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Parents and In-Laws reaction

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What were your parents and in-laws reactions to finding out you were having 2u2? I'm kind of worried about telling them. I really don't want MIL to know...she is a compulsive worrier and will tell you that she thinks there is something wrong with the baby or the latest "medical report" she heard on the radio and it "must apply to you!".  Last pregnancy I had some issues that were aggrivated by stress and even though I know she is full of beans, it still gets me all worked up.  I think FIL and my mom will handle it ok, but my dad I'm not sure about. Did you delay telling the parents as early as you did with the previous one? Any tips for breaking it to a possibly tough crowd?  DH and I wanted 2u2 (DS is about 5 months), so it wasn't an oops...I don't know whether that makes it more palatable or that we are just gluttons for punishment. Any "been there, done that" advice would be greatly appreciated.
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  • FemmeNat01FemmeNat01 member
    My in-laws were ecstatic and my parents were not so happy.
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  • finnsmommafinnsmomma member

    My mom said "That's not funny" when I told her about #2.

    Be prepared that a lot of people will ask you if you were planning it. Just remember that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks...it is your family and YOU are happy and that is all that matters!!

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  • armandos_girlarmandos_girl member

    I told my dad over the phone.  He was silent for a second, then stuttered a bit and said "You tell (DH) that I know how these things work and I know what you two have been doing!"

    Then it was my turn to be uncomfortable.

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  • AB&TBAB&TB
    We still have not told my grandma about #3.  She had a negative reaction to my 2u2 and I just didn't want to hear her comments about this one.  We will be seeing her in about a week, so I guess she will be finding out then!
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  • cari12cari12
    Both my mom and DH's mom did 2u2 and then 3u4 so they were both excited for us. We got the "you're going to be busy!" type comments, but from encouragement not negativity/disappointment.
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  • LadyJavyLadyJavy member
    Everyone was shocked on our end, but after they got over the fact that we weren't kidding, my mom and DH's parents were thrilled. My dad is a worrier and him and my mom had a very difficult time having children, so he immediately got very nervous for us. He got over it and is happy about it now... but he did have a bit much to drink at my cousin's wedding and called DH horny Harry... knowing my dad, that was actually pretty funny. Good luck!
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  • SweetPeanisSweetPeanis member

    My MIL was a little shocked.  She asked me if it was planned which offended me.  But now that we have both of the girls she's thrilled and adores them. 

    My parents were thrilled right away.  In fact once DD#1 was born my mom kept asking when I was going to get pregnant again.

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  • jnksmomjnksmom member

    imagecari12:
    Both my mom and DH's mom did 2u2 and then 3u4 so they were both excited for us. We got the "you're going to be busy!" type comments, but from encouragement not negativity/disappointment.

    This exactly!!!

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  • Hayley13190Hayley13190
    H and I had the EXACT same worries you do. We thought we would be lectured and this pregnancy would be looked down on. We told a few VERY close friends 1st, while thinking of the best way to tell family. In the meantime, FIL ended up finding out on a weird fluke and they were more hurt that we didn't just come out and tell them. They were very happy but obvi worrying for them is inevitable.
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  • mrsh1545mrsh1545
    My in laws were thrilled.  My parents thought it was great...my mom said it was better just to do it and get it all done (we are done at two).  I wasn't too happy about it so if anyone gave me crap for it I was ready to just tell them, "it is what it is" and to get over it, I didn't even care at that point.  Never needed to worry in the first place though.
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