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Jerayskin
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CS mamas does it aggravate you...
Jerayskin
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My SIL is due on Christmas eve and is always complaining that her pregnancy is "so hard", as if pregnancy is normally an easy thing to go through. She is 20 years old KTFU and doesn't know who the daddy is and lives at home with my in laws who buy her everything that she needs/wants. Because of all of this I have absolutely NO respect for her as it is.
She is very petite, as in she weighed 103 before she got pregnant (and I cannot say that her gaining 60 lbs and blowing up like a whale doesn't give me a warm tingly feeling inside 
) and she has a pretty large pelvis. Her mother was "built for having babies" so many doctors have told her and SIL is built exactly the same.
Anyways, she is Due Christmas eve and had a dr. appt yesterday. She wasn't dilated or effaced at all and now she thinks bc she hasn't made any progress that she needs a c-section. I tried to explain to her that pregnancy is 40 weeks and just because she hasn't made any progress yet doesn't mean that she cannot have a vaginal delivery.
It drives me crazy when women think that having a c-section is the easy way out. I envy women that can have natural childbirth, I feel like I had no choice in the matter (DD was breech. my water broke. she was going to be born within an hour one way or another.) It probably wouldn't bother me as much if I actually liked her but I don't so I guess that's why it has my blood boiling so badly.
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Re: CS mamas does it aggravate you...
I had a c/s for the same exact reason as you. We had no idea that she was breech. My water broke, I labored for a good 8 hours, and then they were like "oh man, she's breech, you need a c/s NOW."
Anyhoo... I do get irritated when people act like having a c/s is the easy way to do things. It's tough recovering from one, at least it was for me. And I'm a little bitter that I didn't get to hold my daughter until she was several hours old due to complications with the surgery. Even if your SIL goes straight through to 42 weeks, it still doesn't mean she'll need a c/s.
That would annoy me too. It seems her ignorance and youth are shining through here..
For me though, in my circle.... c/s are NOT seen as the "easy way out"... quite the opposite. Mostly they want to avoid them.
FWIW I had a c/s after 22 hours and a transverse baby. And to be completely honest my c/s was an amazing experience, with no problems, pain, or complications. But I credit that to my amazing OB : )
exactly why does he HAVE to be born before 40 weeks? Everyone's body is different, and I honestly think that if she and her dr would be patient then her body will do what it is supposed to do and she won't have any trouble.
It is just annoying bc MIL thinks that she is "somebody" and that she can convince the dr to induce bc it will be more convenient for her if he is born around the 17th. It is just annoying that MIL is feeling so sorry for SIL bc she is all alone and doesn't have anyone to help her. I just don't feel sorry for her bc she was a big SL*T and doesn't know who her baby daddy is. That is her problem. I know that is mean but I do feel better
My C/S wasn't a terrible experience and I am sure that any major surgery is painful to recover from, but I am just upset that my OB is so against VBACs. I really wanted to have 3-4 children and now I feel like I am not going to be able to do that bc I don't want to risk my health. I know a lot of women VBAC but my OB's NP scared the sh!t out of me talking about how dangerous it is and now DH doesn't even want to consider it.
LOL I just saw this video and thought it was relevant to the subject:
https://www.funnyordie.com/videos/1f8ea62f7e/prenatal-pole-dancing-dvd?ref=nf
Hmmm. Sounds like you need a new OB honestly. Especially if you had a c/s due to breech... Sounds like the NP was WAY out of line. And yea... she's not an effin Dr. She's a NP.
I would start to do research on your own. There is also a VBAC board with a lot of great information.
My OB is the one strongly suggesting I VBAC with the next... because of the circumstances (he was transverse) she said I'm the perfect candidate and doesn't think it's medically necessary to c/s again. Of course I'm not even pregnant yet and we will cross that bridge when we get there.
GL!
ETA: My comment above "especially if you had a c/s due to breech" was meant that you're a great candidate for VBAC provided your next LO is not breech... Not anything to do with the fact you had a c/s due to breech presentation
That's why it is so frustrating bc my body went into labor on it's own and was progressing very well. I feel like if she had been in the right position then I would have easily been able to have a vaginal delivery. VBAC is definitely something that I have been looking into but we aren't even really trying yet so I still have some time.
This. I had a great OB and easy recovery but I'm still dealing with the emotional aftermath. I think a lot women who think a CS is "easy" don't know of this side of it.
To those who would dare to bring up with me how much "easier" a c-section is than a vaginal delivery, I present them with my Samuel birth story. 2 weeks of severe pre-eclampsia, HELLP Syndrome, liver and kidney failure, blood pressures in the 190/130-140 range, an arterial line run into my right wrist to "internally" measure my blood pressure, 37 different IVs started over the course of 4 days until a PICC line was inserted........not to mention a 2 week NICU stay for my son, whom I wasn't able to see for 36 hours after his birth.
And that's just Samuel. Elijah weighed almost 12 pounds at birth. Because of the way he was sitting, the anethesiologist couldn't get my epi to set up. All they got numb was the incision site. I felt everything else. WORST.PAIN.EVER. Not to mention, carrying a near-12 pound baby to term is no picnic.
I'll take the vaginal delivery. And those self-righteous folks can kiss my you-know-what.
I would never think a c/s is the "easy" way out. I had one and even though my recovery went well, it still wasn't what I would call easy by any definition. It took a few days for me to be able to stand up straight without holding something against my incision. I had no choice because both boys were breech and they weren't even going to attempt to turn twins and I didn't want any part of a breech vaginal delivery.
I just don't get the whole debate over birth options anyway. If you have a healthy baby in the end, does it really matter how they got here?
But your SIL does really need to learn some patience. And how to count!