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BFP after recent MC - Telling Fam

hart0620hart0620
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Hi everyone!

I had a MC about 3 months ago and we decided to tell our immediate families about it since I couldn't travel home for a wedding.  They were all shocked that we were trying but super supportive.

 Now we just got a BFP on Friday morning and want to tell the families about the new pregnancy at Christmas since we won't be home for another 3 months (we're just going with positivity over caution.)

My question is, how do I still get the fun surprised effect when they have all been staring at me expectantly for the last couple months (I told them they weren't allowed to ask for status updates.)

Thanks!

9.20.10 Natural M/C
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Re: BFP after recent MC - Telling Fam

  • Luvmy2sonsLuvmy2sons member
    I think any way you tell them will be exciting again. There's some super creative ways floating around out there on how to tell your surprise. How about making up cards with 1 letter on each that spell "(Your Name) is PREGNANT!" and passing one to each family member and having them assemble them to get the answer. We are teling MIL on Christmas by having her pose for a pic with my DS's, and i'm going to say, "Ok, everyone say, "1....2....3....Mommy's having another baby!" And then snap her reaction. I'm going to do the same with my grandparents :)
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  • heather_09_15_07heather_09_15_07 member

    There's no way to dictate how people respond. I'm sure however you tell them they will be happy for you. Just expect that they may be a little reserved this time, given your history.

    Congrats, btw.

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  • hart0620hart0620

    We had the same thing, my mother was basically asking me for updates on my cycle...which I quickly put a stop to.

     It's good to know they were excited...I think I am most worried about them being like, "well it's about time" since they know we were trying before.  I am probably irrationally worried they won't be excited since it's not much of a surprise. I am also putting way to much pressure on this since it is our first and the first grandchild on both sides.

    Thank you!

    9.20.10 Natural M/C
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  • kermiefrgkermiefrg
    I just went through the same thing actually.  I had an m/c in July and just got my BFP last week.  When we told our parents, I was a little shocked to see that they weren't overly excited.  I think they were so nervous and cautious for us and they didn't want to get excited because of last time.  Honestly, it hurt me a little and I started worrying more after that.  But your family may react differently...I just wanted to give you my story so you have something to think about.
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