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Another horrible experience at Christmas party

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we weren't at the party for 2 mins and DH's cousin came over to me asking how i was feeling and if I was getting sick at all. she kept looking at my nonexistent belly, so exicted for me. 

i said, no i had a m/c, and she was very apologetic. but all i was thinking was how can this be happening to me? i tried so hard to be strong just to go to this family party and this is what happens to me.  ??? WTH???

why didn't the person who told her I was pg tell her that i m/c'd? it threw me threw a fvcking loop. i didn't know what to do. i went and got DH and brought him outside and told him what happened. i was hysterical. crying. heartbroken. DH was very understanding and we got out of there early.

i dont understand. i was doing really well the past few weeks. why did i breakdown like that?

im so sorry that a lot of you girls went through the same thing recently. i was reading through the earlier post and this happened a couple of times. i wish we all just stayed home and didn't have to go through that. it really stung. Crying 

 

 

 

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Re: Another horrible experience at Christmas party

  • PachitaPachita member

    So sorry you had to go throught that. I think almost all of us had a similar experience.  It really sucks. 

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  • MandaS08MandaS08 member
    I am sorry! I think unexpected things like that are the worst-you can't prepare yourself (and something similar happened to me at thanksgiving) (hugs)

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  • EricaK28EricaK28 member
    Hugs I am sorry she said that to you. I had someone rub my stomach and congralate me after the miscarriage. The person who told her should have told her you had a miscarriage.
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  • opalloveropallover
    I'm so sorry you are going through this. Sorry we all have to go through it. I agree, why didn't the person who told her that you were expecting not also tell her about your loss? I am so sorry.
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  • mandy6418mandy6418
    I'm so sorry that happened to you. It seems like a lot of us had a sh!tty weekend. I just want to go to bed and stay there until the holidays are over. :::HUGS:::
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  • pumpkinhead4pumpkinhead4 member

    sorry :( that sucks! it's SO awkward and uncomfortable! I had it happen in Nov. Someone asked me if I was "still" pregnant and I said "No." Then I yelled at my mom and said "if you tell people I am pregnant then please also tell them that I am no longer...". ARGH.

    Feel for you! hang in there. someday they will ask and you WILL be pregnant :)

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  • butterfly843butterfly843

    ((hugs))

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  • LilMaggsLilMaggs member
    *hugs*  People really need to remember to un-tell people they've told.  I blew up at my MIL for this exact same thing.  From now on, I tell her nothing because she refuses to untell anyone.
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  • Nicks10Nicks10
    So sorry you had to go through that.  You can be doing fine for a while, and then you're blindsided and suddenly it's like you're back at square one for a moment.  It sucks.  Hope after you left you were able to just go home and have a quiet night.  
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  • Izabella22Izabella22 member

    imageNicks10:
    So sorry you had to go through that.  You can be doing fine for a while, and then you're blindsided and suddenly it's like you're back at square one for a moment.  It sucks.  Hope after you left you were able to just go home and have a quiet night.  

    This exactly. 

    Plus I've decided that holidays+ignorance+loss = big fat fail.

    We should all be allowed to hibernate till its over. Or at least avoid all sorts of contact with people who might say something hurtful, intentional or not, it still hurts. *HUGS*

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    {{{HUGS}}}
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  • ValcoValco

    I am so sorry you had to go through that. It was really insensitive that no one warned her. I wish we could all have a little force-field around us to prevent ignorance!

    This happens to me frequently and it feels like just when you're having a better day or two- bam! - something punches you in the gut again.

    Married - 09/26/2009 BFP #1 - 01/17/2010 EDD - 09/10/2010 M/C - 02/03/2010 at 8 w 5 d D&C - 02/13/2010 at 10 w 1 d BFP #2 - 07/14/2010 EDD - 03/27/2011 Luke stillborn - 11/11/2010 at 20 w 4 d BFP #3 - 03/16/2011 EDD - 11/27/2011
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