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Did you/will you have a shower for baby #2?

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Hi ladies,

 I'm new to this board so I apologize if this gets posted all the time (I'm sure it does). Just wondering what the common ettiquete is with having a 2nd baby shower? I was assuming I wouldn't since it would be most of the same people...

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Re: Did you/will you have a shower for baby #2?

  • erbearerbear member
    For someone with a one year old? No way! I think it's a bit odd...what could you possibly need? I've been to 2nd showers when the kids were 5+ years apart but never to one for 2u2. Sorry!
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  • SweetBaby2004SweetBaby2004

    No, we have not had a shower for any baby after DD#1.  Family did ask if there was anything we needed and siblings and parents got us gifts for the baby as a "Welcome!" but we did not register for anything or expect anything.

     

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  • FemmeNat01FemmeNat01 member
    No way.
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    No way. A few family members tried to convince me that they should throw me a shower since our kids are going to be opposite genders, but I said no way. I think it's bad etiquette to have a shower for a 2nd child, especially when the first one is still young. Maybe with kids 5+ years apart it would be a different story.
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  • kate081206kate081206
    My sister threw me a "sip and see" where we had wine/apps and invited people over to see the baby.  We specifically stated NO GIFTS though.
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    I was offered one by a well meaning friend and declined.

    I think they're incredibly tacky.

    I think etiquette varies by region of the country but the point of a shower is to usher the woman into motherhood and help get her settled as she embarks on that new phase of her life.  

    I think it's incredibly gift grabby to ask more gifts of other for subsequent children and particularly when they're this close in age.

    A party to honor the child once s/he is here?  Great.  Celebrate away.  (although that too is not my style)

    But a shower where the whole point of the party is to "shower the mother with gifts"?  

    Super tacky IMO. 

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  • LJR 84LJR 84 member

    Definitely NOT. I didn't want a shower for DD...but had one at work, and something small with mostly family. (I was basically forced into it!) So that's one of the positives for me this time around...NO SHOWER!

    We basically have everything we need, anyway. I can't imagine what anyone could possibly get us, unless it's a boy...in which case I'm sure we could manage buying some boy clothes. ;)

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  • Temp984666312503071Temp984666312503071 member

    No, we didn't have a shower for #2.

    My babies are 16 months apart.  When I was pregnant with #1 I was spoiled rotten by my friends and family.  There is no way I would have felt comfortable having them do that again so soon.  We only needed a few things and happily purchased them ourself.

    Close friends and family still bought us gifts.  We also got a lot of hand me downs which was great. 

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  • MammaBear81MammaBear81 member
    I had a second baby shower, but it was because my MIL wasn't around for baby #1 so she threw me a small shower with all of her friends (it was really more for her to show me off than anything else)  I didn't mind of course :) but I think that's extenuating circumstances...
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  • sunreisunrei
    I guess it just depends on what you think you need or feel comfortable doing. My close friends gave me a "sprinkle" at a restaurant for my daughter's birth. My work gave me a cake/ ice cream gathering to welcome the new baby and then gave a nice monetary gift. I didn't need anything new except for some clothes since I was having a girl this time and nursery set which we had already bought ourselves.
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  • farrellashleighfarrellashleigh member

    Definitely! I know a lot of people see it as tacky or outrageous but I think of it completely differently.

    First I wouldn't expect any gifts whatsoever, there will be no "registry" like the first shower, etc. But to me a shower is a time to celebrate an upcoming addition, to me it's about the baby & celebrating not about gifts. I don't correlate shower with gifts exclusively but I guess a lot of people do.

    I will have a party/shower/whatever you want to call it for each pregnancy in celebration of that particular baby. I think it's a time to get together with friends and family and share in excitement of the miracle of life and another little one to love on. That's just my take on it. Plus I love babies and I would be ecstatic to go to anyone elses repeat shower/s simply because baby showers are awesome... I'm just enamored with babies and pregnant people :)

     

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  • cjsbdlcjsbdl member
    No way. Not a fan of showers for second babies, especially when they're born so close together.
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  • 3PupsAndABaby3PupsAndABaby
    i am having a sprinkle and i don't care if people think it's tacky. if they think it's tacky, they don't have to go, or they can go and don't get me anything. i don't really care. my friends are throwing me one because we all think it's celebrating a new baby, not asking for gifts. i don't even care if don't get gifts! 
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