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Just a note about this place...
If you're just joining be prepared for some stupid drama hungry b!tches. If you slip up on the boards and post something stupid to them or "flameworthy", they say "TheBump never forgets!" and they stand by that. The women here are absolutely ridiculous and feel the need to bash any and everyone they can. If they see something "flameworthy" they jump on it in a flash, call people names, make fun of them, put them down, etc... There are many "internet cliques", and if they don't know you, you have to "earn" their trust and make them like you. High school much? Oh, and this isn't just on TheBump... this is on TheNest and TheKnot boards too. The boards on this whole website make me turn people away from here and I will never refer this place to anyone.
Seriously ladies, grow the f.uck up. Get off your high horses, swallow that pride of yours, and do something with your life like, oh say, be a mom/wife? You think you're cool for being glued to your computer all day talking to people on an internet message board? Come on now.. let's put some "big girl panties" on and actually act like "big girls".
I'm so glad I actually have a life, a wonderful husband who treats me right, and amazing kids. You guys have fun with what you're doing... it's REALLY honorable.. 
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Re: Just a note about this place...
BFP 12/05/10 (EDD 8/8/11), empty gestational sac 12/31/10, natural miscarriage 01/05/11
BFP 03/03/11, EDD 11/09/11, We love you so much already, our sweet little munchkin!!!
*Congrats to buddies MrsAtch, cflocco, MommyandKate, luckylady55, opallover, trishiepoo, stephsteph77, and Pachita! Praying for healthy babies for all of you!*
*Congrats to my buddy, Izabella22 (BFP 5/11/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
*Congrats to my buddy, myaddiwaddi06(BFP 10/31/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
You've been here for a while? Why/
Not if you're smart.
There are 2 sides to every story, and from the responses it looks like the OP created an alter ego sign-in just to rant, because something went down on another board.
Just like any public message board, practice common sense and everything will be fine. Lurk on boards for a while to figure out the tone and how discussions usually go. If it gets too dramatic, back out and just watch the fur fly. Introduce yourself if you want to start actively posting. It's kind of like a cocktail party--you usually get a better response if you introduce yourself before jumping into a conversation. Be prepared for potential flaming (I've gotten at least mildly flamed on almost every board I've visited) but it's not the end of the world.
OP, if you're so upset about this all the way back to your Knot days, why did you continue posting on the Nest and the Bump?
exactly! if you arent an idiot asking completely ridiculous questions and you are respectful to other posters, people are nice. I'm pretty new but I've chosen a couple of boards that I typically post on and avoid the drama. if people dont like it then get off but I dont see a problem with most of these ladies.
No not at all!!! I love this place, and try to post and get to know everyone as much as I can. I mostly stick to the boards that apply to me of course.
I think this person has caused this themselves and is bashing the whole site. you'll see it happen if you frequently lurk through posts. You have to remember to read comments as advice. If you post something you have to be prepared for all kinds of feedback, there are different kinds of personalities and opinions here. If there's something you don't like or agree with you cant let yourself think that person is downing you, you can't take it personally.
Like other ladies have mentioned, just be smart about what you post. Even though you mean it in one way someone can read it in a different way....hence the "big girl panties" comment.
This. Grow a pair and say what you have to say under your real sn. Instead of scaring newbs.
Am I a terrible mom/wife because I have a job and work 10 hours a day? I'm providing for my upcoming child. I apologize if that makes me terrible. Oh and the fact that it's an office job where things get slow, so I go on the nest/bump also makes me a terrible mom/wife?
I've never put anyone down on these boards. I've never "remembered" what someone has said and used it against them in a future argument. Maybe some women do, but you'll find that on any message board. Hop off your high horse. Your OP does exactly what you're complaining about; putting others down (inferring they're not great mothers/wives) in a post on the bump.
vegan mama, military wife
This is what I was thinking too....
Wow, so you created a "fake" name, then responded to your own post under this name? Talk about needing a life...
If you don't have the balls to use your regular screen name when b!tching about other people, you probably deserved whatever flaming you got because you're a coward.
Do you talk to yourself in real life too?
This has been my experience as well. I love it here, and I KNOW that I'm an excellent mom. I just so happen to sit in front of a computer all day and I'm an efficient worker with a laid back boss who allows me to have internet freedom at work.
Holy drama llama!
You don't know these women IRL, don't let a bunch of internet strangers get you so upset. Take everything with a grain of salt, it's not that big of a deal in reality. I must admit, I do cry myself to sleep some nights when they're a bunch of meanie poops..
8/25/10
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Wow, OP, did you create another AE just so you could agree with yourself? Interesting that you both joined TODAY.
HEE HEE. Big Girl Panties.
Made me lol at work!
I've been lurking and posting a bit for the past few months, in most cases I've only met incredibly strong, supportive women (TTTC Board) I don't venture into the other boards because I doubt I would have much to offer. I did notice specific threads that were a conversation between only two women, I usually stayed out of them. And at first when I posted I didn't see much of a response and then I realized I hadn't introduced myself, had no info in my siggy and that I was new and needed to learn the ropes a bit before jumping into conversations. I'm sure people can get snarky, some of these boards are sensitive, but to create an account to insult the people who supposedly insulted you is childish and if the OP can't see that then we're all better off without her!
Gus Gus
Born: August 27th, 2012
8lbs. 15oz. 20" @ 7:07pm
August 2012 July Siggy: Pool Baby
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oh my. I usually hang out on the nest, but so far the bump hasn't seemed too bad. I think its best if an internet message board makes you that upset then it most likely a good idea to take a break.