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So angry I could spit fire....
Ok let me just preface this with the facts that I am on clomid so that isn't helping my emotions and sometimes I think I married into the world's most insensitive and ignorant family...So now for the spitting of fire...
I come home from work tonight to a message on my answering machine from my bil...He would like me to plan a surprise baby shower for his wife on Jan 15th since this pregnancy has been so difficult and miserable for her and she just isn't happy...This is her SECOND pregnancy in 3 years...She doesn't get another shower...And NO I won't plan the fvcking thing...NO NO NO NO NO....Why in God's name would you call the sil who is a habitual aborter and who lost her 2nd baby at the same time you guys got pregnant?! Are you that fvcking stupid?! REALLY?! I called him back and ripped a strip off him...I am not even going to this...This is ridiculous...She has had an easy pregnancy aside from some slight morning sickness and tiredness...She chose to get pregnant...She wanted another baby...I am not showering her with anything...FVCK THAT! So my other sil just called to rant at me about how I am being insensitive...Oh no, no you didn't....Lost it! I am on a rampage tonight....These people are the most inconsiderate and stupid bunch of people...I already told dh we aren't going...NO WAY IN HELLS!
Ok rant over...
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Re: So angry I could spit fire....
I am so so sorry. Maybe you should give her an Emily Post book for Christmas.
Second showers are TACKY. TACKY. Holy crap. Not only are they tacky, but to ASK you to throw it when you should be having one of your own? Words can not express how angry I would be.
Oh I am COMPLETELY serious...These people are wackadoos...Certifiable wackadoos...DH is feeling stuck in the middle...Well he best get outta the middle and get on my side or there is going to be some serious hell to pay...I am in NO mood for this...
I'd be pi$$ed also. I'm glad you called him back and ripped him a new one. Hello.. How do you think it would have gone if the tables were turned and it was for you...
People don't think...I'm sorry but I agree with you 100%
PS.. I read it to my hubby and he is all for you too saying your family are wackadoodles for thinking your the insensitive one.
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FVCK THAT is RIGHT!
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It's not the Clomid, you're right to get upset over that. Insensitive and annoying. If someone outside the immediate family chooses to throw a shower, fine, I don't call tacky, even for a second, third, tenth child. But for any child I think it's bordering on tack for the husband to ask someone to throw the shower, since it's presents for his child. And you would think that any idiot with half a brain cell would get how awfully insensitive it would be for them to expect you to do it. How rude can you be?
Sorry you're dealing with that.
I am so sorry you have to deal with that. Good for you for giving your BIL a new one. I would have reacted the same way. And for SIL to call and say your the insensitive one. WOW.
I agree with you 100%. They are definitely in the wrong here.
Good for you Tay, I'd have done the very same thing. How rotten and rude to think that you would be pleased to do that!?!
And asking someone to host your shower--->WHAT..EVER!?!?!
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