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After 50 day freaking cycle, I got a BFN this morning at 12dpo and now I got spotting when I wipe.

I was trying to hold up some hope that maybe it's implantation spotting.. but who am I kidding..

I want to curl up and cry.. I feel like this will never happen unless I go thru IF again, but with my new job I can't take any time off until May.. which seems so far away.

My temps are still high, I think that's the only thing keeping me from completely breaking down.

Anyone want to give me some hope to cling on.

 

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  • camdenfaithfulcamdenfaithful

    (((HUGS)))

    Your chart does look really good!!  You're not out of this!

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  • smallfry5909smallfry5909 member

    (((HUGS)) I am so sorry :(

    You asked for some hope, and I'll give it to you:

    1. 32% of women who are pregnant get a BFN at 12DPO

    2. Your temps are nice and high.

    I have my fingers crossed for you!

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  • CakesABakeCakesABake

    I'm sorry, I am not sure if you are a religious person, but try to stay faithful. I am going to start saying a general prayer for all the ladies on this board every day. It is hard, but we can do it...keep doing what you are doing ((HUGS)) 

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  • CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    I'm sorry about the BFN and spotting, but hey, it ain't over 'til it's over.  Your chart is still looking good.
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
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  • tlcW0714tlcW0714
    I just want to give you ((BIG HUGS))
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  • TapatioTapatio

    I had implantation spotting with pg 2 and 3 between 10-12dpo. I was sure AF was on the way.

    I looked at your chart and your temps are good. Don't give up hope!

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  • Mrs.KyzMrs.Kyz member

    You and I are in the same boat as far as DPO and spotting. 

    :::HUGS:::   Hang in there!  It's not over yet.

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  • cubsgirl13cubsgirl13 member
    Boo for the BFN and spotting.  I'm so sorry!  Long cycles are the worst.  Your temps do look really good!
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  • CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    imageTapatio:

    I had implantation spotting with pg 2 and 3 between 10-12dpo. I was sure AF was on the way.

    I looked at your chart and your temps are good. Don't give up hope!

    Now that I think about it, I had brown spotting around 12 DPO with my pregnancy.

    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
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  • bryanandkatrinabryanandkatrina member

    ((((HUGEHUGS))))

    I am so sorry about the BFN Autumn - but it is still early and your chart is looking oh so pretty! I've got everything crossed for you!

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  • HappyLaLa0914HappyLaLa0914 member
    I agree with PPs - your chart does look pretty!  All my fingers and toes are crossed for you!
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  • Abby7Abby7 member
    Your chart looks great! I wouldn't worry about the spotting...wait till tomorrow's temp. If it's still high, you are in a really good place.
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  • Tanya+DaTanya+Da

    I think you are still in the game!!! 

    Found this for you:  

    Since bleeding that occurs in the first half of pregnancy is so common (20-30%), many wonder what the causes are besides some of the complications already mentioned. Bleeding can occur in early pregnancy due to the following factors:

    • Implantation bleeding can occur anywhere from 6-12 days after possible conception. Every woman will experience implantation bleeding differently?some will lightly spot for a few hours, while others may have some light spotting for a couple of days.
    • After intercourse some women may bleed because the cervix is very tender and sensitive.

    BFP Vibes going out to you!!!

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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    Try not to lose hope, I'm pulling for you!
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    IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
    IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
    3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
    Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance

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  • jertiejertie member
    It's not over until AF shows up.  I've got my fingers crossed for you!!

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  • ravenorchidravenorchid
    I'm so sorry, sweetie! Huge hugs. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I really hope it's implantation spotting and you still get good news this cycle. You really deserve it.
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  • jenniann87jenniann87 member
    {{{HUGS}}]
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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member
    Your temps are still high and you've haven't had a charting cycle with an LP this long. This is still good!


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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member

    Your temps are still high and you've haven't had a charting cycle with an LP this long. This is still good!

    (((hugs)))


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    The day you first lay in my arms, you made my life complete.
    Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
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  • sarabara13sarabara13
    Try not to give up yet. I agree with PPs, your temps still look good and it's still early. Lots of hugs.
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  • EclairAngstEclairAngst

    AF, stay away, you wench! 

    Holding out hope for this cycle for you!!!

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  • Fififa21Fififa21 member
    Sending you big hugs and hoping that your BFP will come soon!

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  • tew213tew213 member
    I know nothing about charting or temping (maybe I'll learn someday (soon)), but just wanted to let you know I have my fingers crossed for you!
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  • Gilgenbach2007Gilgenbach2007 member
    I hope your temps stay up, you're not out yet.
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  • PachitaPachita member
    ((HUGS))  FX for you for this cycle..it ain't over till it's over!

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  • Shawnly82Shawnly82
    I had Implantation spotting with DD and I thought it was my period at first....there is still hope!  Good luck!
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  • mgduke19mgduke19 member
    ALL body parts crossed for you. (((HUGS)))
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    (((Hugs))) Sooooooo hoping it's just implantation spotting!!!
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  • Deepak&DerekDeepak&Derek member
    Your chart looks good.  I will keep hope for you.  GL
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  • Izabella22Izabella22 member
    Its still early yet hon, I hope the spotting goes away and you get some good news soon!
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  • tctibbetctibbe member
    (((HUGS)))
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    ((hugs)) sorry about the bfn.

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  • anonomityanonomity
    I'm so sorry, I was really hoping this would be your cycle.  Sad  ((BIG HUGS))
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  • luckymrs.luckymrs.

    This may be bizarre, but by your chart I'm thinking maybe you didn't O until day 44.  It seems like you stopped using OPKs after the first neg?  Maybe you had a surge (the days you have marked), didn't O right away, but had another surge a couple days later and then O'd.  I'm guessing this solely by your temps.  I could obviously be WAY off (I am definitely not smarter than FF), but that would still keep you in the implantation time possibility (and account for why a BFN so far).

    Huge (((hugs)))

    Hang in there; this is not over yet!

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  • Ann003Ann003 member
    It's not over until AF rears her ugly head.  I hope it's just IB!  ((hugs))
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  • SheriBTSheriBT member
    I am sorry, but I am still holding out hope for you.  Many prayers and positive vibes to you for a BFP!
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  • ZZsmommyZZsmommy
    So Sorry Autumn.  Fingers crossed here that it IS just too early.  I know how frustrating it is though.  Its so unfair how some people get KU so easily, and others have to struggle so much. 
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