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Need help with ceremony...

BeetleLinz1125BeetleLinz1125 member
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I know this is the bump boards, but for some reason I can't get onto the knot, so I was hoping someone would be able to give me some suggestions.

 So my fiance and I finally agreed that we will be getting married on February 25th.  The only problem is that we don't know where we can have a ceremony.  Becuse I am Catholic, they have a 6 month marriage preperation and they will not budge on that, even though I am not looking for a Catholic ceremony. 

I really want us to be married before the baby comes in March, I just don't know what to do at this point.  I think I'm more frustrated that I can't get in touch with him (his phone died, he forgot to charge it last night! grr....) So my question is if anyone has any suggestions for places that will marry us besides the courthouse.  We really don't want that.  His family was never very religious, so they don't have a church that we could turn to.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated...we are looking for places on the north side of Indy, or even Carmel.  We currently live in Lebanon, so even somewhere in Zionsville would work.

 Thanks ladies!

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  • holdn5holdn5
    I just moved from Lebanon to Avon! What is your budget like? Do you want the ceremony  to be at a church or no? I'm catholic, DH is not, we chose to have a non-catholic ceremony at a Methodist church...
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  • MrsJMBMrsJMB
    DH was Catholic when we got married, I converted laster.  We got married in Brown County, so that doesn't help you but if you want a Catholic ceremony eventually you can get your marriage convalidated with the Church like we did.  We did it on Christmas Eve after Mass the year we got married.  No big deal.  Just us, his parents, brothers, and grandparents.  Just throwing that out there in case you wanted to do that in the future.  We're in Greenwood so I'm no help with northside locations.  Good luck!!  
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  • IU_babyIU_baby member
    Are you set on getting married in a church?  If not, you could always do your ceremony at your reception location. 
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  • BeetleLinz1125BeetleLinz1125 member

    I'm ok with a non-Catholic wedding....I honestly want a short and simple ceremony, and there will be less than 15 people in attendance.  Just my parents, brother, his dad and stepmom, his sister, and we are each bringing one friend.  Its just so frustrating that we waited so long to decide this...we are also in the middle of completely renovating our house, and we really wanted to wait to start planning until we moved in, but it looks like it will be mid-January at that point.....we originally thought we would be in by this past May!

    I'm more looking for a place that will perform the ceremony on a short notice that isn't the courthouse, and won't judge us for me being 8 months pregnant at our wedding. 

    We have thought about Brown County, but I honestly don't think his dad and stepmom would travel that far.  She's kinda a piece of work.  But I might look into it.  Any particular place you reccommend?

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    I should also add that our "reception" will be just all of us going out to The Melting Pot for dinner...it's our favorite restaurant! So we won't be having the ceremony there.
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  • uofibabeuofibabe
    DH and I got married outside (at a golf course) and had our reception was at the same location.  DH is methodist and I grew up Cathloic but this choice is what worked best for us.  Have you tried to look up officiants in the Indianapolis area?  That's what we had to do.  I cant for the life of me think of her name - Marilyn something.....If I find her websit I'll post it on here for you.  I'm sure you could maybe rent a private room at The Melting Pot and have a small ceremony with family in there and then have dinner afterwards. 
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  • MrsJMBMrsJMB
    We got married at Hotel Nashville, but it was in May outside.  I know they do inside stuff.  You do have to get your own officiant though.  We used someone from the New Hope Church down there.
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  • SusieDMBSusieDMB

    Are you set on getting married before the baby?  We had a surprise pregnancy, and just got married last month when our daughter was 4 months old.  It actually worked out really well, and people enjoyed getting to see Josie.  It was important to us to have our friends and family there, and I didn't want to be pregnant in all of my wedding pictures.  Plus I had a lot of morning sickness so I would have been miserable.

    Private officiants are expensive--around $500.  Marilyn York is who pp was thinking of, and I've been to two weddings Roger Fecher has done.  Renting churches also isn't cheap either, since that pays for the wedding coordinator and minister and sometimes sound & music people--ours was $900 and that was the member rate.   If you waited a few months a park or a gazebo would be a good option.

    Good luck!

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  • uofibabeuofibabe
    imageSusieDMB:

    Are you set on getting married before the baby?  We had a surprise pregnancy, and just got married last month when our daughter was 4 months old.  It actually worked out really well, and people enjoyed getting to see Josie.  It was important to us to have our friends and family there, and I didn't want to be pregnant in all of my wedding pictures.  Plus I had a lot of morning sickness so I would have been miserable.

    Private officiants are expensive--around $500.  Marilyn York is who pp was thinking of, and I've been to two weddings Roger Fecher has done.  Renting churches also isn't cheap either, since that pays for the wedding coordinator and minister and sometimes sound & music people--ours was $900 and that was the member rate.   If you waited a few months a park or a gazebo would be a good option.

    Good luck!

    Was just getting on to tell you that it was Marilyn York...I could find the cost if you really need it.  I really dont remember it being 500 though for her but she did do a great job for us!

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