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How would you handle this?

madwc08madwc08 member
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This in regards to the lady that watches our little one. 

My DH was supposed to let our sitter know I would be 15 minutes late yesterday to picking our LO up- but he forgot to tell her and she was upset with us.  We had some bad weather yesterday and it took longer than planned to get there.  On my way there, I get a text from her saying "So you will be here at 12?  I was expecting you at 11:45"- I replied "I am sorry, I am doing the best I can to get there".  I also immediately called, told her about the weather conditions and everyone was driving 5 mph and I will be there as soon as I can.  

 I get to the door to pick up LO and hear the children screaming...it sounded like she was getting upset as well.  That concerned me a little I heard that. She eventually let me in, apologized for the 3rd time for being a few minutes late due to the weather.  Clearly, she was upset w/ me but had no idea why.  She didn't even say goodbye to me on the way out.  I just moved on. 

She later texted me in the afternoon, apologized stating it is frustrating when the kids are crying and cannot understand why they are crying.   

My DH dropped off LO this morning, she later says there was a "miscommunication about yesterday"= I agree.  She proceeds to tell my DH that I was rude to her.  WTF??

 So I pick up LO today, apologize for the miscommunication. Then she proceeds to tell me how rude I WAS yesterday.  WTF?  I'm sorry, but I am paying you to take care of my child.  Do not tell me I am rude!  Who has the balls to say that to me?

I have the utmost respect for this lady because she takes care of our child.  After yesterday, I am starting to get concerned. 

Thanks for reading.

 

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Re: How would you handle this?

  • mojito14mojito14
    That would concern me. I tend to read into things though, especially when it comes to my kids. Did you talk to your dh? What does he think?
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  • AdamsMom4AdamsMom4
    I would look at your other childcare options. You were only a few minutes late (not hours) and it wasn't your fault. If I heard someone screaming at my child, they would never go there again...especially if they copped an attitude with me too.
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  • mojito14mojito14

    imageAdamsMom4:
    I would look at your other childcare options. You were only a few minutes late (not hours) and it wasn't your fault. If I heard someone screaming at my child, they would never go there again...especially if they copped an attitude with me too.

    I missed that. Was she screaming at your children? If so, then yes, I would be finding myself another sitter.

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  • madwc08madwc08 member

    I cannot confirm she was screaming at my child.  She has a toddler throwing a lot of tantrums lately, so it could have been that, in addition to the babies crying.

    I don't think I am ready to think of other childcare options, yet.  If I can continue to sense her frustrations, I will begin looking around for others to help us.  I want her to love my LO just as much as if I were there.

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  • VampyAuthorVampyAuthor member

    You were only a few minutes late, no hours on end. And, the weather was bad. You had a legitimate excuse. I would talk to you DH, formualte a plan. Then set up a meeting with said childcare provider and talk to her.

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  • DaisyFullDaisyFull member

    Umm, she sounds a little like a whack-a-doo. 

    Venting to a Mother about how "frustrating" it is that babies cry? Yeah, probably not the best advertisement. Come on now, it's your job.

    And it sounds like she is trying to pick a fight with you and/or DH. I'd be keeping an eye on that one.

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  • Sam78Sam78
    imagemadwc08:

    I cannot confirm she was screaming at my child.  She has a toddler throwing a lot of tantrums lately, so it could have been that, in addition to the babies crying.

    She was screaming at the toddler? or you mean that you just heard screaming and it could have been the toddler?  If it is the former, you need to look for new care pronto - screaming at any age child is not acceptable behavior.  Also, if she is saying she's overwhelmed by all the kids crying, that is also a huge red flag.

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