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BrendaK
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Well... change in plans.
BrendaK
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DH lost his job. We shouldn't have been completely surprised, since it started as a temp job, but he'd been there about a month longer than the temp contract (which was already a three-month extension of the original contract), all signs were leaning towards making him permanent, and he was working hard with management to implement new design software (he was one of the ones that initiated it). So, yeah, it sort-of came out of no where. Plus, they decided to keep the other two temp employees they had. So, yeah... DH is pretty heartbroken - he really, really liked the job and his coworkers. They wouldn't really give him a reason why - just said that they only had two of the temps in the budget.
A week before Christmas with no advance notice. Classy.
Looks like he's back to being a SAHD for a while.
I don't know how Paige is going to handle it. She loves her daycare. She's made some really good friends (she even talks about them on the weekends). She loves having a big gym full of toys and other kids to play with, and we love that she has tons of activities all day. So I'm not sure what we're going to do. Truthfully, this is the part that breaks my heart the most. I'm already starting to look for mom's groups, and hoping they'll let a dad in. Unfortunately, there's not much around here, but I've found a couple on meetup that I've contacted. Fingers crossed.
Anyway. We're going to completely change our plans for rooms. Our house has two bedrooms in the back - right next to each other - that are currently our bedroom and Paige's bedroom. We have one bedroom in the front, next to the living room and off the dining room, that's currently an office. We were going to make the front bedroom LO#2's room, since I prefer to nurse in the living room - we figured it'd be less disruptive for Paige. Now that Larry and Paige are going to be home all day, and we mostly play in the living room, we think it'd be harder for LO#2 to nap throughout the day with an active little 2-year-old in the next room.
So... the office is going to become Paige's room, and Paige's room is going to become LO#2's room. It'll be good for DH to have work to do while he's home. :-)
I painted the office on Friday (before we found out), so now we get to repaint it. Boo. But, I think it'll work out better. :::think positive thoughts:::
Anyway, we're not as distraught as we were the last time DH lost his job when we were pregnant (because we know we can handle it!), but T&P for divine guidance would still be appreciated. I'm determined that we can make it work on one income (we had unemployment last time, so we'll be tightening down a lot more), and praying that DH will have all the patience in the world to be a SAHD for now.
Anyway... T&P would be appreciated.
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Re: Well... change in plans.
Oh Brenda I am so sorry, what horrible news right before Christmas.
T&P's for you and Larry. ::hugs::
What terrible news to get this close to Christmas! They must have no heart.
If you all were in Indy I would definitely welcome your husband to my mom's group. It seems like there are a lot more SAHDs out there than it seems, it's too bad there aren't more organizations for them like there are for moms.
T&P.
Sending many thoughts and prayers that Larry finds a job super quick and that everything works out for you guys. If you need anything you know how and where to find us.
Hugs, Sue and Jon
I'm sorry Brenda. T&P!
T&P your way.
I'm sure the mom's groups will welcome Larry with open arms. I don't know what you have in your area, but Isabella loves the mall play area here as well as Snapperz and Monkey Joe's type places. They usually have a toddler area. You could also check for Mom's Time Out programs, Parent-Toddler preschool programs, or toddler dance/gymnastics. Some preschools will start as early as two years old. Also check out your local YMCA or community center. I'm sure you can find a lot of activities Paige will love. Some will of course have fees, but often times they are less than you'd think, and certainly less than the cost of daycare.
Oh no, Brenda. I am really sorry. I mean, obviously it sounds like you guys have a great attitude about it, but I know you were really hoping that the situation would become permanent.
Your plan for the rooms sounds perfect, and makes total sense.
I'm thinking about you guys - I wish there was some kind of way I could help! Oh, and Paige will be absolutely fine at home with Larry
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T&P for you!
My high school BFF lives in Goshen and SAH with her son (18m old). I can check with her and see if she does any mom's groups. She definitely wouldn't have an issue with a SAHD.
Ugh...so sorry. It's sucky to have your spouse lose his job when you're pregnant.
Sounds like you are at peace with it, so good luck. You guys will be fine!!
Ugh, Brenda, I'm so sorry. ((big hugs)) to all of you.
If you haven't repainted already, you might not need to. Ben started daycare at 12 weeks, and slept like a rock through other babies crying and jabbering and the noise from the toddler room that was right next door. Babies tend to be able to sleep through noises they are used to.