What is your husband thinking?

Leah678 · December 2010

It's obvious that we are all super excited, but what about our husbands? How are they feeling right now? Does it bother you if he isn't as excited as you are? Are you elated that he wants every detail? Is he pissed because he's not ready to be a daddy? Does he not show any emotion about your pregnancy? Let us know how your husband is dealing with this.

jsw555 · December 2010

Mine's excited and happy, but I think more steady about it than me. I think to him it's still very abstract and not as real.

Leah678 · December 2010

My husband is a mix of emotions right now. He is an engineer and he likes to be in control. He's also been super stressed lately about other things (selling our house and getting a new job) so he hasn't shown much excitement at all. The night of my BFP he tossed and turned all night and didn't get any sleep.

Last night we went to dinner and told our closest friends. They were so excited for us that it made him excited. But then he started to stress again. ::sigh::

catahoulatte · December 2010

jsw555:
Mine's excited and happy, but I think more steady about it than me. I think to him it's still very abstract and not as real.

Pretty much this. He is unbelievably excited to be a dad, but it really doesn't seem real to him yet.

Matt Dvorak · December 2010

Mine is being more cautiously optimistic than I am. It's certainly not as real to him. After I told him we had a BFP, I think he had the biggest smile when I told him "your sperm work!" haha.

desmerelda317 · December 2010

Well, we're already parents, so there isn't the pending excitement of becoming parents for the first time with this baby. He's excited and says he'd like a girl this time around

eesome · December 2010

I think mine was more anxious for me to get pregnant than I was. I wanted to be pregnant really bad, but he was always asking me "Are you pregnant yet? Are you pregnant yet?" Kind of cute.

I don't really tell him details of everything that happens to me everyday (unless I feel like crap and need a break). I write them down daily in my pregnancy journal, and occasionally I will catch him reading it. : )

jacmdb · December 2010

He is excited. He tears up everytime he tells someone which I think is cute. I am actually the one who still can't believe it is real. After 2 1/2 years of trying I was about at acceptance that we would not be parents. I think once we tell my parents tomorrow it will finally sink in.

snoopy3319 · December 2010

Mine is very excited, but nervous about the financial aspect of having a baby. We have been saving and watching spending for a while, so there really isn't too much to worry about unless there's really bad complications. I think he's cautiously optimistic like I am. He knows the background of our families, so we know it's possibly going to be a bumpy ride.

andersjc · December 2010

Mine is more excited than I am. He's totally bummed I don't feel well enough for any close interactions but he's so ready to be a dad. He even asked me one day - "Aren't you excited?" I am but I hate having all these unknowns. I have to get used to that first and then I will be excited.

mlc100805 · December 2010

Mine is very excited, but also very low key and quiet about it right now. I know him, and I know that he is trying not to get too over the moon about it until we have our first appt and he sees the baby, sees the heartbeat, and hears the Dr say that all is well.

BK33 · December 2010

My husband is excited. We're raising his 8yr old son so we're already parents, but I have never had a baby before. He nicknamed the baby Floyd so we could talk about it in front of our son without him knowing. I catch him rubbing my stomach at night and he calls me a million times a day Big Smile

I think that when i begin showing it will become more real to him.

Froggy76 · December 2010

Mine hasn't said much about it, which doesn't surprise me. He is happy, but he doesn't typically handle change well and I don't think he's feeling quite ready for this. In the past few days, I feel like the news has start to set in with him, because he's even made a few comments about me being pregnant.

I would have loved for him to jump for joy when I told him, but I knew that wouldn't happen even though we discussed this before TTC and we agreed this is what we want. I think the only way he would have been thrilled is if we had a long struggle with IF, and we are lucky that we didn't.

JNicMTek · December 2010

He's not as giddy excited as he was the last time. He's still really happy though. Like last time, he's doing a lot more for me, trying to help out, he even went out in the cold this morning to start up my car, realized I needed gas, and filled the tank so I wouldn't have to deal with any of that. I wish he'd keep it up once the newness wears off, but like before he'll go back to the same old ways, so I know to enjoy it while it lasts.

chelfe22 · December 2010

He is thrilled but still cautious. Since it took us so long + IVF we are obviously a little nervous about things going well. We are definitely ready to be parents though.

homediva · December 2010

My DH is really happy and excited, and until yesterday had a lot on his plate for work (finished his final exam yesterday fir the semester, hurrah!!!). Now I feel like we can relax and actually talk about what is going on more. I think he'll find it more real once we tell his parents next week. Whenever I do something pregnant-ish (like pee a lot), he says "Wow, you really are pregnant!" I'm like "Yessss Honey...I am!"

This morning he was really cute though, I woke up at 5am and I was starving so he got me a granola bar (those new Special K ones with the fruit in them, they taste like pop-tarts but they are "healthy."). Then when he left for work at 8am, he poked his head in the door where I was still sleeping and asked if I wanted anything else to eat or drink before he left. Awwww!

Mrs.Jay-Mac · December 2010

My husband is so so so excited. He wants to tell everyone and I said "love, it's too early, what if something goes wrong" but he responded with "family shares in joy and in sadness." Hard to argue with that.

Suesse2009 · December 2010

My husband is very happy and excited. I think he is a bit nervous though since he has never really been around babies. He has already gotten a couple books to read. At the moment though he feels a bit helpless. I have pretty bad morning sickness and he feels like there isn't much he can do. He is being very sweet though and doing anything I need or want him to do. He is always telling me "thank you for carrying the baby" which is very sweet of him.

MorgansMommy1 · December 2010

With our first (DD) He was just scared shitless!!!! He knew I was pregnant but it didn't really "HIT" him untill my water broke. He didn't bond with the baby at all untill she was here. (which is very normal for 1st time dads)

With our second pregnancy (ended with a D/C at 9 weeks due to a missed m/c) He was attached from the beginning and he took it much harder than I thought he would.

With this pregnancy he is holding himself back, trying not to get attached until we go to the doctor on tuesday and hopefully see a heartbeat! He is scared that it will happen again....

Trishie143 · December 2010

DH is super excited. He is an amazing daddy already to his son. I got the sweetest text message from him yesterday morning about he has this overwhelming joy in his heart and soul about us expecting. He is just so happy that we have this amazing family unit already and we are expanding it. He never had very much consistency as far as family growing up because his mom and dad divorced when he was young, then his mom married again and divorced his stepdad. In his life he has never had parents that were together for a while and never had a bond that him & I do, he always wanted that for his children.

catahoulatte · December 2010

Trishie143:
DH is super excited. He is an amazing daddy already to his son. I got the sweetest text message from him yesterday morning about he has this overwhelming joy in his heart and soul about us expecting. He is just so happy that we have this amazing family unit already and we are expanding it. He never had very much consistency as far as family growing up because his mom and dad divorced when he was young, then his mom married again and divorced his stepdad. In his life he has never had parents that were together for a while and never had a bond that him & I do, he always wanted that for his children.

I'm going to blame it on the hormones, but I got a little weepy reading this. It's so great you guys are a warm, loving family!

rebaann · December 2010

My DH is so excited, I have to hold him back from telling the universe.

He said last night, when I was busy worrying out loud again, that he's just excited to be a daddy, and that even if it's only for two months or for 20 years there nothing we can do to influence the outcome and he's going to stay excited.

JThomas221 · December 2010

He's definitely excited, but more cautious now, just like me. His two daughters from a previous marriage were a surprise, so it was a different experience this time around TTC. When we got the BFP, it was kind of unreal to both of us since it had taken a few months and, honestly, I expected it to take a lot longer. It seems like for everyone else it either happens right away or it takes a looong time.

When I had the threatened miscarriage, it was really hard on both of us. He is very protective of me lately and at night he wants to cuddle more. He likes to rub my belly when we lay in bed, which I think is adorable. : )

Augustmama1113 · December 2010

My DH is a bit more excited than I am. He's over the moon. And I'm just crazy scared... or crazy and scared

I feel a little guilty, but I'm just more cautious.

Fisherman'sWife · December 2010

My DH is doing ok. While we wanted children this BFP came as a surprise. He has been really cute about wanting to get me the best prenatals and helping make healthy snacks and stuff like that. That is his way of showing he cares so I think thats a good thing. We are both really nervous though about telling everyone because this happened so quickly but we are both really close to our families and want to share.

rmelanson · December 2010

My DH and I have always wanted children as soon as we were married we were TTC. When ever I got my Period he was just as upset as I was, when I finally found out I was pregnant we both have been really happy and excited. He worries about me and the baby all the time. He has said that he wants to go to all of my Dr. appointments, which makes me happy.

MrsW801 · December 2010

He seems pretty excited. And will not let me lift a finger, which is really nice!

Leah678 · December 2010

Froggy76:

Mine hasn't said much about it, which doesn't surprise me. He is happy, but he doesn't typically handle change well and I don't think he's feeling quite ready for this. In the past few days, I feel like the news has start to set in with him, because he's even made a few comments about me being pregnant.

I would have loved for him to jump for joy when I told him, but I knew that wouldn't happen even though we discussed this before TTC and we agreed this is what we want. I think the only way he would have been thrilled is if we had a long struggle with IF, and we are lucky that we didn't.

This is pretty much the same in my house. We talked about it before TTC but he is really scared and doesn't feel ready. Hopefully time will help ease his fears.

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