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Does anyone have a PT child who won't poo on the potty?

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My 3 year old daughter has been peeing on the potty and staying dry in her underwear for a very long time, but has always been hesitant to go #2 on the potty.  We didn't push it and figured she would come around, but she never has and she absolutely refuses to do it on the potty.  She doesn't have accidents in her underwear, which I guess is a positive in one sense, but is also very frustrating because when she needs to go she will ask for a diaper.  We tried telling her "No, you need to go on the potty" but it results in a major fit.  She will not willingly sit on the potty to go #2 and I'm not going to hold her down on the toilet to make her go.  I can't imagine that this type of association with pooping on the potty would make things any easier.  I just have no idea why she won't go on the potty, and she doesn't care about stickers, treats, etc.  She won't talk about it.  The pee part of this was actually pretty easy, which has me at a loss for how to overcome this part.  Any ideas?

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  • Dreamsicle23Dreamsicle23 member
    My cousin was like that.  Honestly, you need to just say no.  You keep giving her the diaper, so she's not getting the message.  She will either have to poop in her pants or on the potty, and at her age I'm sure she'll figure out quickly that it's better to go in the potty.  If she was only 2 I'd say don't push her but at well over 3 it's just a power struggle she's winning.
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  • MrsOlsonMrsOlson

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    My cousin was like that.  Honestly, you need to just say no.  You keep giving her the diaper, so she's not getting the message.  She will either have to poop in her pants or on the potty, and at her age I'm sure she'll figure out quickly that it's better to go in the potty.  If she was only 2 I'd say don't push her but at well over 3 it's just a power struggle she's winning.

     

    I think this is very good advice. Be strong Mom!

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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    My DD is 2 y 3m and we have the same stuggle.  SHe had pooped on the potty a handful of times over the summer but had some major constipation issues that really set us back and now she refuses to poop on the potty at all.  We had her undies this summer but due to the whole poop issue, put her into pull-ups so she could still go pee on her own which she does but she still won't poop in the potty.  She has started asking for undies again in the last few weeks so we decided to give it a go and yesterday was day #1 and she pooped in them 2x.  Not sure how today is going as she is at daycare.  I have not taken the pull-ups away completely yet but after this weekend when I have her home with me, they will be gone for daytime (so not worring about night time training since that is a whole different beast).  Right now, daycare is putting her back into a pull-up after 3-4 accidents each day without her undies but that is going to stop next week.  I am hoping we can get her over the poop fear somehow.  Right now, she gets no reward for peeing on the potty since I know she can do this but if she poops on the potty, she gets 5 Skittles and if she goes a few days, she gets a trip to McDonalds which is a huge treat in our house.
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  • MrsBalletStar05MrsBalletStar05 member

    We kinda had the same issue.  The peeing was simple, but he wouldn't poop on the potty.  He DID make messes in his pants.  One day I eventually caught him mid-poop and sat him on the toilet.  After that, he did it on his own! 

    I would actually encourage you to force her on the potty.  If she says she has to go, I'd sit her on the potty until she went.  Now that I'm thinking about it, my SIL had this EXACT problem with her daughter and that is what she did as well.   Maybe once she sees that she can do it on the potty, she'll be more used to the idea.

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  • MirandaHobbesMirandaHobbes member
    I'm sortof in this problem- DS just poops his pants and tells me after the fact. If I can catch him mid-poop and get him on the potty, I think it will sink in and he'll figure it out. We have to let him run around in his underwear to do this and keep a hard eye on him. In your circumstances however, have you tried extensive bribes to get her on the potty to poop? I've always been told that bribes are fine for PT'ing (I went to a seminar on it, actually, on how to PT your special needs child). Literally anything could be used- pop, candy bars, new dollies. We went through 2 whole fun-sized bags of snickers when we PT'ed and it totally worked (for pee) and no, he isn't addicted to candy now and doesn't need a candy bar to go to the potty. It sounds like she's able to poop, just doesn't want to. So if you can get her to sit, she might realize it's not so bad.
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