I haz sad

Mrs. Mo · December 2010

I was lurking on some of the babies boards ( 0-3, 3-6, 6-9, 9-12) and noticed that my (former) BFPB had her baby...and I didn't even know she was KU ! She kind of fell off the face of the Earth for a while and apparently got KU during this time. Another of my BFPB had her LO but I at least knew she was KU. She also fell off the face of the Earth when she got KU. I feel like IF has made me a leper or like I have some sort of contagious disease that just keeping in touch with me will cause you problems. Sad

Also, while taking a walk down memory lane (the posts right around the time we all moved over here), I saw soooo many names of ladies I miss ! Since some of them never made the move, we don't see them in the graduate check-ins. Sad I feel like sending out a huge bat-signal just to see how they are all doing.

XXXXX222 · December 2010

*hugs*

I'm sorry, friend. That is exactly why I never got a BFPB. There are great ones (many women here on this board have been wonderful to their buddies) but I've seen so many girls come and go that it's mind-blowing. I react the same way when I find a really old post and everyone's siggies have changed to have pictures of their kid (or kids!). *more hugs*

Jewlz018 · December 2010

I'm sorry you haz sad Mrs. Mo. Here is a lol cat to cheer you up.

Also, I sent you a PM.

heathercara · December 2010

It is so hard to see the ones that we are close to move on without us. I miss so many of the Lovelies on here. Many of my BFPs are celebrating 1st birthdays with thier LOs...it's devastating. Big hugs.

jiffy-pop · December 2010

Yeah, I don't have a BFPB. I never got one but kind of wanted one at one time. Now, I realize I'm not responsible enough to be someone's BFPB. I can't even keep up with my own family's bdays much less someone else's life. Sometimes I can barely keep up with the board b/c I can only get online at work since I can't get internet at home.

I do miss a lot of the people that used to be on here. I also wish there was some way we could get updates from some of the long lost bumpies.

STL34 · December 2010

I know how you feel. I keep in touch with 2 of my BFPBs, but 2 fell off after getting their BFPs (one right away and one at about 2nd tri). Both of the ladies that I lost touch with already have their LOs. The 2 that I still keep in touch with are awesome! But, I too feel left behind since they are both PG (although one is due anytime, I hope I didn't miss her big news). ((BIG HUGS))

MrsVo · December 2010

I'm sorry Mrs Mo!! {{{hugs}}} I don't have any BFPBs as I didn't start bumping until I was starting treatments and that is ok with me.

Mrs. Mo · December 2010

Jewlz018:

I'm sorry you haz sad Mrs. Mo. Here is a lol cat to cheer you up.

Also, I sent you a PM.

Thanks Smile

I PM'd you back

angela2004 · December 2010

{{HUGS}} out of all my friends (6 of us) I am the only one without a DD or DS. All the baby showers and 1 st b-days are killing me!

Mrs. Mo · December 2010

geordie314:

What exactly does BFBP stand for?

I'm sorry you are feeling that way, it is so sad that you can be there for someone & then once they get what they wanted (a baby) they will just forget to be there for you too. I'm sure some of them just don't want to rub it in your face that they got to move on but unfortunately some people are just like that. Huge hugs to you, everyone on this board is here for you!!

A BFPB is a BFP ( big fate positive) Buddy. Basically, someone ( or a group or women) that root eachother on during the TTC process and are there for eachother at any time if they need someone to talk to. Generally, they get eachother a small gift once they find out the gender or give birth ( if they were team green).

Mrs. Mo · December 2010

**Papps**:

I'm sorry sweetie. I still keep in contact with my BFPB's and love them to death, but it does suck being the only one still trying. I love so many of the ladies who have moved on, but it makes me sad to know I am still here. I think about all of them often and wonder how they are doing. I wish more of them came back to visit and chat with us (especially when we have SAIF/PAIF in our siggies).

It is what it is though. I'm sure many of them have so much more to do now to prepare for the baby that they don't come around as much. If anyone is lurking.... I miss you

Ditto. I understand that they are now at a different point in their lives but I would love to know how they ( & their LO's ) are doing ! I suffer from infertility, not some communicable disease (even though you can't catch even a communicable one over the interwebs). ::sigh:: I'm just missing everyone today and becoming bitter about it Sad I feel like the 8th grader whose friends are now in high school and no longer want to be seen with a middle-schooler.

Jill070707 · December 2010

I debated responding, but I did just want to send e-hugs to all of you. *hugs* I hate that you're still here and I'm sorry you feel abandoned. It's hard sometimes to know when it's okay to post or not, even with SAIFW in your signatures. I think of you all all the time, though. (and I think of how hard it was to get here all the time, too. But not every PAIF might feel that way - I would bet some want to just be normal for a while.)

Mrs. Mo · December 2010

Jill070707:
I debated responding, but I did just want to send e-hugs to all of you. *hugs* I hate that you're still here and I'm sorry you feel abandoned. It's hard sometimes to know when it's okay to post or not, even with SAIFW in your signatures. I think of you all all the time, though. (and I think of how hard it was to get here all the time, too. But not every PAIF might feel that way - I would bet some want to just be normal for a while.)

I totally understand if they want to put their struggles behind them. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. We just miss everyone and like to know how everyone is doing as not everyone posts in the graduate check-ins Smile I'm not saying they HAVE to, but it's nice to see an old familiar face now & then. I would also hope they know that we are still here to support them, even though we are at a different stage than them. Smile

orange1414 · December 2010

((hugs)) I never even looked for a BFPB because I was pretty sure it would wind up this way for me. There are some of 3T originals still here, always with hugs!

OCW2010 · December 2010

I'm sorry. I really haven't been on the bump that long so I never got into the buddy games. But I do get what you're saying.

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