Just found out SIL had a M/C

Sara&Mike07 · December 2010

and I am utterly heartbroken. My brother and SIL went today for their first ultrasound and learned that their LO was gone. They had not told anyone they were PG, were waiting untill after todays appt. She is scheduled for a D&C on Thursday morning.

I shamefully admit I was terrified that they would get PG before we did again, unsure of how to handle it - this was an unexpected surprise, the kind of gift you don't even know how bad you want it until you have it, but now that I know I am just heartbroken for them and for the loss of my neice or nephew.

And I hate that there is nothing I can do or say to take their pain away, I know that because there was nothing anyone could do or say for me, but it doesn't stop me from wanting to be able to do it for them.

I feel like I am rambling excessively right now..I am just shocked and sad and so damn angry that this has happened to someone else I love.

jen629 · December 2010

I am so sorry ...you can do something for her by being there for her and understanding a loss like no one else might {{{HUGS}}

JayandTay09 · December 2010

Sending your family lots of thoughts and prayers...I hope that you can be there for her as you know how hard this is and the battles that lie ahead for her...

Sara&Mike07 · December 2010

jen629:
I am so sorry ...you can do something for her by being there for her and understanding a loss like no one else might {{{HUGS}}

You are right..thank you Jen..I needed to be reminded that just being there for someone when they need you is bigger then anything else.

Mrs.Kyz · December 2010

:::HUGS::: I'm sorry to hear about your SIL. Just let her know that you're there for her and can help with whatever she needs.

jen629 · December 2010

Sara&Mike07:
jen629:
I am so sorry ...you can do something for her by being there for her and understanding a loss like no one else might {{{HUGS}}

You are right..thank you Jen..I needed to be reminded that just being there for someone when they need you is bigger then anything else.

your welcome hon..and if you are comfortable maybe suggest the boards to her when she is ready

Sara&Mike07 · December 2010

jen629:
Sara&Mike07:

jen629:
I am so sorry ...you can do something for her by being there for her and understanding a loss like no one else might {{{HUGS}}

You are right..thank you Jen..I needed to be reminded that just being there for someone when they need you is bigger then anything else.

your welcome hon..and if you are comfortable maybe suggest the boards to her when she is ready

I think I will..she is not a huge computer person, she just doesn't like to sit still for very long! But I have told her how much they have helped me, so I think I will just mention it to her in a few days as a potential place for support if nothing else.

jen629 · December 2010

Sara&Mike07:
jen629:
Sara&Mike07:

jen629:
I am so sorry ...you can do something for her by being there for her and understanding a loss like no one else might {{{HUGS}}

You are right..thank you Jen..I needed to be reminded that just being there for someone when they need you is bigger then anything else.

your welcome hon..and if you are comfortable maybe suggest the boards to her when she is ready

I think I will..she is not a huge computer person, she just doesn't like to sit still for very long! But I have told her how much they have helped me, so I think I will just mention it to her in a few days as a potential place for support if nothing else.

well if nothing else you have found a "way"to try and help her a little KWIM? I don't really know where I would be had I not found this board last January

JulsW · December 2010

thoughts and prayers to you and your family. ((hugs)) a similar thing happened to us with my brother and SIL. my heart truly breaks for you.

Sara&Mike07 · December 2010

jen629:
Sara&Mike07:
jen629:
Sara&Mike07:

jen629:
I am so sorry ...you can do something for her by being there for her and understanding a loss like no one else might {{{HUGS}}

You are right..thank you Jen..I needed to be reminded that just being there for someone when they need you is bigger then anything else.

your welcome hon..and if you are comfortable maybe suggest the boards to her when she is ready

I think I will..she is not a huge computer person, she just doesn't like to sit still for very long! But I have told her how much they have helped me, so I think I will just mention it to her in a few days as a potential place for support if nothing else.

well if nothing else you have found a "way"to try and help her a little KWIM? I don't really know where I would be had I not found this board last January

Me either..I lurked quite a bit beginning after we first started trying and more after our first loss, but it was not until Conner that I opened up and it has been incredibly helpful.

bryanandkatrina · December 2010

I am so very sorry ((((hugs))))

Lots of thoughts and prayers for your family.

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