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XP: Moms with different Genders

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Are any of you having your children of the opposite sex share a room?  My son will only be 10.5 months old when his sister arrives and I was wondering if it would be weird for them to share a room for the first few years?  She will be in our room until she is 4 months or STTN.  If you are letting them share how are you decorating?ETA:  We would like to have them share because the spare room is used for a home office and playroom and we have NO WHERE else to put those things. TIA 
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  • lovesinthehouselovesinthehouse
    We'll probably be doing something similar since there are only two bedrooms on the main level. The other one is in the basement. We're not going to find out what we're having, and we didn't with DS either, so the room is already gender neutral. I obviously can't speak from experience, but I don't think there is anything wrong with them sharing a room for at least a few years. I personally would want to make it a goal to be in a place where they could have their own rooms, maybe by age 10 or 11, but I had cousins (boy and girl) who shared beyond that. And think about how many families in the world who live in one room. You'll make it work however you need to.
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  • CaitlinJ22CaitlinJ22 member

    We dont need to now, but eventually we may. We have a small house and we want to TTC when DD is 18 months. We are hoping to sell and make a SOME money on this house, but not until Aug of 2012 at the earliest. (tax credit). So if its not worth selling, we'll have the older two share. They will be about 2.5 and 4 by then so I would be ok with them moving in together since they shouldnt wake each other up like they would now. 

    I see no issue with it until the older one is about 8. I think they need separate rooms by then.  

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  • Wifey421BrookeWifey421Brooke member
    We didnt. I am glad we didnt. My DD had just turned one when DS was born. She was teething and waking up crying. She is now getting 4 teeth and had 2 bad nights with them as well as they dont nap the same time always. I know she would have woken him up from her crying from her teeth and who wants two cranky babies up in the middle of the night.
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  • maramarriemaramarrie
    If we have a 3rd child Harris and Lena will share a room for a couple years. I think it would be harder for a toddler and newborn to share than for a toddler and older child - sleep patterns are more established. Once the kids were older we'd split boys/girls into same rooms. It might depend on their ages, but I don't think it's inappropriate while they're young. They don't currently share a room, so I can't speak as to how it's done or how well it works out.
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    We're planning on sharing. DD will sleep in our room in a bassinet until 6 months or she starts STTN, whatever comes first. We'll have them share a room until either 3/4 or 4/5.
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  • TelycoTelyco

    I'd find another place for my crap. There's no way my two would be able to share a room. But just like a pp said - we'll probably have them share when they are older if we have another baby...because I want everyone to get as much sleep as possible. Then we'll put the baby in with his/her same sex sibling after a couple of years. If we have another after that - we'll need to get a bigger house :)

    But seriously - you can make due without a catch-all room if you get organized and make some sacrifices with rooms you may not use all the time (like a formal dining room, etc)

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  • mayowifemayowife member

    DS will be almost 16 months old when DD is born. Similar to you we have a space that we currently use as a home office and play area. We will keep DD with us for a few months and then DS and DD will share.

    The bedroom walls are already blue. DS currently has a very large canvas print of the alphabet in boy colors with boy objects for each letter. We picked up the matching one with girl colors. They both are very vivid and look awesome on a blue wall. DS has blue sheets and we'll get the same sheets in pink for DD. I think it will all come together nicely. We're comfortable with them sharing for a couple of years.

    We'll probably move when DD is two or when we start TTC#3 (if we do).

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  • EchowyspEchowysp member
    I shared a bedroom with my brother who was 9 years older than me until he graduated high school (no other room), so I don't think doing it when they are very young is weird.  If we don't move next summer, we will have to do this.
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