This is a really horrible confession..

excitedforlittleone · December 2010

but I have been thinking about it all day and needed to get it out. I hope when we have our second child that he is advanced in both motor and verbal skills. J has been way behind in both and he's been in physical therapy since he was 9 months old and speech therapy for the past 2 months.

I know he's doing fine and he will eventually do things that kids his age do but I can't help feel I've failed somehow as a parent. I know that isn't true and that I'm a great mom but it would be nice to just have your child hit all their milestones early or on time so I wouldn't have to worry...just needed to vent

RandomLurker · December 2010

This is not a horrible confession. I think this is a normal feeling to have.

kle+spd · December 2010

I get that!

My DD is verbally up to speed but not with her motor skills (not walking at 14.5 months). But we've had issues and she was labeled at "failure to thrive" at 8 months! Talk about feeling like a bad mom when you hear that! Even though it had nothing to do with me! So I totally get what you mean!

bumpuser511563 · December 2010

You are not the only that thinks or feels this way. I feel the same thing at times and wish DS was hiting all of the milestones. My DS goes to therapy and has 3 therapists that see him for the past 9 months. I take DS every two weeks to physical therapy and I get tired of taking him but I think about how much it will help him in the future.

mandi7782 · December 2010

Not a horrible confession. We all want things to come easy to our children and for them to succeed at all they do.

wellfleet04 · December 2010

I think that's a pretty normal feeling to have. But I also don't think your LO is "way" behind from what I've read on here. My DD was, and still is, motor delayed. I used to feel like you do (she's 3.5 years old now) but when she was around 2ish, I realized that wishing for something different was preventing me from celebrating where she was at and what she COULD do.

That became even more clear once I had DS. He's 23 months younger and better at some motor stuff than she is already. But she works SO HARD and is SO proud of herself for mastering things that come easily to other kids. I never, ever wish that she was different than she is, other than I do wish for her that it wasn't so hard. I never wish for ME that I didn't have to worry. Because I don't worry anymore. She is going to be amazing. She already is. HTH from someone that was where you are, and is 2 years removed and wishes I could take that worry and wasted energy back.

JulieandBen · December 2010

I don't think this is horrible of you at all. It's natural. I'm sure before long your little one will be just like all the other kids running around the playground. Hang in there babe.

Mrs.Hizzo · December 2010

JulieandBen:
I don't think this is horrible of you at all. It's natural. I'm sure before long your little one will be just like all the other kids running around the playground. Hang in there babe.

Ha, Julie, we get to be on the same board for a month! Woo-hoo!

OP, I totally get what you're saying. You shouldn't feel bad.

AfterAll · December 2010

It is not horrible... and don't feel guilty. I think your feelings are totally normal.

nurseamy · December 2010

not horrible at all. I have felt that way with DD...she's underweight and didn't walk until 20 months (with the help of PT). not only did i/and still sometimes do feel like a failure as a mom, but nonetheless i'm a pediatric nurse..and wondered why i would have a child who doesn't eat and doesn't walk on time...like i should should know how to get my child to eat and walk.

SailorGray · December 2010

mandi7782:
Not a horrible confession. We all want things to come easy to our children and for them to succeed at all they do.

This exactly!

outnumbered · December 2010

That is not horrible at all. My daughter did not walk until she was two. She is 5 1/2 now and received PT from age one to five. I wasvery nervous when it came time for my next two to hit their gross motor milestones. Luckily they were fine. My third is about to be evaluated for a speech delay so the nerves and anxiety are back.