FFFC or should I say FFSC

ateytelb · December 2010

I am such a horrible mother/wife. Can't organize anything. I don't cook anymore and the house is a mess. I have two nannies on weekdays, and on weekends my mother stays with us b/c I can't handle two LO's at the same time.

Peppernut · December 2010

Awww!

Are you feeling okay? Maybe adding a housekeeper a day a week would help keep everything under control?

kimisuejoia · December 2010

I was feeling this way after L was born. If I would have had a nanny or a housekeeper I'm pretty sure I would have gone into my room and slept for a week! Just felt like I couldn't keep up so why bother...

Two things made a *huge* difference- first, I started doing a modified version of the FlyLady program. 15 minutes at a time cleaning, in a different room everyday. 15 minutes is better than nothing, and you will be surprised at just how much gets done in that time. Second, we began purging all the junk we'd accumulated over the years. It is so much easier to clean things when there is less 'stuff' in the way. This is still a work in progress, but has made an enormous difference already!

If you need ideas, start here- https://christinekane.com/blog/56-things-you-can-toss-out-now/ and here https://flylady.net/pages/begin_babysteps.asp

My other suggestion would be to keep a good eye out for signs of depression, that can make *everything* seem worse than it is! Good luck!

Kandie35 · December 2010

There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting help if you need it!!!!! You are so lucky to have a nanny and a mom to help out! I would do it if I could!

ateytelb · December 2010

Thank you for support/suggestions Ladies. I think part of the problem is that I EP (exclusively pump) since the baby didn't latch on. I calculated that I spend 6 hours a day combined on pumping or related activities (washing bottles, pump parts etc.). Basically, there is no time to do anything else even with all that help I am gettting. Maybe things will get easier once I am done.

Peppernut · December 2010

ateytelb:
Thank you for support/suggestions Ladies. I think part of the problem is that I EP (exclusively pump) since the baby didn't latch on. I calculated that I spend 6 hours a day combined on pumping or related activities (washing bottles, pump parts etc.). Basically, there is no time to do anything else even with all that help I am gettting. Maybe things will get easier once I am done.

I EP'd Margaux for a year, I found what helped me was LOTS of extra bottles and an extra set of pump parts! It took up an annoying amount of space, but then I could do big batches of bottle-sterilizing in a huge pot, and I always had spares when I needed 'em. I feel your pain, though, it takes up so much time.

Daisiesinmygarden · December 2010

I agree that maybe get someone in once a week to help with the house if you can. No need to feel bad about something you can hire out. Once you get the house tamed and get into a routine, it will probably get easier and you can drop the housekeeper if you want. Can your mom tackle any of the "to-do" list for you when she is there. I also agree to watch for other signs of PPD and don't let yourself get overwhelmed. Sounds like you basically have almost a full time job in addition to the house and kids plus being PP.

GL

ateytelb · December 2010

Thanks Ladies, will invest into housekeeping and more pump parts. I also have my 6 week PP appt today - will ask if this is indeed PPD.

NewMrs07 · December 2010

Don't feel bad, feel lucky that you have help. And don't try to be supermom, it's OK if everything isn't perfect as long as the little ones are happy Left Hug

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