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Just found out my SIL is pregnant

DH & I went to dinner tonight with my parents, my brother & SIL.  It was to celebrate my brother graduating from the police academy.  As soon as we sat down my brother grabbed his napkin, wrote "D is pregnant" and handed it to me.  He told me later that he wanted to make sure I knew just in case it came up & that he didn't want it to upset me if I heard it out loud.  I just nodded & handed it back (at the time I wasn't sure if I was "suppose" to know yet). 

I'm very happy for them, but very sad for me.  We've been TTC for 20-months now &  have had 2 losses.  She just stopped taking the pill 3 months ago.  I'm actually sort of surprised that they said anything because I'm guessing she's only about 5-wks along (I didn't ask) & she had an early loss about 5-yrs ago.  We congratulated them when my mom asked if they were going to tell us (as we were leaving the restaurant).  DH joked that maybe D will have twins & we can just take one of hers.

When we got in the car DH hugged me & asked how long I had known.  I told him about her early loss & that I had just found out.  He said "don't worry, our time will come soon" & then we started talking about making a consultation appointment with our RE regarding the 2 m/c & what we should be doing next.

No real point to any of this, I just needed to get it out there.  I feel a little better now :)

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Married 1/2/99.
TTC since 4/09.
Diagnosed PCOS. Diagnosed Hypothryoid 11/09.
SHG & SA normal. PCOS Research study started 5/10.
Clomid/Femara cycle #1 - 6/10 = BFN
Clomid/Femara cycle #2 - 7/10 = BFP #1 - Missed miscarriage 9/2/10
11/12 - BFP #2 - 11/22 - m/c
5/1/11 - BFP #3 - Pre-eclampsia, IUGR & bed rest from 32w. DD born via induction 1/4/12.

Re: Just found out my SIL is pregnant

  • I'm sorry.  Family pregnancy announcements are never, ever easy to hear no matter how delicately the other party tries to present the news. 
    TTC since 3-08 IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12

    FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN

    FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN

    No more frosties

    IVF #2. September 2014

    PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts

    SET November 9, 2014
    Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN

    Not sure where to go from here.

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  • ugh, I agree.  My sister is pregnant with twins...and my bil's sister is preggo too- ugh. 
    ttc since 10-09 first visit with RE 09-10 ME-everything ok DH- AZOOSPERMIA...biopsy confirmed Sertoli Only Cell syndrome Donor IUI#4 was the charm (8-27-11) with 125iuFollistim/Ovidrel/Endometrin/PIO/vit D beta #1 9/8/11....BFP!!! : ) @ 47.7 beta...#2 9/15/11... 1,998 beta#3 9/22/2011- 27,900 Baby's hb seen @6w2d ! 1-3-2012 20 wk u/s everything lookin' good! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • Sending hugs your way.

    Jenn

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    Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10

    BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11

    Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11

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  • I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. You want to be excited for them but it's hard on you too.
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  • (((((hugs))))) I hope your turn is very soon. 
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  • It's never easy hearing about a pg... you just want it to be you!!!  I hope your time does come soon (((hugs)))
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  • i think family pregnancies are really hard =( 
    ::PAIF/SAIF Welcome::

    TTC since July 2008
    IUI 1,2,3 BFN
    IVF #1 C/P, FET 1,2,3 BFN
    IVF#2 BFP

    it's a girl!!

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  • Thanks ladies ((hugs for everyone)). 
    Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
    Married 1/2/99.
    TTC since 4/09.
    Diagnosed PCOS. Diagnosed Hypothryoid 11/09.
    SHG & SA normal. PCOS Research study started 5/10.
    Clomid/Femara cycle #1 - 6/10 = BFN
    Clomid/Femara cycle #2 - 7/10 = BFP #1 - Missed miscarriage 9/2/10
    11/12 - BFP #2 - 11/22 - m/c
    5/1/11 - BFP #3 - Pre-eclampsia, IUGR & bed rest from 32w. DD born via induction 1/4/12.
  • ((hugs)) Im so sorry. Give your self time to work though the feelings on your own. That is one thing I have learned. 
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  • that sucks.  i've been trying for the same amount of time as you and have had cousins get pg during that time but not my sis or sil.  it's hard news to hear and i hope you have success soon!
    TTC since 4/2009 I'm 30, DH is 33
    Stage IV endo on ovaries
    IVF 6/2011- 14 eggs, 12 mature, 6 fertilized, 2 transferred, 0 frosties
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  • In the same boat, :-(.  We were told beforethanksgiving but they were coming out at thanksgiving and telling everyone. so we didnt attend thanksgiving dinner. i hope you have better luck, it increased my depression so much and i cried every single time i though about it.  In the meantime we have had a falling out, I had to bring it up to her somehow that I cant be around when they talk about the "whole pregnancy" thing....but she didnt take it too well. No one understands but us. I was told im being selfish. Lol  id say im real far from selfish at this point.  And again i am overly thrilled im having another neice/nephew, and ill be happy with the lil one is here, i just get real depresed and emotional with "pregnant" people.  I think they started trying for 2 months. Good luck with every thing and i hope you dont have to go thru what i am right now.  My family completely understands but DH bro and the SIL dont.

  • I'm so sorry! It doesn't get easier does it? I think with every announcement- certainly the next one won't sting as much... but it does :( I just want it to be all of us IF'ers turns! GL with your consult. I hope it brings you lots of answers.

    (for Thanksgiving I got a pg announcement from my baby sister. That'll make niece/nephew #18. sigh)

    Married '02, TTC May '05

    Dx -Ute cancer, DOR from cancer treatments, and embryo quality issues. NOV 2010 CANCER FREE
    2005-2011= 3 Rounds of Clomid, 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's- ALL BFN's
    After 7yrs TTC, 5yrs of ute cancer, and 11 failed IF treatments, we got a surprise BFP! So thankful!

    Gemma Grace born 09/30/12

    Phillipians 4:6,7

  • sending hugs.  it's so hard...
    Stopped BCPs December 2008 TTC since June 2009 6 unsuccessful Clomid cycles Dx Annovulatory due to PCOS January 2010 DH-perfect 4 unsuccessful IUIs Began Lupron July 7 for first IVF IVF cancelled; overstimulation and coasting lead to huge drop in E2 New testing with an Endocrinologist...perhaps a new diagnosis... So, not PCOS but Hashimoto's Thyroiditis November 2010 After a looong break, started seeing a new RE. Gearing up for IVF 1.2. Beta 1=197!! BabyFruit Ticker image
  • sending lots of hugs your way.  I hope your time is very very soon.  I know how hard it is too, my bil and his wife are expecting too and due next month.
    I married the man of my dreams June 2, 2007!
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