Advice Needed (re: parents' furbaby)

vflipo · December 2010

My parents' dog got hit by a car tonight and sadly didn't make it. He died in my step-dad's arms I don't know what to do. It's just so sad. He's been in the family for a couple of years and he brought so much joy to my parents. He was such a good dog. I'm just so heartbroken for them. My mom blames herself for not putting him on the leash when she knew the gate would be open. My step-dad blames himself because he was going to take the dog with him to pick up my sister when it all happened. I just don't know what to do. I loved that little pup so much. They are so devastated. I never see my parents sad.

Do I get them something? A card? Some sort of keepsake? I just have no idea Sad I want to do something for them though.

rock-elle · December 2010

Crying I am so so sorry V Crying

IMO, they are going through a loss of their own, when we were experiencing a loss, what are things that we liked just afterwards? A nice rememberance card or figurine (or ornament or whatever,) someone to check on us sporadically, a little baked something or other.

Thats my advice, draw off of your experiences with loss and what would you like? You are so sweet to want to do something, I would just die if anything happened to my furbaby Crying

SoulfulWhim5862 · December 2010

I think a nice card (Petsmart has some nice pet sympathy cards) would be a good idea. I second the Ornament...you might even be able to get a custom ornament with the pets name on it as well.

Ryan&Kristin062009 · December 2010

That is so sad

I am sorry they are blaming themselves too

I would probably get them a card, or maybe even a Christmas ordament with the dogs name on it. I know it's early and some people don't want reminders though.. so tough

Shemico · December 2010

I'm sorry for your parents loss. Furbabies are babies to those who love them.

My usual for a friends loss of a furbaby is to make a donation to our local shelter in the animals name. Our humane socitey will send a sympathy card to the family acknowleding the memorial gift.

magdalina.h · December 2010

I'm so sorry. What helped you when you were grieving? I know that I would like a memento and/or a card.

Aubs13 · December 2010

I agree with PPs about the card. PetSmart and Hallmark have really nice ones for the loss of a pet.

I also agree with the ornament or momento....but I worry a "replica" of the dog might be a bit rough right now. Could you get them something that memoralizes the dog, but doesn't look just like it? That's just me, though...your mom and step-dad might be okay with it.

I'm so sorry. The loss of a pet is so difficult.

vflipo · December 2010

Thanks for the advice ladies. I just hate seeing them cry

we will probably go with a card and some baked goodies tomorrow afternoon.

Scout05 · December 2010

That is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.

A card is a very nice gesture, for now. And just be supportive and loving - losing a pet is a pure grief, sometimes I think more pure than losing people. Because with people, there's all the emotional baggage to wade through. With pets, it's just saddness and loss. And often that grief isn't given the weight it should be given, you know?

kndeckar · December 2010

vflipo:
Thanks for the advice ladies. I just hate seeing them cry we will probably go with a card and some baked goodies tomorrow afternoon.

I think this would be a perfect idea.

I am sooo sorry for your parents' loss. Man this post just made burst out in tears....ugh I can't imagine what they are going through. It is so hard to lose a pet just of old age, but to lose it in the way they did is just terrible. ((hugs))

cekelly11 · December 2010

I am so sorry ((hugs)), my parents just had to put the family dog to sleep last week. My mother keeps telling me about all the sympathy cards they have gotten and how much it means to them so I agree with PPs that a card would be nice. I also saw some nice silver(probably not real) frames in the shape of a dog bone at target, maybe something like that so they can display it when they feel ready. We also got my mom the dog charm for her pandora bracelet for christmas.

Clerk9 · December 2010

I am SO sorry for your family's tragic loss! ((BIG HUGS))

Shemico:
My usual for a friends loss of a furbaby is to make a donation to our local shelter in the animals name. Our humane socitey will send a sympathy card to the family acknowleding the memorial gift.

In addition to a card, I think this is a really nice idea. At the last clinic where I worked, we would make a donation in the name of the family/furbaby who'd just passed away, & there were SO many appreciative family members.

Whatever you decide, I'm sure your parents will appreciate your kind thoughts. Again, I'm SO sorry.

denalea · December 2010

My boss just had to put his dog down. He was very touched that his kids sent him a card. So much so that he showed it to me. I would send a card and let them know that you know how special their pup was and how much he'll be missed.

I'm so sorry!

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