Vent..anyone else feel this way?

Kittycat196 · December 2010

Anyone else here work full time and not have any help? My Dh and I do not have any relatives near by so it is always just us with our twins. We take turns watching them on the weekend while the other runs errands or sometimes we will all go together.

But most days, especially during the week, there is no time to do anything. We get home from work and the whole night is spend playing with them, feeding them ect and once they go to bed at 8am we are exhausted and I go to bed. My Dh will stay up later getting their bottles ready for the next day.

I feel like I have no time to do anything. Our house has not been properly cleaned for months. Now with Christmas coming up I wonder when I will get a chance to wrap presents and make cookies for our relatives. I will probably end upstaying up to midnight on Xmas eve trying to get everything done.

I am just exhausted.

GiGi1221 · December 2010

Yup, same here... we pick them up at 5, then its dinner, bottle, bath and bed.

then we eat dinner, clean and go to bed. my family is 3 hours away but they are taking them for a weekend so we can clean and baby proof

boshi799 · December 2010

Yes, and I think it is just the life of s twin mom when they are this young. My feeling is that in 20 years I am not going to remember if my floors were clean, the shelves dusted, homecooked meals every night. But I will remember the quality time with my babies (now toddlers!) who will not be little for long. I am super anal about my house, and have really had to let it go (anti-anxiety meds helped in this regard..!).

bellasmom27 · December 2010

Kittycat, our boys are not here yet and we have a 2 year old and no family at all, near or far, NO family and with my daughter my husband and I were all alone. With the boys coming, that'll be 3 kids on our own so you're not alone. We are already thinking of a staying up and feeding schedule between the two of us so we'll be able to function and plan it beforehand. :-/ Hang in there, that's why this board is a blessing b/c the mommys on here with their twins and/or toddlers are very supportive.

RedWingsFan · December 2010

You are definitely not alone. My family is in Detroit and C's family is in Nebraska and Denver, so we don't have anyone nearby either. Our nights and weekends sound exactly like yours - by the time they go to bed at 7:30, we're so tired. One of us cooks dinner, we eat, and then we watch tv or whatever for an hour or two and I go to bed. C makes the bottles every night, but I wake up with them every morning by myself. On the weekends, we either go out as a family or one of us runs errands while they are napping.

It's exhausting for sure.

Two things that have helped us out are that our DCP has watched them for us a few times overnight (we'll just leave them there on Friday and pick them up Saturday morning) so C and I can go out to a nice dinner and meet up with our friends. The other thing is that my mom is only 5 hours away, and she's retired, so if we ever need to do anything, she can usually drive down for the weekend.

Hang in there - everyone says it gets better as they get older - fingers crossed!

Dec31stBride · December 2010

Yes!!! I generally work from home while the kids are all at daycare, and steal some time from work to do stuff, but I still feel completely overwhelmed. I kind of dread weekends too.

Hoping it will get better in years to come.

babydontforget · December 2010

I'm lucky that I do have family near me, but still your nights sound just like mine.

One thing that I've found helpful: The nanny. I opted for a nanny instead of a daycare because of logistics. I couldn't imagine getting the babies up--dressed and diapered, fed, packed into the car and out the door--in time for me to start work on time. And then to have to dedicate my evenings to cleaning up the mess. With a nanny, I get to have a relaxed morning with them because I can pass them off in whatever state they're in when she arrives, and I get to have a relatively relaxed evening because, during the days when they nap, she cleans my house and does my laundry! It's great. For us, too, a nanny was less expensive. (Totally depends on your area, though, and your situation.)

clarku2000 · December 2010

Yup. I get up at 5:30a. By the time I get off work, pick up the girls from daycare, and drive 45 minutes home, I have maybe 1.5-2 hours to feed and play with them before putting them to bed about 8:30p-9p. Then DH & I get to eat dinner and go to bed. I'm exhausted by the end of the day and I've given up making sure my house is clean/organized. There is constantly stuff everywhere and none of it is put away. I have people coming over this weekend, and I'm taking Friday off to make sure I can get the house somewhat presentable before they get here.

ydda · December 2010

My family is 5 minutes away and I feel like this!! I can't ask them for help on weekends or evenings because they are our daycare. On weekends I wrangle the kids and dh works on house projects (we're big do-it-ourselfers and in a remodeling project--stupid timing for a remodel, i know Stick out tongue ). On weekdays, I'm out of the house by 5:30am, home by 5pm. It's like a marathon every evening, getting them fed, cleaned up, to bed, then prepping bottles for the next day. DH is amazingly helpful, but I'm the one doing overnight shifts when needed. Sometimes we eat dinner, sometimes not. My floors haven't been washed in 6 months, I just got my first haircut in 4 months, and I'm about 20 lbs below my pre-pregnancy weight because I'm too tired to cook/eat a real meal (ok...so that's maybe a good thing). I'm living off of veggies and almonds....and coffee! But, all in all, I love it. This is probably it for us, so I'm really trying to enjoy everything...the smiles and the cries.

Spare yourself, and skip making cookies this year! Or just pick some up from a bakery. I'm sure relatives will understand. Go to the dollar store and buy cheap gift bags instead of wrapping things. Don't kill yourself. It's hard to scale back, but pretty soon your little ones will be helping you bake cookies and wrap gifts!
Merry Christmas!!!

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