how far would you let hubby travel at 36 weeks?

WannaBeCrunchyMama · December 2010

DH has a friend visiting. He asked me several weeks ago if I was ok with it, told me their plans etc. Now that it's actually that time and they're off doing man things I feel a little nervous.

How far away would you let your H go at 36 weeks? I feel like I'm jinxing this baby into coming early.

pawcall · December 2010

how far away is he?

MissSunny42 · December 2010

I am having the same exact struggle with DH. His friend from college is in town, and while he will only be about 30 mins away MAX for probably a few hours, but they will be out at bars and I don't want him drinking...I am worried that I am going to go into labor early and he will be drunk or not 100% ready! He is saying I am being paranoid..and I probably am, but I want him to be home, ready and waiting for the next three or four weeks!

snowinlv · December 2010

DH will be gone weeks 35-38 over three hours away. Nothing we can do about it but pray the baby stays put! He traveled on a 2-hour flight when I was 38 weeks with DD. She stayed put

JessicaW0817 · December 2010

Depends on where you live... we live in Michigan and just got a crazy snow storm... with this weather I wouldn't want him more than 15 minutes away. If the weather was nice and he had cell phone reception I would say an hour or two (at the most). We also live 3 minutes from the hospital so worse case scenario I could drive myself if something were to happen.

AimeeL85 · December 2010

I'd let him go to the kitchen and the bathroom.....maaaaaybe the garage

amantha82 · December 2010

I think I could deal with a few hours away but only because I have family close enough to support me if the situation arises. Odds are that hubby would be able to get to the hospital in time for the baby to be born. But I also think that your husband should be responsible enough to make sure that he doesn't drink to much so he can come back at any time if needed. But that's just my opinion.

MichelleL1118 · December 2010

Barring some sort of emergency, I wouldn't want DH more than 30 minutes away at 36w, and I certainly wouldn't want him out at bars drinking at that point.

hjk5000 · December 2010

If he's just out and about close by, then I don't see why it's a problem. I wouldn't want DH more than and hour away though.

JenGarden · December 2010

My DH had to go away on business for three days at 36w - he was about three and a half hours away. Obviously, it didn't jinx anything for us Stick out tongue

laura&dan05 · December 2010

My DH travels for work every week. When I was pg with dd he traveled 4 hours away (by car) up until I was 39 weeks pg. It didn't really worry me because I knew at the first sign of labor I'd call him and he'd be on his way home. The chances of me delivering that quickly were really slim and I had a great support system in place if I did go into labor when he wasn't home...I was never worried that he'd miss the actual birth. As it turned out he got home on Thursday and I went into labor on Saturday (while he was home) and dd was born early Sunday morning.

He still travels every week and it's a 4+ hour commute (this time by plane and car). He plans on traveling until I'm 38 weeks pregnant. We have a c/s date in the books but I could obviously go sooner so that's why he'll work from home starting at 38 weeks.

If you're comfortable with it and you think he can make it home in a reasonable amount of time I don't see why he couldn't go.

erbear · December 2010

My DH went camping at 35 weeks. I was nervous, but realistically, I wasn't going to go into labor and have a baby in the 12 hours he was gone...I could have gone into labor and I had my sister around to take me to the hospital and coach me through until he showed.

It was fine. DD came at 42 weeks and took 3 days to show up

tapcat63 · December 2010

My DH traveled 4 hours away when I was 37 weeks pregnant with DD. DS and I stayed with my parents that weekend. Thankfully nothing happened because my labor with her only lasted 4 hours! DH will be going to Texas (we live in Iowa) for a week for work when I'm 35 weeks along. I've had some complications with preterm labor and depending on what DS's ENT decides tomorrow, our oldest may be recovering from having his tonsils removed. Somehow, I'm not freaking out about all of that. Yet.

hiltyn78 · December 2010

I live in ohio and my DH had to go to Europe at 35-36 weeks for me with DD. My M&D live <30 minutes away though and I really thought I'd go late. I did. Try not to let it get to you. But i know that's easier said than done!

WannaBeCrunchyMama · December 2010

Well they were 2 hours away in vegas. They were drinking and such but I wasn't worried because worse case scenario, they have to take a cab. It'd be expensive but whatever. That's past though.

Now they're camping/hiking. No alcohol involved, but his cell phone reception is sketchy. They're going to be gone until tuesday. He has been able to text a little. And he has strict instructions to get somewhere where he can call a few times a day.

I know the chances of me going into labor over the next few days at 36 weeks is slim. Plus I don't think it's likely that my labor would be so short they couldn't make it back.

I just wish I would have realized how worried I was going to be At the time, I was thinking 36 weeks isn't even term.

They would have been fine sticking a bit closer to home if I would have asked.

I didn't even think about women with H who have to travel for work. I'm glad DH works from home. I'm not letting him out of my sight after this.

My mom lives minutes away, and my doula is always available. So I'd certainly be supported if I went into labor. Plus this is the desert. There would have to be a sudden ice age for them not to be able to get here within a few hours.

On the upside, I get a day of shopping in vegas when they get home

TiffanyTheMom · December 2010

I'd let my DH go to the grocery store and back. MAYBE 30 min. away.

But, this is my 3rd baby and I could probably sneeze and she'd be out... so...

mamaprof · December 2010

I'm 37 weeks right now. My DH is supposed to be gone right now for a week to southern California (10 hours by car; 4 hours by plane/car) but at the last minute, my FIL told him he needed to stay home with me. I was kind of looking forward to a week by myself before the baby comes, but oh well. He is traveling on Thursday up into the mountains (I'll be nearly 38 weeks), so will be out of cell range for at least 3 hours. I'm not too worried about it.

I love my husband, but am not really bothered if he out of town right now. I'll be fine and the baby will get here, whenever he or she chooses, regardless of where my DH is. And he's my only labor coach, btw.

WannaBeCrunchyMama · December 2010

mamaprof:
I'm 37 weeks right now. My DH is supposed to be gone right now for a week to southern California (10 hours by car; 4 hours by plane/car) but at the last minute, my FIL told him he needed to stay home with me. I was kind of looking forward to a week by myself before the baby comes, but oh well. He is traveling on Thursday up into the mountains (I'll be nearly 38 weeks), so will be out of cell range for at least 3 hours. I'm not too worried about it.
I love my husband, but am not really bothered if he out of town right now. I'll be fine and the baby will get here, whenever he or she chooses, regardless of where my DH is. And he's my only labor coach, btw.

Ya we really needed some time apart. I'm a SAHW right now, and he works from home. So basically we're together 24/7.

I got to take a nice long bath today. Play the music I wanted. And really clean the house. The kind where he doesn't go into the kitchen and destroy it 30 minutes later.

He really deserved this trip. He's been working 12+hour days. Almost everyday since we got our BFP. This is the first time he's really had to himself.

luckybride1128 · December 2010

DH works from home but once each month he has to travel overnight to North Jersey for a two day meeting at his company's headquarters. His next meeting is when I'll be about 37 weeks. But this time he will just go up for one of the days instead of staying overnight. The drive to the office is about an hour and a half each way. I'm not worried about it though. The hospital wants us to come in when contractions have been 3 min apart lasting 1 min for at least an hour. I think it will take me longer than 1.5 hours to get to that stage.

Quesera · December 2010

Ya, I'd be down with a few hours away. My DH is in the film business and travels constantly. Right now he is in the Bahamas where I can't even contact him. Last week he was stranded in Haiti during the riots and the airports were closed and I was only getting random texts. This is the story of my life and although I pray things work out for us there is a good chance he won't be here when I go into labor. His career comes first, that is how we will support our family so I just have to deal.

meltoine · December 2010

DH will be 6,000 miles away until 39 weeks. But that's because we live in Egypt and I'm delivering in NY. He gets 18 days of leave, so we decided it's best if he comes 1 week before EDD and stays 2 weeks after, to hopefully maximize his chances of spending some time with LO before he has to come back to work.

6fsn · December 2010

At 36 weeks he could go anywhere.

swimming47 · December 2010

At 36 weeks I was fine with him traveling wherever he needed to. He was talking that he might have to go to the West coast this week and I vetoed it because it is hard to get a hold of him out there when he is working and it is not always easy for him to get home. I also have managed to mess up my back so I need his help with DD. He does work about an hour away but that doesn't bother me, I have a lot of people who could take me to the hospital or get DD.

NewBlue · December 2010

Honestly, I wouldn't let him go anywhere. Our son was born at 36w2d so needless to say, this one could come early too.

WannaBeCrunchyMama · December 2010

NewBlue:
Honestly, I wouldn't let him go anywhere. Our son was born at 36w2d so needless to say, this one could come early too.

Ya, he'd certainly be sticking around if I had a history of early labor. This is our first and as far as I know, he isn't planning on being here early. (although if he decides to come early I won't stop him.)

LadybugPicnic2011 · December 2010

The only trip I veto'ed was a 2 month trip to Antartica with the military. It was a voluntary trip and he would have guaranteed to be gone for the delivery. Other than that, he has freedom to go where he wants, however, he wants to be home for the birth so about 38 weeks he will probably put himself on a restriction of no more than 4 hours away.

beautifulsin90 · December 2010

I would let him go to work and the grocery store and maybe to his moms which is about 10 mins away.

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