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SIL update & vaccines
About a month ago I posted how I was upset my SIL wasn't going to travel during the holidays to see her dying grandpa, and a lot of you jumped down my throat (that's how it seemed anyways) about how family shouldn't pressure them, let them start their own holiday traditions, etc. However, knowing my SIL, I knew none of the things you all were talking about really applied to her or their situation. Which was why I was so frustrated--why the heck wouldn't she go see him??
Well, I talked to her the other day to see if she was going to the funeral, and she said no. She said that a cough was going around (they live in Cali), and they didn't want to take their 4.5 month old son on a plane with everyone coughing--and him getting bronchitis from it. Umm, I was really confused by this. When I told MIL at the funeral, she said that SIL wasn't vaccinating her son until he turns 6 months old! Well no wonder she doesn't want to take him anywhere! However, I can't really imagine waiting until 6 months to get any vaccines--esp. with the whopping cough outbreak in the state you live and the flu season. *sigh* So there's her reason.
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Re: SIL update & vaccines
That's really hard.
I guess if you make the choice to delay vax, you're also making the choice to keep your kid away from public places like planes. And for me, if she has made that choice to delay vax, I'm glad to hear she's being responsible with that decision.
Still, though. That's really sad that she didn't make it to your grandfather's funeral.
Ditto!
People and their weird logic. I get it, but I don't get why ppl can't be up front about their reasoning, as well.
This happens a LOT in our fam. I get totally frustrated by something and then MONTHS later I find out the TRUE reason, and then it's like, "Ahhhh, so THAT's what was going on!"
This.
It is terrible that she missed seeing her grandfather before he passed and the funeral, but it is her choice. She is being cautious because her son isn't vaccinated yet, so hopefully she's done real research on the subject. It's her choice to make as a parent. Maybe she didn't tell you because she knew the two of you have different opinions on the subject and didn't want to create tension?
Exactly what I was thinking.
She probably thinks she's doing what's best for her child.
We knew she was going to delay them, but we thought she was going to do an alternate schedule or something. Not completely delay until 6 months. And my DH already talked to her about it when we visited in Aug, and we weren't going to say anything else. I really hope she did her research, but I'm glad she's being cautious about taking him places right now. She's doing everything completely opposite of us, so she probably didn't want to say anything for that reason.