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re: schools. Would you consider it a selling point. . .

hikerbethhikerbeth member
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. . . that the teachers/administrators are on a first name basis with the students?

We're talking about a K-5 school. . . and we're talking about the students calling the teachers/administrators by their first names.

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Re: re: schools. Would you consider it a selling point. . .

  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght
    The end of the day at the end of the week, so I'm slow....but I'm confused? At our preschool, the students call all of the teachers Ms. FirstName. You mean like that?
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  • Baby4OTBaby4OT member
    Nope. Not at all. As it is, my kids call most of our friends by their first names (Mr/Ms First Name). That's at the insistence of friends who don't want to feel "old." I definitely want my kids to call teachers Mr/Mrs Last Name. It is a sign of respect, imo.
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  • belle204belle204 member
    Not really. I don't see the need for students to be on a first name basis with their teachers/admins.
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  • hikerbethhikerbeth member

    At first I thought "that's cool" but then I thought "well, DD's in sort of a sassy/backtalky phase right now and I am afraid the familiarity of just using first names might be the wrong way to go."

    And I don't mean Miss Firstname.  I just mean Firstname.

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  • KoriBrettKoriBrett
    It wouldn't make much of a difference either way to me. ?When I was in Montessori everyone was just Firstname, so I'm a little used to it already and in no way see it as disresepectful or anything. ?It just.. meh. ?I'd rather focus on *other* selling points.
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  • CleoKittyCleoKitty member
    It wouldn't make a difference to me either way. I have no strong feelings about it at all and I don't think it would have any impact with ds either way.
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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member
    I think that's horrible and it would be a reason NOT to send my kids to that school.  Children need a way to separate a friend and someone of authority.  The title Mr/Mrs/Ms/Miss gives that distinction in a school setting. 
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  • hikerbethhikerbeth member

    imageKoriBrett:
    It wouldn't make much of a difference either way to me.  When I was in Montessori everyone was just Firstname, so I'm a little used to it already and in no way see it as disresepectful or anything.  It just.. meh.  I'd rather focus on *other* selling points.

    I kind of feel like this.  DD calls our adult friends by their first names and calls her preschool teachers Ms. Firstname.  I can see how in high school (I'm thinking of myself in high school) how it makes teachers seem cooler and more approachable.  I don't think it's this big sign of disrespect or anything. . . I dunno.

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  • ShufflerChickShufflerChick
    Eh, I wouldn't care. Knowing me, I probably wouldn't even notice a difference unless someone pointed it out to me. As long as it doesn't affect what they're learning, why should it matter?
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  • Carol*BradyCarol*Brady
    No...probably the opposite effect for me.
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  • A-baybrideA-baybride

    No, it's not the end of the world, and it wouldn't make me exclude an otherwise excellent school, but I think I'd prefer that my kids call the teachers Ms., Mrs., or Mr. firstname or lastname.

    My parents were big on respecting authority and I don't think I was ever allowed to call an adult by their first name growing up.  Even in college and grad school all the students called the professors either Dr. or Professor lastname, with the exception of a few that preferred to be called by their first name.

    But, none of my friends' kids call me Ms. lastname, and it doesn't bother me at all.  It probably would make me feel kind of old. :)

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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    imagehikerbeth:

    imageKoriBrett:
    It wouldn't make much of a difference either way to me.  When I was in Montessori everyone was just Firstname, so I'm a little used to it already and in no way see it as disresepectful or anything.  It just.. meh.  I'd rather focus on *other* selling points.

    I kind of feel like this.  DD calls our adult friends by their first names and calls her preschool teachers Ms. Firstname.  I can see how in high school (I'm thinking of myself in high school) how it makes teachers seem cooler and more approachable.  I don't think it's this big sign of disrespect or anything. . . I dunno.

    Am I the only one that thought, "hey that can make it easier for when the teachers date the students"!  Not by any means saying that this first name basis would increase incidences though.

    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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