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Pregnant after a Loss
Having one of those nights....(venting)
Where I hate that I had to miscarry earlier this year. My husband found out a little bit more of the specifics before he deploys and he basically will have one day at home between his 3 week annual training and when he deploys. Even if I'm induced early he'll still won't be able to spend a few days at home before he leaves. I just wanna bawl and hate the crappy timing with this even though I'm happy to be having a baby, but why couldn't I have been having one in February like I should have and wouldn't have to deal with what if's and him possibly not being there for the birth 
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Re: Having one of those nights....(venting)
((HUGS)) I completely understand. They're saying DH won't be here for the birth nor will he get to come home for R&R since his tour isn't in a combat zone. (Or so they say)
He should be entitled to paternity leave. I know DH will be getting somewhere around 2 weeks of time, it's just a matter of him taking it when he gets home.
I know it's hard to deal with. I know you can't give too many details due to OPSEC, but is he going to the middle east? I've heard of soldiers taking their paternity leave along with their R&R. He should be able to get ahold of someone regarding it all.
::Hugs:: I know it's frustrating, I can't imagine adding an impending birth into the mix.
Definitely have your H look into what he has due to him for paternity leave. I know some CoC are more accommodating depending on the unit's needs.
My parents live about 30 minutes away and I have a few friends in my town I can call in case I go into labor early and on my own. His mom will drop everything and come up too if I want her too.
My friend has even offered to photograph the birth so that would be great if he can't make it and even if he could, it'd be cool.
Ugh! I'm so sorry. I hate that any of us had to go through what we did to land here on this board (though I do love the board). Such a bummer that dh won't be able to spend any time with LO before deploying. Just isn't fair. Such unfortunate timing. (((HUGS))) to you!!
*So proud and so lucky to be the mommy of two beautiful little girls
and one handsome little man*
RJ~5.17.2005~born @ 37w due to IUGR~4lbs 15ozs
Al~4.5.2008~born big and healthy @ 38w~7lbs 9.5ozs
Lil man~5.20.2011~born big and healthy @ 39w (after one he!! of a pregnancy)~8lbs 1oz
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**