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My doc says 35 is no big deal TTC.

amramr
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At my last doctor appt (yearly exam) I asked my doctor about waiting to TTC.  I was 33 at the time and just turned 34 in Sept.  My DH just isn't ready to TTC yet, but I am.  I wanted to know the risks if we waited another year.  He made it sound like it wasn't that big of a deal.  He said there was no magically thing about 35. I just feel like what if we have issues that take a year++ to conceive.  Sure we are both healthy but who know until you try right?  Maybe I am worrying too much which I tend to do.  Or should I see another doctor?

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Re: My doc says 35 is no big deal TTC.

  • cariboucaribou

    While our window of 'opportunity' is smaller than someone who is 5-10 years younger  the risks are only slightly higher...in otherwords, nothing to stress out over.

    Plenty of women in my family got pregnant in their late 30's early 40's without a problem and that was 40+ years ago.  It hasn't been quite as easy for me but I'm 99% sure, knowing how my body works (or doesn't) that I would not have gotten pregnant any easier 10 years ago.

    I've heard of Dr's telling a 30 year old healthy woman they better get going on having babies before it's too late, which is ridiculous.  I would not switch Dr's I'd be happy that he was being positive.

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    There IS no magical thing that happens at 35. People's reproductive systems age slightly differently from person to person. In truth, your ability to conceive starts to decline starting in your late 20s and continues along a curve throughout the rest of your childbearing years.

    What he's trying to say is, your ovaries won't magically stop working at 35, you still have some time to TTC, and don't give yourself an articifial timeline just because of "what ifs".

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  • PeskyPesky member
    Ditto dr.loretta -- it's not a magical date.  And it's better to pick some time that works for you both than force the issue.  Even if you did have issues, odds are you would move through the process faster.  Or you may have no issues and end up pg quickly.  You never know.  Talk about your concerns with your DH though and see if you can get on the same page.  DH and I had the conversation about that and he was willing to try a little earlier than we had planned.


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  • NewMrs07NewMrs07 member

    I agree with pp. Of course it's easier to get pg at 25 than at 35, but you still have plenty of ovulating months after 35. I've seen women have IF issues at 20 and at 40, so being younger doesn't necessarily mean you're good to go. I like your doc's attitude, he's a keeper! It's a personal decision, if you feel like you should start now, then go for it. Jobs will always be there and that's what maternity leave is for. I know mothers with 4 kids that also have successful careers.

    GL!

    Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
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  • heather_09_15_07heather_09_15_07 member
    ditto all pp. In addition, you and DH need to be in agreement on when to ttc. GL.
    2 girls and a dog
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  • StayingPositiveStayingPositive
    imageamr:

    At my last doctor appt (yearly exam) I asked my doctor about waiting to TTC.  I was 33 at the time and just turned 34 in Sept.  My DH just isn't ready to TTC yet, but I am.  I wanted to know the risks if we waited another year.  He made it sound like it wasn't that big of a deal.  He said there was no magically thing about 35. I just feel like what if we have issues that take a year++ to conceive.  Sure we are both healthy but who know until you try right?  Maybe I am worrying too much which I tend to do.  Or should I see another doctor?

     

    Yep, my doc said the same thing. He said, 35 was written down in the books a long time ago and he is  a high risk doc who does not consider a woman to be "high risk" until 38. He said, "don't let the number 35 scare you." I had my first one at 35 and got pregnant the first month  trying. I know we are lucky and I was so scared that it would take forever. If I had known, I would have waited a couple months since we were newly married. I also got pregnant the first month TTC with my second child, I only tell you this so that you are not worried like I was. You never know. Good luck and follow your heart.

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  • BluesmootheeBluesmoothee

    35 is just a number, the risks of chromosomal defects do increase as you get older.

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