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daisies916daisies916
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So, for the past 2 years, I've been the one to organize my coworkers and get a gift together for our boss.  This year has been a struggle between us (like- if I didn't HAVE to have a job right now, I'd have quit struggle)- so I'd decided that I will not organize it or participate in it. It seems like no one else is going to do it now. I'm starting to feel slightly guilty, because I know he's probably expecting something.

But dang it, I don't want to feel guilty. He's been a real butt to me (and other co-workers) this year, and I don't feel gifts should be given out of obligation. I know that his feelings are going to be hurt, though, and I don't want to hurt people, either.

So- am I a jerk by not organizing it? Should I just put on my big girl panties and do it, or stick by my original decision and not participate?

 

 

 

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Re: Work ?

  • SoyagerSoyager
    Why don't you just give him a card, just from you? You can write something in it, if appropriate, like, "Perhaps we haven't always seen eye-to-eye this year, but here's hoping you have a fabulous holiday. Here's to a great 2011!" or something along those lines. That way, you have acknowledged his role in your life and wished him well, and then it's on everyone else to do a gift or send a similar greeting. You won't feel guilty and you're not giving in to obligation.
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  • satreecesatreece

    I'm with Soyager.  It seems like you want to do the right thing and you don't want to hurt his feelings, but that doesn't mean you have to put all the work in for everyone else, too.

    It's been kind of a rough year and when I think about the poopy things my bosses have done, I find that I am usually pretty thankful I'm not a boss and having to make those difficult decisions, etc.  That is to say, it's not easy to be a boss.  We all know there are good bosses and bad bosses, but still... I think it's pretty cool that you are still concerned with it and I think a card from you with good wishes is pretty darn nice :)

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  • daisies916daisies916

    That's a good idea! I think it's a fantastic solution for a touchy situation.

    Thank you for your help!!  Merry Christmas!!

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  • Ris1127Ris1127
    I'm all for the card too and if you wanted a gift maybe a tin of cookies as well?
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