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DH won't feed LO

KailaF10KailaF10
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I'm BF and pumping, but if I don't have any milk ready and we are out somewhere without a Mommy room I give DS formula.  My DH refuses to feed DS.  I have no clue why and he doesn't have a reason.  First it was bc I'm the one with the boobs and now he just won't do it.  Its irritating bc I have alot of stuff I need to do around the house that I can't get done during the day bc DS is teething and wants to be held constantly.  Does anyone else have this problem?
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  • VermillionsssVermillionsss
    Nope. And that's ridiculous. I'd sit down and have a talk with your H. He cannot refuse to help you with your LO- after all, it took both of you to make him. That is douchetastic and he needs to get a swift kick in the butt, IMO.
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  • mrs.kapowmrs.kapow

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    Nope. And that's ridiculous. I'd sit down and have a talk with your H. He cannot refuse to help you with your LO- after all, it took both of you to make him. That is douchetastic and he needs to get a swift kick in the butt, IMO.

    I have to agree. My H was very supportive of me BFing, but took every opportunity to feed her a bottle when she needed it.  

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  • bancbevbancbev member

    Well I breastfeed and DD only get's a bottle at daycare of if for some reason I am away from her.  I had to go out of town overnight for work and he had to feed her bottles while I was gone.

    Does he give you any reason why he won't give him a bottle?  Maybe he would rather you breastfeed him?

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  • KailaF10KailaF10
    He helps with changing him and clothing him.  Just not feeding...
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  • JJ1973JJ1973 member
    That is really weird and unusual.
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  • GreenieTA11GreenieTA11

    imageVermillionsss:
    Nope. And that's ridiculous. I'd sit down and have a talk with your H. He cannot refuse to help you with your LO- after all, it took both of you to make him. That is douchetastic and he needs to get a swift kick in the butt, IMO.

    This!  DH loves feeding DD!  It's his job as a parent!  Diapers too!  I bf when I'm home but he gives her bottles when I'm at work and occasionally so I can sleep in.  He's never EVER complained!  In fact, he's never questioned anything when it comes to caring for her!

    I would FLIP if I were you!  Douchetastic, indeed!

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  • Violet_McPurplesonViolet_McPurpleson

    Are you kidding me? That is the weirdest and most ridiculous thing I've heard all day (and I read the post about the Christmas eve babysitter).

     Feeding is an integral part of caring for your child, if he can't do that, then he is pretty much useless to your LO. What would happen if you had to go away for any period of time? Would he let your LO starve? Call his mommy to come and feed his baby?

    He needs a come to Jesus talk stat. 

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  • fussbucketfussbucket
    Not only do I not have this problem I have never even heard of such a thing before. What did your H think sticking his wee wee in your noo noo entailed exactly?
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  • RitaT22RitaT22 member

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    Not only do I not have this problem I have never even heard of such a thing before. What did your H think sticking his wee wee in your noo noo entailed exactly?

    It's called a penis and a vagina. We are adults right?

    OP, I agree with most women on here. It is ridiculous. Have you ever left LO alone with DH? What would he do then, let him starve?

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  • KailaF10KailaF10

    HAHA Yes 

    DH will feed DS when I'm not home (which is rarely), but when I'm around he thinks I should have to feed him.

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  • KRISTA555KRISTA555 member

    My DH can't. We made the mistake of buying a crappy pump, so every feeding since birth has been directly from le boob. It's not too big of a deal with this kid, though, because I'm a SAHM and we don't have any friends/family here to babysit anyway.

    However, DH helps in every other way he can. He's a very hands-on dad.

    Could it be that he's intimidated at the idea? Since he's never done it before, he may be nervous? Trying to give him the benefit of the doubt here!

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  • GreenieTA11GreenieTA11

    imagefussbucket:
    Not only do I not have this problem I have never even heard of such a thing before. What did your H think sticking his wee wee in your noo noo entailed exactly?

    Love this! 

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  • doremi29doremi29 member
    Just wanted to throw this out there- just as BF'ing is a huge bonding experience for mommy/baby, bottle feeding can be for daddy/baby as well.  You might want to throw that out there.  I think it's a great, quiet, bonding time for DH and DS when he feeds him.  Also, I'm assuming you'll want your DH to help with feedings when you introduce solids as well?  Your child will need to be fed for quite a while- not necessarily from a bottle/breast- I would definately get this one ironed out quick!!  That should definately not be something that is mommy only.
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  • KailaF10KailaF10
    imageKRISTA555:

    My DH can't. We made the mistake of buying a crappy pump, so every feeding since birth has been directly from le boob. It's not too big of a deal with this kid, though, because I'm a SAHM and we don't have any friends/family here to babysit anyway.

    However, DH helps in every other way he can. He's a very hands-on dad.

    Could it be that he's intimidated at the idea? Since he's never done it before, he may be nervous? Trying to give him the benefit of the doubt here!

    I'm a SAHM too and we don't have friends/family to babysit either since we moved from Columbia, MO to Seattle, WA.  

     I think he's intimidated by the idea because he's only done it once and DS got pissed off and kept using his tongue to kick the bottle out of his mouth.  So I do give him a benefit there because it is frustrating.  

     

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  • bellybabybellybaby
    Before everyone jumps down this poor womans throat why doesnt every mom admit that there are things her husband doesnt wanna help with? So this is his issue, so what! He changes dirty diapers! If all of our husbands were "perfect" this website wouldnt exist!!!!
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  • KailaF10KailaF10

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    Before everyone jumps down this poor womans throat why doesnt every mom admit that there are things her husband doesnt wanna help with? So this is his issue, so what! He changes dirty diapers! If all of our husbands were "perfect" this website wouldnt exist!!!!

     

    TY 

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  • Luigi1Luigi1
    Your husband sounds pleasant.  Indifferent
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  • KailaF10KailaF10
    GUESS WHAT!??  DH was on Christmas break for a week from work and he actually took the time off.  It definitely helped our relationship!  He helped out with DS alot and he fed him a couple times.  He finally told me the reason he didn't want to feed DS is bc he knows how important BFing is to me and if we were to give him a bottle he's afraid he wouldn't take Le Boob anymore.  I realize I could pump, but I hate my pump sometimes bc its like I can't express any milk, but I can squeeze some out... 
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