did you go back to work after 2 u2?

sugabooga · December 2010

if so are they in daycare or is family watching them.

We were getting ready to enroll DS in daycare this coming year so I could work more often, ( I work part time) but just found out I'm preggo with #2. I don't want to start daycare and then pull him out. Right now we juggle our schedules to work opposite shifts and am panicking that DH wont be able to handle watching both kids.

KendraJoette · December 2010

Im hoping that we can find a way for me to stay home. We have a family friend that watches DD, but I dont know if she is up for 2u2, and I just feel like I dont have enough time with DD as it is, but for the time being, I dont think we can afford not to have me working. sigh... I dont know what to do either.

MammaBear81 · December 2010

We have an Au pair, it's cheaper than two in daycare and you don't have to get the kids up, ready and out the door before you go to work! I used to have to be at work at 8am, so I would leave the house at 7:15... the kids would still be asleep, or just eating breakfast when I left. Even though I'd rather be home with them, I feel better that they don't have to work around my schedule. (45 hours a week and you get to make your own schedule!) I also have the benefit of having my mother around for back up care in case I work late, or the au pair is sick. She also stops by and takes one or two of them out for "special grandma time" so it really frees up our weekend to have more family time

one_more_girl · December 2010

I consider my DH to be an amazing father and husband, and he is pretty good at handling the kids, however he admits that he could not do it alone for 40 hours a week. We have 3 though, and who would have thought but sometimes the 5 year old is the most difficult of them all! I am in school for the next year 3 days a week and my aunt watches them for us for a very reasonable price and DH has them one or two nights a week for a couple of hours by himself. I plan on going back to work full time in a year when I am through with school.

bulldog_mama23 · December 2010

I am planning on going back to work because I have to for financial reasons. I work in my family's business and I am only working 4 days a week. My mom will watch both kids twice a week and my MIL the other two days. We did this with DD but we would take her to their houses, I am working on trying to convince them that it is easier for them to come to us so all of the food, toys, and each kiddos crib are in one place and I don't have to pack two bags and prepack all of the food/bottles. Normally, we leave the house at 7 but DD doesn't even wake up until 730 and I have her down to one nap a day now but the days hubby takes her to grandma's she has two naps a day from getting up too early. My hubby does not like this idea though, he thinks it imposes too much on our moms.

kcisthebombdotcom · December 2010

I also work part time (17 hours a week). DH watches the kids around 8 hours a week/my stepmom helps out 8 hours a week. We will keep this schedule after #2 as well.

I have no worries that DH will not be able to handle 2 kids. I'm sure it will be an adjustment, but he's a parent and can handle it.

sugabooga · December 2010

Can DH handle 2u2? Heck I don't know if I'm going to be able to handle 2u2. i'm sure it will be fine, but I think we are both if shock. We wanted to wait a little longer. But what's done is done.

What worries me about DH not being able to handle 2u2 is that I work overnights and he's a heavy sleeper. We are lucky that DS sleeps through the night, but who knows what will happen with #2.

With #1 I stayed home a little while longer because I was able to receive $ for leave. I don't know how thats going to work with me only working part time now. (don't know if I'll qualify for it). We could manage with only one income if we really needed to, but I'm sure it would be tight. Part of me enjoys going to work and I think I'll miss that, as much as I'd like to stay at home.

sugabooga · December 2010

how did you go about finding an Au pair? To be honest I don't know if I'd be comfortable with it. Did you go through a lot of interviews before you found the right one? But the more I think about it- It would be totally awesome.

kcisthebombdotcom · December 2010

sugabooga:

Can DH handle 2u2? Heck I don't know if I'm going to be able to handle 2u2. i'm sure it will be fine, but I think we are both if shock. We wanted to wait a little longer. But what's done is done.

What worries me about DH not being able to handle 2u2 is that I work overnights and he's a heavy sleeper. We are lucky that DS sleeps through the night, but who knows what will happen with #2.

With #1 I stayed home a little while longer because I was able to receive $ for leave. I don't know how thats going to work with me only working part time now. (don't know if I'll qualify for it). We could manage with only one income if we really needed to, but I'm sure it would be tight. Part of me enjoys going to work and I think I'll miss that, as much as I'd like to stay at home.

If part of your concern is DH sleeping through #2 cries, what about having her in a bassinet in your room until she STTN? I'm a pretty heavy sleeper, but I doubt he'll be able to sleep if #2 is really crying. I have slept through fussing before, but definitely not full blown screaming.

Brit1017 · December 2010

DH and I juggle opposite shifts. We end up being alone with the kids most of the time, but it works out fairly well. Give your DH some credit

It will probably take a little time to adjust, but he will be fine. It took DH about a week to really get it down (and the exact same thing happened when I went back to work after DS. He didn't have the DS/ DS and DD alone until I went back)

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