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Men are idiots! (dh vent)

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I had gotten up at 3:30am to soothe DS back to sleep so when he woke again at 5am it was DH's turn. Here is how the conversation went:

me: DH, DS is fussing, I was just up at 3:30am with him, it's your turn. Can you please try a pacifier and see if he'll go back down for an hour (side note: we both work full time and normally get up at 6am - also, I hadn't really fallen asleep after the 3:30am wake up, so I'm a little cranky :-P)

DH: ok......(just lays there)

me a few minutes later: DH! Can you please get up? DS Is getting more worked up and if he keeps getting worked up then we'll just have to get up and feed him and it would be better if we can wait until 6am.

DH: Ok, what do you want me to do?

ME: I want you to get up and give him a pacifier!

So he gets up and 5 minutes later is standing in the bedroom doorway with DS

DH: "I don't have boobs to feed him, are you getting up??

ME: WHAT!? Are you serious? you were supposed to give him a pacifier.

DH: oh, I guess I didn't hear you. Well I already got both babies up and now they are ready to eat.

To top it off, he only has one job to do in the morning which is make the coffee and he forgets! Of all days! GRRR!

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Re: Men are idiots! (dh vent)

  • ParisLynn16ParisLynn16
    I know this is not funny one bit but it made me chuckle. Mainly because they really are freaking idiots! I swear. I don't even ask DH to do anything anymore because it's more of a pain to ask him than to just do it myself. To put it simply, 90% of men are selfish. I love my DH but he's such a brat!
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  • rach10782rach10782 member
    All I can say is if I were in your position I would not have been able to post because I would have been on my way to prison for manslaughter.  I can't tell if since my son has been born my patience has become less or my husband has become worse. 
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  • gdemarsgdemars
    If it makes you feel better mine does this too sometimes.  I ask him to get up and he agrees, but then doesn't move. I swear he answers me in his sleep.  I ask him a time or two more, a little more forcefully and then he's like, "Why are you yelling at me?!"  lol  Because I asked you 3 times already! lol 
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  • minnasmommyminnasmommy member
    yup! whenever something like this happens, I always say, "THIS is why Daddies aren't Mommies!"  it's so true!  just rest assured that it's not only your DH! lol
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  • monkskimonkski
    If I would've acted on my urges during my 50 minute commute to work, I WOULD'VE ended up in prison. I decided that screaming at stupid drivers might be good therapy and actually wanted to run a few people over, but reason got the better of me and now my throat is just sore ;-)
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  • ajtjirsnowajtjirsnow
    This is a daily conversation in our house.. I feel your pain. Except we bottle feed and he still acts like a lump on a log when I tell him it's his turn to get up. I have resorted to hitting him with pillows.. he hates it. But he gets up!
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  • historychick79historychick79
    So very true! My DH has the best of intentions, but has a serious gap in figuring out how to take care of DS by himself. When I'm holding or taking care of DS, things get done one-handed, I figure out a way to eat dinner, etc. If DH is holding him, I'm lucky if I get 5min before DH asks for my help because DS has a stuffy nose, dirty diaper, DH needs to do something else, etc...you wonder how single fathers manage to figure things out!
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  • Haven1Haven1

    Aww, I shouldn't be laughing, I'm sorry.  Big Smile  That "wake up an hour early" game has been getting played quite a bit in my house recently.  I can handle one by taking him in the bathroom with me while I get ready, but two up ain't happening.  

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  • June2007June2007 member
    OMG how annoying! Sounds like my DH... we had a talk though and he's better now. I felt he was being selfish and irresponsible by not fully waking himself up to do what needs to be done. Its hard to get used to but with a little effort on his part, DH is now almost as efficient as I am in the middle of the night. I still always hear my girls first but when its his turn I give a kick and he gets up no problem now. No more zombie DH for me!
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  • mcpmcp

    I breathed a sigh of relief when I read this post and the responses. My dh is great, but the middle of the night wakings have been a serious source of conflict in our house.  From the very beginning he's had good intentions as far as helping out at night but he's so slow to wake up and so out of it that I sometimes would rather deal with ds myself because: 1) it's too much effort to wake dh up, and 2) I'm a little worried about dh handling ds when he seems so groggy and out of it!  Sounds like I need to follow June2007's lead and convince dh that he needs to take on the responsiblity of waking himself up and doing what needs to be done. Especially if we have another baby in the house. 

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  • orlandolovinorlandolovin

    my DH does this ALL the time. i hate when i ask him to get up and he goes "okay" and rolls over and starts snoring. or when i come back to bed after feeding LO and he's stolen both my pillows! we always laugh about it in the morning, but i never think it's that funny at 3am!

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  • bino63bino63 member
    Something that helped me when we first had our little girl was reading men are from mars women are from venus. The way you ask them to get up really affects if they will. The last thing you want to do is become their mother. 
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  • angelame1979angelame1979

    Ok-Seriously...my husband barely hears me sometimes when I talk to him and he responds to me to.  Have you never had someone tell you they talked to you while you were sleeping and had a conversation with you.  Give them a break..  They are not perfect and news flash, we are not either.  He probably didn't hear you because he was probably still half a sleep.  I have heard for some reason, men sleep a lot harder than we do. 

     This bothers me so much.  I am pretty sure most men are not walking around calling us idiots when we do something stupid, because I know I have.  Please remember, these idiots are the ones you decided to have children with so they couldn't be that stupid.  My DH is off Monday's and most Tuesday's (if he decides not to work OT) DD woke up for the first time in the middle of the night since she was probably like 4 weeks old on Sunday night and he got up with her, changed her and feed her and she was down in an hour and he was back to bed.  She fussed for a little bit to before he finally got up because most the time she will go back to sleep. 

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