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It may be the hormones but... (long)

Amer19Amer19
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I'm so exhausted, physically, emotionally, and mentally.  Physically especially. I started out last weekend getting strep for the billionth time and now I have a cold along with it. The stomach flu is going around my classroom like crazy and I am scared to death I'll get it. So I am on 3 hormones injections, antibiotics, prenatals vitamins,and calcium supplements every day.

Of course, my DH is working like crazy. The holiday season is his "busy" time so he is working until 9:00 EVERY night.Even the weekends, he is working until 5 in the evening. So I have to teach first grade all day long and come home and take care of a 3 year old all night long by myself. All while my body is going through hell. I should be taking it easy but I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. I have Christmas shopping to finish, presents to wrap, report cards to do, a tree to decorate, along with all the IVF stuff, household stuff, and regular teaching stuff and no energy to do it.

Next week, I start going into the hospital at 6:00 a.m.to do daily blood work and ultrasounds.  Luckily, DH is staying home with K and getting him ready for school in the mornings then driving him to the hospital so I'll take him to school since his school is next door to mine. DH usually goes into work at 4:30 a.m. and will be going in at 8 next week. Then I have to meet with the assisting doctor after school.

I feel like a terrible mother. The tree is up but hasn't been decorated. I haven't been to the grocery store so we have been ordering in a lot. I am so tired, we lay around and watch Christmas movies a lot. The house is a mess and I have no energy to clean it up. No one is helping me. I called my mom last night begging her to come over and watch K so I could get some rest and she never called me back. My husband is trying but says he is already taking off so many days for my egg retrival and transfer and rearranging his schedule for the monitoring that he can't do any more. My mother-in-law lives too far away to come over daily and help. My sister is selfish and makes excuses every day why she can't babysit. I just want to lay in my bed and cry. This is so stressful.

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie DS: Born 2007 TTC #2- Diagnosed with secondary infertility, after 18 months and failed IUIs, we achieved success with IVF #1 DD: Born 2011
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Re: It may be the hormones but... (long)

  • libertadwlibertadw
    I am sorry you have to go through that. Have you thought about getting a mommy's helper? I started looking online for childcare and there were plenty of high school-college girls that were looking for a way to make extra money by helping with things like running errands with you and such. You need help and if no one in your family can do it, hire help. The exhaustion will only increase once the little egg sticks. Good luck!
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  • WendellsWendells

    imagelibertadw:
    I am sorry you have to go through that. Have you thought about getting a mommy's helper? I started looking online for childcare and there were plenty of high school-college girls that were looking for a way to make extra money by helping with things like running errands with you and such. You need help and if no one in your family can do it, hire help. The exhaustion will only increase once the little egg sticks. Good luck!

    this sounds like a great idea!

    Sorry you're feeling like this.  You are a wonderful mother and wife!  ((hugs))

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  • Mrs.N.H.Mrs.N.H. member
    I'm so sorry. Things will get better, I promise...soon you won't have to deal with the IVF anymore and you will have some time for you; hang in there ::Hugs::
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  • Amer19Amer19
    Thanks. My mom said her phone went dead (only has cell phone) and is on her way over. She's bringing lunch and will watch K and go to the grocery store for me. I called DH crying and he said he's cancelling his clients for tomorrow. Hopefully my body will adjust soon and I'll be back to normal.
    Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie DS: Born 2007 TTC #2- Diagnosed with secondary infertility, after 18 months and failed IUIs, we achieved success with IVF #1 DD: Born 2011
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  • dani_girl08dani_girl08

    imageAmer19:
    Thanks. My mom said her phone went dead (only has cell phone) and is on her way over. She's bringing lunch and will watch K and go to the grocery store for me. I called DH crying and he said he's cancelling his clients for tomorrow. Hopefully my body will adjust soon and I'll be back to normal.

    Yes  I hope you feel better after a break.  Your body is going through SO much right now!

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  • lindeenweddinglindeenwedding member
    (((hugs)))
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  • CanadianBride84CanadianBride84 member
    Glad to hear your mom was able to come over for you.  *Hugs*  Hopefully it will get easier soon.
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  • jcombsjcombs

    I wish I lived closer to help you out!!  I can only imagine how you are feeling with everything coming down on you at once.  Thank God for mommas!!  No matter how old we are, we need them. 

    I also thank God for my nanny who just pulls my laundry and does it without prompting and organizes Ian's room.  It took me a LONG time to get used to her doing stuff like that, but now I don't know what I would do without her!  You might want to think about it...I have to always be in control, but decided having less stress was way more important.  Hang in there Amy!

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  • libertadwlibertadw
    imagejcombs:

    I wish I lived closer to help you out!!  I can only imagine how you are feeling with everything coming down on you at once.  Thank God for mommas!!  No matter how old we are, we need them. 

    I also thank God for my nanny who just pulls my laundry and does it without prompting and organizes Ian's room.  It took me a LONG time to get used to her doing stuff like that, but now I don't know what I would do without her!  You might want to think about it...I have to always be in control, but decided having less stress was way more important.  Hang in there Amy!

     Where on earth did you find this Mary Poppins and can you please have her teach my babysitter a few tricks? The girl just sits on the couch while I feed and put Marcos to sleep. 

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  • Mrs.S_0909Mrs.S_0909
    *Hugs* Amy!
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  • AshleysredAshleysred
    I am sorry you're going through a rough time.  I agree with getting a mama's helper, even if it is for 3 hours a couple times a week.  But thank goodness for mommies!
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  • DanielleB1978DanielleB1978
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  • DreamsBride411DreamsBride411 member

    imageAmer19:
    Thanks. My mom said her phone went dead (only has cell phone) and is on her way over. She's bringing lunch and will watch K and go to the grocery store for me. I called DH crying and he said he's cancelling his clients for tomorrow. Hopefully my body will adjust soon and I'll be back to normal.

    Oh thank goodness... I wish I lived closer - I would totally come and help you!!  Lots of (((Hugs))) for you Amy!!  Hang in there and get some rest!!  

    Can't you take a day or two off from work?  You need it so bad right now!  

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  • jcombsjcombs
    imagelibertadw:
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    I wish I lived closer to help you out!!  I can only imagine how you are feeling with everything coming down on you at once.  Thank God for mommas!!  No matter how old we are, we need them. 

    I also thank God for my nanny who just pulls my laundry and does it without prompting and organizes Ian's room.  It took me a LONG time to get used to her doing stuff like that, but now I don't know what I would do without her!  You might want to think about it...I have to always be in control, but decided having less stress was way more important.  Hang in there Amy!

     Where on earth did you find this Mary Poppins and can you please have her teach my babysitter a few tricks? The girl just sits on the couch while I feed and put Marcos to sleep. 

    At my hairdressers!!  She is building her clientele so we have a deal that she can run over and do last minute clients if they call.  But when she's here, she's gold!!  I so know I lucked out totally!

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  • Lisa7Lisa7 member
    I am so sorry, lots and lots of hugs. I think getting someone to help out is a great idea.
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