Saying Goodbye

yeliza h · December 2010

The moment I found out that I was pregnant, I said that I was going to document my journey the good a the bad. I wrote an entry called "Saying Goodbye" and some how it really help. https://yelizah.blogspot.com/

Writing has always made be feel better. I am no longer crying 24hrs a day, but now I am probably down to 12hrs a day.

Yesterday I went to the mall to get some clothes that fit for work. I lasted longer than I expected, 1 1/2hrs of pregnant women and newborn babies! Of course I saw someone from work who said "Wow you had the baby!" Yes....I had the baby at 5 months....Dummy. No I didn't actually say that but I sure thought it.

I think about my beautiful daughter every single day.

fireflies0306 · December 2010

Hi-I just wanted to let you know that I know where you are--I my little boy died at 21 weeks--we found out about 2-3 days later at a normal appointment. While I was home recovering from the d & e, and I began writing his story. I finished it last sunday--7 pages. but it does help, and whenever i'm sad, or just reflective i pull it up. how did you create a blog? i want family to read it if they want, but not to email it to everyone!

but i know what you mean about buying clothes that fit--the friday before my d&e my mother in law took me into target to get some sweatpants and tops to wear...last weekend i went by myself to buy pants for work--and it was so incredibly tough! but that is so good for you and i wish i could have helped you through the mall. i am finding the more i talk about it, and am honest, the easier it is getting. i don't think we'll ever not go a day and think about our LO's...but i'm hoping the memories will just get sweeter, and not hurt as much! (and btw one of my students who didn't know did say that to me my first week back...and i did have a sarcastic reply--but instead i just said the baby died...they were speechless. i do feel sorry for those that make that blunder and say things about where's the baby, what happened to teh baby bc they feel so awkward after. but its not about making them feel better!)

i am thinking of you, and if you need to chat, or vent, i can listen. sharing is a powerful tool in healing!!!

thinking of your little girl too--she is playing with my little boy right now!

{{{hugs}}}

yeliza h · December 2010

If you go to www.blogger.com you can sign up for an account. You can choose what background and font you want. It is actually easier than it looks.

Thanks so much for your support. It is just so hard at times...

fireflies0306 · December 2010

I know--these are the darkest days i've ever been through--thank you for sharing your story about your little girl--and you mentioned some very true points. i truly do believe that unless you go through this personal hell, you really don't understand what it feels like or how to respond. that's why i know i'm on this board alot. and i am fortunate to have a couple of friends that have been through this too. and any time you want to talk, i'm here to listen. but if you don't, that's okay too.

{{{big hugs}}} we will forever be changed by this, but we will get through this, somehow...all of us will!

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