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Having major anxiety over getting pg again

hellopoppyseedhellopoppyseed
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I thought you ladies might understand my feelings best. My little boys are 363 days apart. They actually had the same due date. That means I have been getting pg on or around December 28th for the past two years. I have been experiencing a lot of anxiety lately and I'm pretty sure it's related to this time of year and getting pg. We want a #3 but not right away. I am EBF and on the mini pill. Last time I got pg while EBF and no AF. I don't trust the mini pill but I don't trust anything. I think we could be abstinent and I'd still have the anxiety. That doesnt make sense but the anxiety is causing me to be a little irrational. I feel like I'm not in control of my body. I feel like it will get pg if at all possible. It's going great with my two boys. I'm just scared. I handled the adjustment to being pg pretty well last time but I did go through all of the feelings that many of us do (like fear and denial and guilt). I don't know if those feeling are bubbling up or what. The anxiety is causing nausea which makes me paranoid that I'm already pg. I've taken 2 tests this month. I'd take more if I had them on hand. If I make it to February without getting pg, I think I will have some peace. I don't know. Anyone experience this?
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Re: Having major anxiety over getting pg again

  • smerkasmerka member
    I clicked on here to pretty much write this exact post.  We are pretty much in the very same boat except I'm a month earlier than you and my boys are 49 weeks apart.  My husband had a vasectomy in June (and the subsequent testing) and yet I still can't shake the fear that I'm going to get pregnant again.  It doesn't help that AF is two days late.  I've only had one period PP so I have no idea what my new normal is going to be.  Totally adding to my holiday stress.  I know it's irrational, but I too can't shake the fear.  Here's to hoping for no new babies (for the time being for you and never again for me)!
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  • hellopoppyseedhellopoppyseed
    imagesmerka:
    I clicked on here to pretty much write this exact post.  We are pretty much in the very same boat except I'm a month earlier than you and my boys are 49 weeks apart.  My husband had a vasectomy in June (and the subsequent testing) and yet I still can't shake the fear that I'm going to get pregnant again.  It doesn't help that AF is two days late.  I've only had one period PP so I have no idea what my new normal is going to be.  Totally adding to my holiday stress.  I know it's irrational, but I too can't shake the fear.  Here's to hoping for no new babies (for the time being for you and never again for me)!
    I completly understand. In fact I'm pretty set on us both having procedures when we are done having kids. Maybe that will help. Hah
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  • jnksmomjnksmom member

    imagesmerka:
    I clicked on here to pretty much write this exact post.  We are pretty much in the very same boat except I'm a month earlier than you and my boys are 49 weeks apart.  My husband had a vasectomy in June (and the subsequent testing) and yet I still can't shake the fear that I'm going to get pregnant again.  It doesn't help that AF is two days late.  I've only had one period PP so I have no idea what my new normal is going to be.  Totally adding to my holiday stress.  I know it's irrational, but I too can't shake the fear.  Here's to hoping for no new babies (for the time being for you and never again for me)!

    I completely understand. We are very fertile people. :)  Mine are 17 month apart but I miscarried between DS and DD and that pregnancy happened while I was on the pill. I then got pg with DD before having a period(after the miscarriage) while using protection.  DH had a vasectomy when DD was 3 months old but I had the fear that I was pg all the time for probably a year. My cycle is very irregular so that added to my stress.

    Just wanted you both to know you are not alone! The fear finally went away when DD was about 18 months old. Hoping for no new babies for all 3 of us!! Wink

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  • CaitlinJ22CaitlinJ22 member

    I think its normal. We TTC DD and got pg really fast and I still have that fear. I wouldn't be opposed to it, but wouldnt want it to happen before shes a year old. I have an IUD and I am worried that I will be in that.2% that gets pregnant and that if I do I will have a miscarriage or have an ectopic. Which makes me sad to think about since I chose to have an IUD.

    I think it will get easier once we all get to the point where we feel more comfortable. Like when your baby is around 6 months you will be happier that you did get pg yet? kwim?

    I dont know if you are doing this, but if I were you I would use condoms and the min pill for a little while. That along with EBFing is pretty sure that you wont get pregnant. Also maybe you shouldnt have sex the week of the 28th =) haha. 

    It will get easier.  

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  • hellopoppyseedhellopoppyseed
    Caitlin- I think you're right. If I make it to 6 months or even 9, I think I'll be ok. Im a third there so that's good. And we talked about me going on the regular pill soon even while bf. And oh yeah! DH knows its not happening that week for sure!
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    imagehellopoppyseed:
    Caitlin- I think you're right. If I make it to 6 months or even 9, I think I'll be ok. Im a third there so that's good. And we talked about me going on the regular pill soon even while bf. And oh yeah! DH knows its not happening that week for sure!

    haha, I think I would abstain for a an extra few days after that just to be sure =)

    Its true though, I am always afraid of getting pg right after  I have my kids and then once I get to 6 months I think, if it happened now I wouldnt be upset...BUT I would rather make it to a year or later.

    Hey I get nervous on the IUD and its equivalent to having your tubes tied (in terms of risk of getting pg). 

    BFing is great, but I also havent had a period yet and that makes me nervous too =) 

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  • TelycoTelyco

    I have an IUD and DH still "pulls and prays"...he is sooooo not ready. I agree with the baby being so young and when #2 is older it won't seem so scary!

    Condoms and abstinence is probably a good idea. :)

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