DH Thinks I'm being negative

KaitySueWho · December 2010

because I am not getting excited about this cycle. If AF behaves I should see her in about 5 days. He says there is always hope. I don't think I O'd. When FF took away my CHs I just quit charting, it really pissed me off and I didn't want to deal with it.

I mean sure by some miracle it could happen I guess but I'm not holding my breath and now he is kinda mad at me because he still thinks its all puppie and rainbows when is comes to TTC even after 2 years and only 1 BFP.. that ended in a loss..

Anyone else's husbands like that?

AutumnLeavesFall · December 2010

Honestly, My hubby doesn't ask. He don't know when I cycle, or when I test. He could really care less of all of the mechanics of it.

I'm also saying that because I have very irregular cycles and could go 90+ days without an AF.. so he just gave up.

Only time he was involved was when he had to shoot me every everyday with the injectables.

But I hope this is your month.

ravenorchid · December 2010

I think my husband is actually the opposite. He gets worried when I'm too optimistic since he knows my hopes will just get crushed again. I hope your DH is right for you.

bryanandkatrina · December 2010

My DH tries to ask questions and get involved on occasion, but honestly I tend to sugar coat everything for him and purposely try to keep him in the dark as much as possible. He's a science guy, so his curiosity gets the best of him... but when he knows to much, then the pressure gets the best of him in other ways (if you know what I mean).

It also doesn't help that he thinks I am a negative person by nature lol but I like to think of it as being realistic - if I don't get my hopes up, then there's no disappointment when I don't get what I want.

No less, I hope that isn't the case for you - that your DH is right and that this is your cycle! I've got everything crossed for you!

KaitySueWho · December 2010

thanks ladies.. like I said I'm not going to get my hopes up.

DH just recently started getting into the picture as far as where I am in my cycle (usually it's ridiculously long anyway..) and even though it helps on my really down days, days like today where I pretty much feel ok that this probably won't be our cycle it's kinda of annoying..

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jertie · December 2010

DH & I are both on the same wave length (thank goodness). We both decided that this last cycle we wouldn't be testing until after I missed AF. When I told him that I was pretty sure I wasn't pg - he said, "Well, it's probably for the best - we were sick and took all kinds of drugs to get better." Which was exactly what I was thinking too.

I hope that this is your cylce though!!

ColleenS629 · December 2010

My DH is like your DH. Even after I'm sure it's over he still holds out hope.

tew213 · December 2010

My DH is a very positive person in general. With our first BFP he was positive the whole way, altho I knew something was wrong within the first few weeks. He told me I was just negative. We had this 'fight' nightly. Then when I m/c he said he felt like an a** b/c he kept telling me it would all be ok, and it wasn't. It will be interesting to see how he is during the whole TTC and (hopefully) pg. stage in the future. I really do like his positive attitude though, I don't think I could handle both of us stressing/being negative. I Truly hope you DH's positive vibes pay off and you get your BFP this month!