Anyone lose a twin and still carrying the other one?

Lithgirl · December 2010

I'm wondering what the chances of losing one twin in the first trimester after seeing a strong heartbeat? Is it the same as that of a singleton? (We've been there, and hoping we don't have to go down that road again.) If you're pregnant after losing one of the twins, what symptoms did you have, if any? Was it expected (low heartrate) or unexpected? My doctor says things look very good for me (I'm currently 6 weeks 4 days - saw two heartbeats this week), but after having a missed m/c at 10 weeks before (discovered on Christmas Eve) I'm starting to get anxious about that upcoming date.

etoyama · December 2010

I'm sorry that you're feeling stressed, and I'm sorry for your previous loss. I'm afraid I don't have any experience with what you're asking, but try to remember that just because something happened once does NOT mean it will happen again. I'm sure it feels that way, but try and take comfort in the fact that you saw two strong heartbeats. That is a very encouraging sign!! Hang in there, hon.

mdluv21 · December 2010

I am not sure how it all works but right now my doctors are very concerned about one of the babies. (S)he is measuring behind the other and had a lowish heart rate at my last u/s. I had a very bad bleeding episode caused by a SCH though and if I do m/c the one baby it would be because of that. The doctor told me the other baby looked great and there absolutely no reason to think even if Baby B didn't make it that Baby A would have any issues. So yes it is possible (I think this is only when they are fraternal twins.)

If you saw two strong heartbeats and have not had any terrible bleeding episodes there is no reason to think that anything is wrong with either of your babies. I am sure when you have had a previous m/c it is always very scary though.

cara-n-steve · December 2010

I'm so sorry for your previous loss. I've only had an early loss and my only symptom in the beginning was bleeding, which for some people can be very normal. I really don't have any experience with losing a twin, but I just wanted to let you know we're here for you!!! If you saw two strong heartbeats, I would try (even though its hard) not to worry right now. When is your next u/s?

CarrieB. · December 2010

I'm sorry for your previous loss, but with two strong heartbeats sound great. Try not to worry.

Our situation is a lot different, because we knew from the first ultrasound that there was a chance for loss. When we went in at 7 weeks with the RE, we were pg with triplets- Baby A (fraternal) and Baby B and C (identical). Baby A looked perfect.

However Baby B had an unmeasurable heart beat. The RE thought that there was a good chance that we could lose Baby B, so we went in to see the MFM the following week. At the MFM, we found out that whatever had happened to Baby B had effected Baby C as well. They had both stopped developing. I never had any symptoms or bleeding in connection with the loss.

But Baby A is still perfect and we can't wait to meet her in May!!

Lithgirl · December 2010

Thank you all for your responses and support. My next u/s is scheduled for the 23rd, but I think I'm going to change it. Since the office isn't open the week after Christmas, I think I'll schedule it for Jan 3rd. I really don't think I could deal with another crappy holiday if the news is bad on the 23rd. I'll keep you posted.

KiKiGee · December 2010

Hi...

I'm really sorry for your loss and am sending all my best to your two!

Unfortunately, my story is not as positive... we had two right on track growth wise and both with very strong heartbeats and found that we had lost one at about 10 weeks. It was very hard. I had no symptoms/signs whatsoever and had no prior losses so it really shook me.

I REALLY hope this doesn't happen to you, and I'm not trying to be a downer, but after we saw the heartbeats for the second time we felt safe and told our parents (who knew about our IVF) and even some sibs, and Aunts/Uncles because we were visiting them out of the country at the time and wanted to tell them in person. I really, REALLY wish we hadn't done that because the untelling was really hard, and now I have some weird fear that our now-single guy will someday hear of this and feel somehow "less" ... probably irrational, but... ?

Anyway... best of luck to you. We are all rooting for your little ones!

Temp984666312503071 · December 2010

Just lurking but thought I would answer.

First, I would encourage you to try and not worry about things you can't control. I know it is hard. I have experienced loss and know how it clouds pregnancy. But you can't plan for everything that could go wrong... we are all different.

To answer your question... Yes, I was pregnant with twins, lost one a little over 10 weeks and then carried my DD to term. My surviving twin is now an active crazy toddler.

Losing my twin was totally unexpected. We had ultrasounds at 6,7, and 8 weeks - all yielding two very healthy and strong heartbeats. We went to a routine OB/GYN appt at 10 weeks (I graduated from the RE after my 8 week scan) and when she did the routine u/s my "Baby A" didn't have a heartbeat anymore. "Baby B" looked great and ended up doing just fine.

I had also had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks in a previous pregnancy so it was always in teh back of my mind that I could lose a twin. It was devastating when it actually happened. But you can't control this stuff.... I hestitate to even post this because of how it might make you worry more. Know that the odds are in your favor, what happened to me was not something anyone expected and it surprised my RE very very much.

Good luck! I hope you have a long, happy, healthy twin pg.

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