Thanks Mom

Abby7 · December 2010

After normal 10 minute phone conversation:

Me: Well, I have to go Mom, I'm walking into work, talk to you later.

Mom: Wait, I have to tell you one more thing.

Me: OK, sure.

Mom: I went to that Motherhood Maternity store or whatever it is to get stuff for Your Sister (note: on baby #3, 2 years younger than me, due in May like I was supposed to be).

Me, skeptically: OK....

Mom: Well, I went in there to shop for her and wanted to sign her up for catalogs and e-mail updates and stuff, and I found out she's already signed up and has picked out some stuff for herself.

Me, now annoyed: OK...

Mom: Well I thought you might want to go in there and get her some things.

Me: Mom, there is no way I am going into that store.

Mom: Well they have some really cute stuff in there. It's a really nice store. Just something to keep in mind for her Christmas gifts. (and it goes on......)

Somehow this ruined my whole day yesterday...thanks for rubbing it in, Mom. No clue what store she is even talking about. I guess my situation doesn't exist and her pregnancy is much more important than my feelings.

courtneyc1552 · December 2010

That is pretty obtuse of her. I'm sorry.

luckymrs. · December 2010

That is clueless of her. Did you call her on it later?

She seems to think maybe you're "over it"?

Bad move, mom.

So sorry you had to deal with this. Sad

butterfly843 · December 2010

Sorry your mom doesn't seem to get it.

jenniann87 · December 2010

So sorry you had to deal with that and that your mom doesnt seem to understand. {{{HUGS}}}

LilMaggs · December 2010

That is really insensitive of her. *hugs* I'm so sorry

Abby7 · December 2010

She is the same person who once sarcastically said, about her sister (who only got PG once, and it was ectopic), "It's the tragedy of her life that she can't have children." I think she takes it for granted because she had 3 healthy pregnancies from ages 23 - 28 and felt overwhelmed being a young mother and is jealous of those that enjoyed adult life without kids, so she doesn't get how hard it is to try to have babies and have terrible things happen.

I knew you ladies would understand.

Tapatio · December 2010

Ouch! I've been dealing with crap like this with my mom too. Is she aware of your loss? My mom doesn't know about any of my losses because I'm fairly certain that even if she knew she would continue to make insensitive comments. Would you be willing to sit down with her and let her know it bothers you? I feel like I should be taking my own advice! I'm sorry your mom doesn't get it.

Abby7 · December 2010

Yes, she knows, and she has been fairly supportive...although I don't think she really "gets" it. We had told our parents after my first u/s with seeing the heartbeat - around 8 weeks - so she had to find out.

Honestly, I think it's easier if people do know - it makes for less insensitivity. My sister said something fairly insensitive over Thanksgiving but then actually apologized about it, which was really nice.