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riddle me this re: facebook etiquette

SarahCeeSarahCee
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I bit the bullet a month or two ago and opened a facebook account. Why do people friend request but not send a message as well? It tells me "hey, I want to add you to my list of hundreds of friends but I don't really care enough to actually write something to you". Is this a normal thing with FB? These are people that I actually know and have not spoken with in a while... what gives?

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  • Mrs.BoomBoomMrs.BoomBoom
    Sometimes I write a note but not very often.  (Usually only when I don't think they'll remember me)
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  • Lexi & Orion's MommyLexi & Orion's Mommy
    i think thats the way fb is. You can choose not to add, but they are just there and interested in seeing what your up too. i add lots of people from high school, and after a while, once i see they havent changed or their posts annoy me, i just hide them. 
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  • SweetiePSweetieP
    This is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves.  Which is why I recently went through and denied most of my friends from getting my updates.  I figure if you can't be bothered to say "hi" or comment on one of my threads once in a blue moon, then why should you be on my friend list.  bugs the crap out of me.
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  • ZoeMay06ZoeMay06 member
    It doesn't bother me, most of the time people don't send me a message when they add me and I don't send them one either (unless as pp mentioned I'm afraid they might not remember me without an explanation). I sort of think of friend requests AS the message, but maybe my standards have just gotten really low.
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  • Roni.CedraRoni.Cedra

    imageMrs.BoomBoom:
    Sometimes I write a note but not very often.  (Usually only when I don't think they'll remember me)

    This. If I know the person well, sister, sister-in-law, friend etc, I just friend and don't leave a note. If it is someone who I haven't seen in ages, or don't know as well, I write a note.  

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  • MrsEmmMrsEmm

    its a social networking site. You can always create different groups so that they are your 'friend' but cannot see much of anything that you post.

    You set how much you share with who - it just takes a little bit of time & know-how to set it up.

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  • MeritageMeritage member

    I dunno, doesn't really bother me.  I only write a note if I don't think they'll remember me to remind them of who I am or how I know them.  If I'm sure they'll remember me, I just put a :-) as the message in the friend request.

    You'll find some great things on Facebook (if you're into gossip like me :-).  Recently added an ex-boyfriend, and his lovely wife that I've never met has an open page so I can see all of her wall posts and photos.  Good stuff!  Don't let this happen to you though - be sure to set your privacy settings so random ex-girlfriends of your hubby can't see your profile.  :-)

     

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  • Mrs_ShmoopieMrs_Shmoopie

    I tend to think of the Friend Request as the ringing of a phone.  You can choose to answer or not.  As pps mentioned, if I think there's a chance they won't remember me (or if it's someone from the Nest, might not recognize my full name) I'll include a note.  But, like if it's someone from work or a cousin who just got on FB I may Friend Request them w/o a note.  Then, once they've "answered the phone" I usually try to write on their wall or PM them. 

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  • Lesley423Lesley423

    Hmm...I rarely send a message when I send a friend request.  As PPs have mentioned, I only do it when I think they may not remember me.  Usually once a friend request is accepted I'll write something on their wall. 

    Also, I've hardly ever gotten a message with a friend request.

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  • alibee09alibee09 member
    It's a social networking site, and nothing more. If I had to comment on all the statuses of my 700+ friends I'd never be able to spend time with my family or do my job! If I want intimate conversation or to touch base, I use something more personal, like email or the phone. :)
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  • chedder143chedder143

    imageSweetieP:
    This is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves.  Which is why I recently went through and denied most of my friends from getting my updates.  I figure if you can't be bothered to say "hi" or comment on one of my threads once in a blue moon, then why should you be on my friend list.  bugs the crap out of me.

    Ditto this.

    I found that a lot of peeps from back in the day friend request and then I hear nothing. I think for a lot of people they just want to see a glimpse of who you are today or whatever.

    I went through and 'trimmed the fat' a few months back.

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  • love22love22

    I have never sent a message when sending a friend request.  I figure if I have to send a message to someone in order for them to know who I am to accept a friend request we don't know each other well enough.

    It doesn't really bother me if people don't write on my wall.  I guess if it bothers you I would keep your friend circle small on Facebook.

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