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My IL's don't listen
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Every time they ask what we think DS would like, I swear, they don't really listen. For example, I've always told DH or, when she asks me, my MIL that we'd rather not have onesies for DS, because of the woolies we have. Well, I don't think I've ever gotten an outfit with a shirt (and they have been very generous with clothes for birthdays/Xmas, etc).
This year, she asked what toys, etc he'd like. DH wrote back that he loved puzzles, we love wooden toys, etc, etc. She writes back that FIL had seen a toy laptop with games/activities (for ages 4+, mind you - DS turned 2 in Aug) and wondered if that'd be a good gift. I don't know if/what DH told them (we're not thrilled at the idea, as we'd really love toys that got him more active/imaginative play) but both DH and I kind of just scratch our heads.
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Re: My IL's don't listen
My MIL does the same thing.
She insists on getting us a crib for DS.
We've told her we don't need a crib. It won't fit in our room which is where ds will be sleeping for a while. She still insists. We tell her that if we need one in a few months, a friend already offered to give us hers. She continues to insist. DH thinks of more reasons we don't need one. (maybe eventually but right now nope.)
We're really appreciative of her generosity, but if you're going to spend a ton of money on a gift, you oughta get something useful.
She finally gave in and bought us the ergo that was on our registry! (
) Same price range, and I think it'll actually get some use.
Since they asked, I'd make sure to tell them that it really would be too old for him and then again suggest a more appropriate gift.
We have this problem with MIL. She is always buying things DS doesn't need. When he was around 15 months, she got him a 3T coat. He's just now wearing it, as he's always been on the smaller side. Same goes with toys. Not so much things that are too old for him, but things she knows I'll hate. I swear DS has six sets of flash cards. I HATE things with lots of pieces, so thats what she always goes for.
Ugh!
This reminds me of my MIL saying, "Would plastic food be okay?" And me saying, "we'd rather not. We're trying to limit how much plastic she has. The recycled stuff is okay [i.e. green toys]. There's also really cute wooden and felted food." To which she replied, "But some of the plastic stuff is so cute! A little bit won't hurt."
This from a woman who crochets AND knits, who could certainly make her some cute crafted food. Grrr.
She never gives gift receipts--the stuff just shows up every time we see her, with nary a price tag. Some of it I've managed to sneak into the goodwill pile, but most of it is just around. The irony is that DD could usually care less about those toys!
But I made a big Amazon wishlist recently in the hopes that she'll get a clue. It worked for Hanukkah.
snort!
Ditto!
I just got back an hour ago from the IL Christmas celebration. My ILs find something that you like and latch on to it like you will die without it. Therefore, DS got THREE stuffed monkeys all because I did a monkey theme for his birthday. One of the stuffed monkeys needs batteries (which I hate from and EF standpoint not an annoyance standpoint) and it's labeled "3+". He's 16 months. She also got him a MIC Mickey Mouse play set, knowing full well that we hate branded toys and plastic. Mind you, their house is covered with wall to wall Disney crap (think Hoarders-style, I kid you not) so they push Mickey on all the kids.
I got a bag full of I Love Lucy crap, because when she met me I had 2 cats (Lucy and Ricky) and she won't let go of my love for all things Lucy. Despite the fact that this is a love she has created in her own head.
DH got an Animal (from the muppets) ornament and car antenna cover because he plays drums and she's bought him Animal paraphernalia since he started playing. Our car doesn't even have an antenna!
It's a never ending battle.
OMG - this was the situation for YEARS. DH made the mistake of telling them a story about me and moose. The story goes that a friend/ex called me a moose one day after he threw fry at me and I, incredibly startled that at the age of 21 one of my peers was throwing food at me, screeched a bit, and he said "You're such a moose" and walked off - not really a glowing association. For years and years, I got all things moose for Christmas... I'm not sure why it finally stopped, but THANK.GOD. They are far from my favorite creatures - association aside. I'm pretty sure all of that stuff is now out of the house.