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S/O DHs and 1-on-1 baby time
How long is the longest your DH has gone alone with your LO?
Timm has spent 48 hours with Karter two times and spent three nights alone with her on three different occasions. He likes it and encourages me to ho out. So does that make him a good daddy and me a bad mommy? Haha.
And, alternatively, how many nights have you spent alone with LO. And what is the longest amount of time you have spent alone with LO?
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Re: S/O DHs and 1-on-1 baby time
Ummmm, a little Freudian slip here? lol
I think the longest he has spent is just a few hours here and there. I've been alone with her for 9 nights when he traveled abroad awhile back. Every once in awhile I get a long stretch alone with her and it kinda sucks to have no break whatsoever. I think I'm looking at another 5 or 6 nights by myself coming up very soon.
I think you getting time to go out and be your own person doesn't make you a bad mommy, it actually probably makes you a better mommy since you probably come back refreshed and ready to spend time with her. I just feel so burned out a lot of the time.
I feel like I need to just get a hotel room by myself for a night so that I can sleep all the way through the night without having to hear a LO make a peep and then sleep in till the cows come home! I need to hurry up though and do this before #2 shows up!
The longest DH has been home alone with C is about 5 hours during the day. The longest i have been with C is about 12 hours or so I would say. Neither of us have been gone over night or left town so we haven't really needed to be gone for longer than a work day. We are starting to try to adjust C to be more comfortable with DH for long periods of time and other people as well so we can go out.
We were actually going to be leaving C tonight for our first night out without baby to go to my work's christmas party, but since DH had his back surgery, we had to cancel. hopefully that day will come soon so we can spend a little alone time.
I'm lucky because Mike thinks it is no big deal having both kids by himself. The longest I have been away was last December when I was away for 3 nights. I work saturday mornings and he takes Maddie to dance class, and runs errands with both kids and thinks nothing of it.
The longest Chris has ever been alone with Phoebe is 3 hours, when I went to Harry Potter. The longest he has ever been alone with Rowen is maybe 8 hours. Maybe. I usually am there and the one time he took him to his parents house for the weekend and I didn't go with he had his parents there the entire time.
The longest I have been alone... well he was in Afghanistan for 2 months after Phoebe was born. But before that he lived in Puerto Rico, Chicago, and Oklahoma (for work) while I raised Rowen in Wyoming for 3 years pretty much completely on my own.
I don't mind being by myself with the kids. In fact when he's home too long I start asking him when he's going back to work. Its not that I don't love him and don't love when he's home he just throws everything off. Rowen gets so excited that he's home and starts acting crazy and won't mind. He isn't around them all that much on his own so he really don't know what to do with them. I ran to the grocery store the other day and when I got home I realized Chris had to change Phoebe's diaper when I was gone because she kinda had one on her. I say kinda because if I had picked her up without her pants on it would have fallen off. I think the cloth confuses him.
You're very lucky to have a husband who helps out so much. I'm jealous! 
Jordan was "Mr. Mom" for 10 months (during the time he was laid off), so he was home with her all day while I was at work. He has never had her alone overnight before though.
I don't think I have ever spent a night away from Sophia without Jordan. We went on a week long cruise when she was 6 months and she has stayed the night at MIL's twice since then...but I was always with Jordan.
When Lil Miss was 2months and I was hospitalized for mastistis, DH fully took care of her. He even took her to a check-up solo that week. It was 2 1/2 days, plus he did most of the 'work' leading up to it and while I recovered. So that was the longest and it included several overnights.
Like Timm, he encourages me to have 'me time.' Recently I had a sleep over at my moms just because I was feeling run down. It was kinda obvious Lil Miss and I needed a lil breather from each other, lol. So after a family dinner and playtime, he took her home and I went to sleep. Early. And slept late. And drank my coffee all by myself. Those 12 hrs totally rejuvenated me.
I will say, we still refer to it as him babysitting. I know that annoys some people, becasue it shouldn't be babysitting when it is your own child, which we agree. But it is pretty rare among the people we know, so thats just how it comes out.
DH went from a 5 day to a 4 day workweek. So he spends every Friday with Sam. He's never been alone with him at night though, I can't get myself to stay overnight somewhere without Sam yet,
DH however, already spent 3 days-2nights on 2 different occasions abroad for a business trip, so I have spent quite some nights on my own with Sam.
DH really enjoys his time with the LO and on Fridays he keeps texting me what Sam does and how proud he is of him!
~Kimberly & Eric~ April 21, 2008 ~Tensing Pen ~ Negril, Jamaica ~ My Blog: One Sunset at a Time
~Kimberly & Eric~ April 21, 2008 ~Tensing Pen ~ Negril, Jamaica ~ My Blog: One Sunset at a Time