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SIL thinks being KU is great...(vent)

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My brother's wife works with DH.  She apparently had some nausea this week and another co-worker asked if she was pregnant.  She said, "I don't know, but wouldn't that be great!"  DH spoke up and said, "If you are, don't tell Kelly (me), because she will kill you!"

Let me give you a little background on my B and SIL.  They got married 3 months before us.  They found out they were pg on our wedding day, so they have a 21 month old daughter.  I adore my niece, but here's the kicker.  B was unemployed for almost a year and SIL didn't work because he made so much money. While they were unemployed, they still ate out 3 meals a day, they both smoke, and they have a terrible Starbucks addiction.  SIL started working with DH in September and B got a job in October.  They cannot pay their bills; their water, electricity, and phones have been cut off just this month.  However, they still eat at restaurants 3 meals a day, smoke, and drink Starbucks coffee!  They also received an eviction notice to pay $2k or get out. Why does she think that another baby would be "great"?

Also, her sister has suffered numerous losses. She knows that another child would be a knife to the heart for me and her sister.  I pray for that LO's sake that she is not pregnant.  I would love it, regardless of my situation, but it's just a really rough situation.

I hope I did not offend anyone with this post.  I don't believe you need to be a millionaire to reproduce, but a stable home life is required.

Thanks for reading my vent...it feels good to get it out!

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  • PachitaPachita member
    Sorry you have to deal with that!

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  • LilMaggsLilMaggs member
    You don't need to be a millionaire, but you do need common sense.  Money management skills are critical.  It's not what you have that matters, it's how you use it.
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Hope she isn't ku.

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  • jenniann87jenniann87 member
    I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I do agree with you too that you dont need to be a millionaire but you do need to have common sense and a stable home both financially and emotionally. {{{HUGS}}}
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  • Gilgenbach2007Gilgenbach2007 member
    Sorry you have to deal with them.  Some people just have no clue about life in general. 
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  • bryanandkatrinabryanandkatrina member
    Ugh - so sorry you have to deal with that ((((hugs)))) ditto to the common sense needed comments, sadly some people just don't have it.
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  • MandaS08MandaS08 member
    I am sorry! I totally understand. my sil had our niece 20 months ago-she was an oops and SIL has no contact with the dad, no job and lives with MIL-if she got pregnant again I would kill her!

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  • EricaK28EricaK28 member
    I am sorry. I hope your SIL is not pregnant.
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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    Ugh. I'm sorry Sad I know how you feel. My friend's little brother (also my little brother's friend) got his gf KU after a few weeks of dating. She's 19, he's 24 and can't pay his bills... his condo is being foreclosed on. They are ecstatic. Seriously?
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  • kmountkmount member
    THat is so frustrating... 
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