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Family not understanding?

missbeckreepmissbeckreep member
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Need help & Advise.  Anyone else going through a family crisis with this whole infertlity issue? Its really hard to explain but I've have crazy depression the last 4 months over this whole pregnancy thing and not being able to.  I think the holidays do it alot to me, bc last year i was the same way.  A few months ago i found out a family member was pregnant, which means im going to be an aunt again YAY!! :-). And im thrilled. We didnt attend thanksgiving dinner bc i am so happy to be an aunt again but and im sure each one of you will understand i cant hear the "whole pregnancy" things, its like a stab at the heart each time....So i thought i kindly asked if i was to attend xmas if it would not be talked about? Like talk about it 24/7 the whole time im not there...  My mother in law was so understanding about it, but i dont think the pregnant one was at all.  So if she isnt understanding ill be spending xmas with my moms family and not my husbands, and i explained this to my momma in law and it will hurt her but i have to do whats best for me at this point...advise for me please?  Ive heard ive been called selfish about it, and that is the least i was trying to be :-/.  Maybe some people just dont understand.....
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Re: Family not understanding?

  • scooterqscooterq member

    First welcome and I'm sorry you are going through this!  No one should have to deal with IF! 

    Sometimes people truly just do not understand.  Definitely do what is best for you! 

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  • missbeckreepmissbeckreep member

    Thanks for the welcome. ANd im trying really hard. Alot of days i can put my strong face on but there are those few days that i cant.  I explained in the nice way, but like u said some people truely dont understand. My family understands 100% so i will have an amazing christmas either way. And i can have my own xmas with my mother in law and not deal with the issue.

     Have you had IVI, IVF? Were thinking of switching hospitals because our next step will be our first IVF

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  • meganroseleemeganroselee member
    The pregnant family member won't ever be able to understand what you're feeling and going through  soooo enjoy Christmas at your mom's!
    33 yo, DH with MFI Iui x4, Dec 2009 to Jan2011 all BFN.... IVF May 2011 BFP, mc June 2011 at 6.5 weeks, FET Oct 2011 BFP! Sweet baby girl born 25 June 2012** started adoption process Feb 2010, approved Oct 2010, failed match in delivery rooms Feb & Aug 2011... Birthmom called back 3d after we returned home. Aug 26 2011, our sweet baby boy comes home for good!!
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