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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Why do they have to watch???
Does anyone else think it's weird that grandmothers (and whoever else) always want to watch you give LO a bath? Both my and DH's mom insist on coming in to "watch. Which makes it a bit crowded. Sure, cute naked baby whatever, but it kind of creeps me out. I know obviously there are no creepy feelings involved, and maybe I'm just uptight about this, but I don't like it. MIL is coming tomorrow (both MIL and M are from oot) and I know that will come up. I think I'll talk to DH but I'm pretty sure he'll be like "just let her do it, it makes her happy".
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Re: Why do they have to watch???
Are you kidding? It creeps you out?
I invite my mom in to watch the girls get a bath when she visits. They are adorable together in the tub, love showing off for grandma, and everyone involved knows that there is not a sex offender in the room, ffs.
I do hope you keep your eyes shut tight yourself while bathing your LO.
Actually, YES. I think this is very bizarre. Maybe when they were newborns, yeah, but now there's no reason for a crowd of people in there. I have had to deal with this with my MIL. Fortunately we only see her once every few months now so I just suck it up. But yeah, it does bug me, a lot.
Honestly I think its because they miss bathing their babies..But I wouldnt say anything..I know when I go to my moms she loves to bath Noah..I would just let them..a little crowded but its not like they are there all the time
Ugh. My MIL came to visit when DS was 5 weeks old, and she would stand right next to me while I changed his diaper. Totally in the way, but not lifting a finger to help me. Then MIL and FIL both crowded into the bathroom to watch me give him a bath. I almost killed them both (PP hormones were still raging).
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It has nothing to do with me thinking there's anything "wrong" there, obviously creepy is the wrong term to use. I think it's I don't like being tight there in the bathroom with anyone looking over my shoulder. I'd be fine if they were in there themselves (but MIL is afraid to do that). I don't know, obviously I'm the weird one here.
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I get the want. Naked baby? Cute. Naked baby playing/splashing? Super cute.
But the extra person in a cramped room really irritates me. If my mom does that, I let her go ahead and give DD a bath.
when DS was first born my MIL insisted on watching me breastfeed him. Like, from six inches away. True story. She would sit there and watch right. up. close.
I'm not really self-conscious about breastfeeding in general and don't mind doing it around people (esp women who have breastfed themselves) but that was a little weird. I didn't tell her no but just kind of avoided being in the situation where she would ask after that.
I know she just thought it was a beautiful thing and was fascinated by it... she doesn't talk much as her first language is Japanese so I don't know for sure. she meant well but it still skeezed me out a bit.
I agree with all of this.
How is that weird?
Jake has a blast in the tub and his grandma's love to watch him play. Actually, my exMIL would just give Jake his bath when she was visiting and I would relax.
I think that's win-win.
I see it as more fun and distraction for HIM!
Usually whoever else is in there (whether it be me (if DH is the main one doing the bath) or one of my parents) just sits on the toilet.
I will say, though, that I know if FIL ever did come in, he would be annoying becasue he really does hover over you and doesn't have a normal sense of space and giving people space!
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This....and it just makes me sad that people are getting annoyed with them wanting to be there.
We lost DH's mom almost a year ago, and all I can think of right now is how badly she would have wanted to see all these little things.
Be glad they're there to be a part of it, that's all I'm going to say so I don't start crying.
Hugs to you!
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I agree!
This. Or I'll add to the fact that my MIL could care less to even be involved with DD.
I don't understand some of you ladies. Annoyed at bath time, annoyed at grandparents sending gifts.
Get your heads out of your asses.
PP i'm sorry for your loss.
I totally agree. All the grandparents love to watch, though they normally just stop in for a few minutes. When we used to bathe DS in the sink, both sets of his cousins would love to pull up chairs, or sit on the counter and watch.
Yeah, that's a bit uptight.
I don't see anything wrong with it and can easily see myself wanting to see my grandchildren getting their baths. Children in the tub are such joys.
Oh and if you think that's gross, you'd REALLY find it gross that my 12 year old stepson sometimes pops in to chat with ds when he's getting a bath.
ITA.
So no one has ever asked to watch me bath DS. Both grandmas have helped me bath him when we were visiting since he is so wiggly these days.
On a different note, has anyone read the original Winnie the Pooh book? Christopher Robin is always asking whoever is making up these stories to come watch him have his bath. I found that odd when I was reading it to DS.
Yep. Karma's a biitch, so it will be very interesting when THEY are the MIL whose son married someone who is so controlling about the grandkids.
I can see it now.... "Do you know that that wench won't let me even see little Tommy in the bathtub!"
This exactly! I think its great with Mom or MIL are over and want to participate in bathtime. And I am totally happy to let them go ahead and take over the bath routine for the night. Its no fun to be cramped in a bathroom for sure so I don't know why you wouldn't just let her do it and give you a break on it for the night!
She is not there every night cramping her DILs space. She is visiting. Let her enjoy her grandchildren. I also get annoyed by MIL, so I understand, but I just let it go so she can enjoy them.
Yeah that doesn't really bother me at all to be honest.
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I think it's weird too.
ETA: But no one has ever asked to participate in bath time, except when DS was fresh from the hospital and my mom helped me bathe him because I was sacred.
This. My mom sits in there with us sometimes. We've had some amazing talks while Madeline played in the tub. She tells me all kinds of stories about when my brother and I were little and I love listening. Sometimes I talk about what is on my mind and she listens. There's just something connective and loving about being with my daughter and my mom and having a heart-to-heart. I cherish this time.
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