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WWYD?

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Lately I have been working an extra shift at a different facility about 45 mins away. I work 3rd shift so the commute is not that bad traffic wise, but it is a bit hilly and rural. My current facility is 5 mins down the road, so basically no commute. My current shifts are Thursday through Saturday evenings. I work regardless of if it is a holiday if it falls on my normal shifts. I have worked Thanksgiving, Christamas, Easter, New Years Eve, Christmas Eve, New Years, and July 4th for the past 3 years. Glancing at the calander I am scheduled to work most of these holidays again for the next 3 years. I have tried to get holidays off before but no one wants to take my shifts. I have a hard enough time getting coverage when it is a non elective thing as it is.

My son has started preschool this year. I barely see him on the weekends and any "fun" things during the week have now been scrapped because of school. I have been offered the position 45 mins away permenately, the shifts are from Sunday to Tuesday evenings. Meaning I won't have to work Thanksgiving unless I choose to. Easter (which is a breakfast holiday for us) I won't be exahusted. I won't have to beg to get a Friday or Saturday night off for a girls night with  my friends. And most important of all, since DS IS in school Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday mornings when I get home I can go right to sleep instead of doing the "get out of my room before I kill you" routine.

 DH doesn't want me to switch simply because of the longer commute. He feels the extra wear and tear on the car wouldn't be worth the better hours (I disagree).  That's his only qualms with it but it's something that he is really opposed to. I am so torn between this as I know the schedule will be better but I do agree with DH.

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  • 5de55de5

    I would take the new position for the better hours. Yes there would be more wear and tear on your car, but the trade off is more and better quality time with your LOs.

    The only caveat I have, is if by hilly and rural you mean up to the snow level hilly, then I'd have to factor in whether you can/want to drive in the snow and/or deal with chains that often

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  • AZ123AZ123 member

    So when do you start the new job?  Smile

    You can go online and do a calculation to come up with the cost of wear and tear but 40 minutes more driving shouldn't be that much compared to your sanity and emotional well being. 40 minutes is nothing!

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  • mrstarawalshmrstarawalsh member
    image5de5:

    I would take the new position for the better hours. Yes there would be more wear and tear on your car, but the trade off is more and better quality time with your LOs.

    The only caveat I have, is if by hilly and rural you mean up to the snow level hilly, then I'd have to factor in whether you can/want to drive in the snow and/or deal with chains that often

     That's exactly my thinking, that the trade off is good.

    It snows occasionally where I go but it's rare. I don't mind carrying chains/ getting snow tires. I lived in Ohio vefore.

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    imageAZ123:

    So when do you start the new job?  Smile

    You can go online and do a calculation to come up with the cost of wear and tear but 40 minutes more driving shouldn't be that much compared to your sanity and emotional well being. 40 minutes is nothing!

    I should be starting after the New Year Smile

     

    That's a great idea! If I can show DH it won't be *that* bad he may get more on board. Because I'm seriously at the point where if I can't switch shifts or have some gauranteed time off for holidays I'm going to quit.

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  • JLS0320JLS0320 member
    I would switch to the new job in a heartbeat. A 45 min commute is not that bad, I would hate having to work the holidays and weekends. Enjoy your new hours!
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  • The_Jen626The_Jen626

    I would switch in a heartbeat.  Way better schedule.

    I have an hour commnute each way and I LOVE my job, so I barely even notice it.  Seriously, switch.

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  • jenuinejenuine
    Tell him to forget the wear and tear on the car and focus on the wear and tear on you. Happy wife = happy life. Put yourself first and the rest of the clan will be happy too. Good luck convincing him, but it sounds like a no-brainer to me.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    YOUR happiness and quality of life should matter more than wear and tear on a car.  Seriously.  right now, your DH is placing priority on a CAR over his wife.
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