48hrs until c/s and feeling really sad

mavs_girl07 · December 2010

I feel guilty even thinking and feeling this way. I feel like I should be excited that I have 48hrs left to go until we meet our little boy. But all I feel is sad. I was cuddling with DD this morning watching TV and all I could think was how these moments are about to come to an end. I know they won't end totally, of course. But these one-on-one times when I have nothing else to do or worry about or take care of except for her. These moments won't come as easily or as often as they do now. I'm sad and feel guilty that in less than 2 days her world is going to completely change, and she has no clue. I don't know, maybe it's these late pregnancy hormones. I know I'll love him as soon as I meet him, but right now all I can do is feel really really sad...Is this normal?

howleyshell · December 2010

mavs_girl07:
Is this normal?

It was for me!

I cried all the way to the hospital for my section.

Then they put the baby on my chest everything changed.

You're right that those 1:1 moments won't be as easy to come by for a while. You'll be tired and stretched thin and DD will be adjusting to having a bit less Mommy time.

But...

DS #1 and I are as close as ever now.

He doesn't remember that time when Mom was so distracted with a new baby.

He and I have plenty of 1:1 time.

The only difference is that now he also has has BFF to love and play with him too.

Hang in there.

This gets easier with time.

But in the mean time I think it's totally normal to mourn the loss of the life that you're currently living as you anticipate the change that's coming. It just means that you love your DD like there's no tomorrow and you're concerned about her!

MammaBear81 · December 2010

I didn't cry on the way to the hospital with #2 but I did have concerns that I wouldn't have enough one on one time with DS#1... when I got home from the hospital, all DS#2 did was nurse and then go back to sleep (repeat every three hours) so I got A LOT of time with DS#1 (more than ever because I was on maternity leave for 6 weeks, I'm a working mom) Even when I went back to work we sill had one on one time when DS#2 was napping, or happily alert in the bouncy seat. The moments will still be there, but it's absolutely normal to be upset. GL with you c/s

mavs_girl07 · December 2010

Thanks ladies, your stories do make me feel better. It'll be a hard adjustment for everyone I think, but also totally worth it.

LDQAM516 · December 2010

I was the same way...and it was even worse when we brought the new baby home. I remember walking through the doors and being told our son was taking a nap...and mind you this was when some hospitals didn't allow small children into the hospital due to h1n1...do DS hadn't met our new one... So I went upstairs to get him and I was flooded with emotions of guilt. I felt so awful because he did not understand what was going on...I just cried as I hugged him. Of course those emotions pass, but thats very normal in my opinion.

Mama Jan · December 2010

Totally normal. I remember feeling that way, especially in the last few days/hours. I was really sad.

But now that I see my boys together and the relationship they have.... I'm jealous is all I can say. They have the MOST amazing friendship and love for each other. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Asher is very different than Caleb and turned my world upside down but I love him very much the same.

There will be an adjustment period so give it time. I really needed alot longer to bond with Ash. BUt like I said. Their relationship is like nothing I've ever seen....

Best of luck during this transition period!

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