn on my own. But I have learned that I cannot change it and me getting sad and scared isn't going to help anything, so take each day with your Husband as a blessing and maybe buy one of the home dopplers so your DH can listen to the Baby's HB as much as he can before he leaves.

As far as getting through labor without your DH Hopefully you have a sister or close friend that can be in there with you.

It is not going to be easy, but it is also not easy on your DH either BUT you will get through it, many military wives and families do. Just keep telling yourself that and enjoy the time you do have. Also maybe do some maternity pictures with DH before he leaves:)

LollyO · December 2010

MH is also in the military and has been deployed twice (no kids/pregnancy then), and he's also gone here and there for schools. He'll be leaving in the spring for a few weeks in another country, but that's all that we'll have to deal with. You never know when they have to go. I'm here if you need to talk. PM me anytime. I just need to remember to check it more often!

Is there any way that he could take R&R around the time of birth? I know a friend of mine whose husband did that. Let me know if I can help any.

Jay_Cee · December 2010

I have no advice about the deployment, but I just wanted to thank all of you for being so selfless. I can't imagine how difficult it is to give your husband up for a year to serve our country, especially right after (or before) you two have a child. I really admire each and every one of you.

GracieLou Freebush · December 2010

There's some girls on the Military Families board who have been through or are in the midst of this. They give some great advice and support!

Mrs.Leah.Maria · December 2010

Congratulations and dually you have my sympathy. I'm so sorry for the timing of the deployment.

IOmommy2005 · December 2010

I hear ya girl! My husband is leaving next week for a year. THis is our first year long seperation, but our second child. The first LO he wasnt around for about 5 months. I was in school and close to family so that made it easier. THis time I am about 6 hours from nearest family and have a toddler to chase after.

Just keep yourself busy, hopefully you have some good friends and family close. GL if you need anything let me know! I am in the same boat!

maiken1027 · December 2010

Jay_Cee:
I have no advice about the deployment, but I just wanted to thank all of you for being so selfless. I can't imagine how difficult it is to give your husband up for a year to serve our country, especially right after (or before) you two have a child. I really admire each and every one of you.

This! Thank you for the sacrifices you and your family make.

ashley_marie_1985@yahoo.com · December 2010

We too just found out we are pregnant on black friday. we will be 9 weeks tomorrow! My husband is leavin in three weeks for 6 months, definately not as bad as a year, but still being apart is hard. We are going to try and talk over the phone as much as possible and do webcam and send letters and pictures by mail. I'd say try to keep him in the loop on everything when he's gone, cravings, growth, kicks... all that stuff. Also if your believers, you could do a daily devotional, I am going to email him one everyday, so we are thinking about it together and can talk about it when we do get to talk.

For you, i'd say try to stay calm, you still have a few months before he leaves. Spend time together as husband and wife and daddy and baby. There are ways he can bond with baby before baby is born. Also get a good support group, friends, family, other military board members... GL

MrsI · December 2010

My friend went through this with her first pregnancy. (I don't know if it will work out for you but something to look in to.) Her husband was able to be on the computer with her through the entire labor and on the phone for delivery. They also chose to video tape for his sake. I think timing worked out on their part that he was 'off duty' that day and able to be on the computer/phone but it made things a 'little' easier.

Thank you to you all for your sacrifices, I can't imagine being in your shoes.

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