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Jram85Jram85
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Hi everyone,

I'm new to this board; I've lurked a few times before but am not usually online too often.

I just got married on November 1 and am 14 weeks pregnant and this is my first marriage and pregnancy.  The weekend my husband proposed to me is (probably) the weekend we got pregnant (what a fun weekend that was, lol). 

Anyway, a little over a year ago I put my entire life into 4 boxes and moved from Georgia to Idaho, where I later met my husband on an online dating site.  Since I've lived in Idaho, I have no real friends, and the friends I left behind in Georgia I miss dearly.  There are a few people I work with who are supportive, but  they are really only work friends.  I've never seen any of them outside of work, and honestly (this might sound mean...) I wouldn't want to hang out with many of them outside of work. Even though DH and I only saw each other on weekends and long holidays due to our distance apart from his base, we spoke daily and did almost everything together.  He was my support and my entire world.

Now DH is deploying to S. Korea for a year. I am thankful to have the support of my mother, her friends, and the long distance support from my friends back in Georgia, but I thought I'd turn to you ladies on this board, because I'm 99% sure that many of you have gone through similar experiences as I am going through now.  It hasn't quite hit me yet that I won't see my hubby for 6 months (thank goodness he has a mid-tour leave!) and he won't be able to experience the pregnancy with me.

Aside from obtaining a hobby, what other ways can I pass the time?

 Anyway, I thought I'd introduce myself before I had a complete mental breakdown and all you have to read are my insane panic/sadness-stricken ranting.

 Thanks everyone :)

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  • evess5evess5

    Is there a reason you don't want to go to Korea with him? He could command sponsor and you guys would be there for 3 years but you would be together...

    That being said I lived in Korea and HATED it lol so I would understand why you wouldn't but at the same time being pregnant I would rather be with DH and have him experience everything rather than miss it. Some people love it there (it all depends on where you get stationed). If your up in Yongsan you will be fine, we were down south in Deagu and there was NOTHING there. Busan was an hour away but eh not much else. Good luck with everything and whatever you decide to do!

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    I would suggest signing up for an activity that would help you meet other pregnant women and something that would also get you out of the house.  You could do a prenatal yoga class or something similar (depending on your interests).  Check with your local hospital for any sort of "moms-to-be" classes - that's a great way to meet other people, too.

    I know what you mean about your work friends, but you may want to take advantage of having that companionship while you are at work.  Maybe go for a walk with some of them at lunch or something.  Having someone to talk to (in person) is always a nice thing.

    Thanks for the advice - I will check out some activities.  I know my hospital offers some pamphlets that I can grab when I'm @ my next visit.  I do have a closer work-friend relationship with one woman and we do go on walks around 10am to stretch a bit - but with this crazy snow it has made walking rather uncomfortable (brrr!) so we usually talk while everyone else is at lunch since we both take late lunches :)  It does help :)

     

    imageevess5:

    Is there a reason you don't want to go to Korea with him? He could command sponsor and you guys would be there for 3 years but you would be together...

    That being said I lived in Korea and HATED it lol so I would understand why you wouldn't but at the same time being pregnant I would rather be with DH and have him experience everything rather than miss it. Some people love it there (it all depends on where you get stationed). If your up in Yongsan you will be fine, we were down south in Deagu and there was NOTHING there. Busan was an hour away but eh not much else. Good luck with everything and whatever you decide to do!

    I *wish* I could go to Korea with him, but as an E3 I am not allowed to go.  There are other details, like it being a 'remote' base, and probably other reasons too.  If I could go to Korea I'd be on that plane in a second :D  The base is Osan, btw, I don't think I mentioned that.

     Thanks for the adivce ladies - I'll keep my chin up.  Hubby and I just got off the phone (his plane got delayed in Seattle overnight) so that upped my spirits.  

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    Hi, congratulations on your marriage and baby! I'm S and my husband M is in the Army. We have a 4 month old little boy and DH is currently on his 2nd tour in Afghanistan.

    DH was here for my entire pregnancy and the birth of our son but left shortly after. While we aren't in the same situation, they are similar. I would try to keep your husband as involved in your pregnancy as possible. Send him weekly belly pics, record baby's heartbeat at your appt and send him pictures from your ultrasound. DH really loves getting letters from me, he says that they make him feel more connected to me. Maybe you could write him letters telling him each day how your feeling and changing.

    As far as staying busy, I've got a pretty awesome little boy to occupy most of my day :). I would recommend getting involved in some sort of group so that you can try to meet some new people.

    Good luck! 

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    imageagis:

    I would suggest signing up for an activity that would help you meet other pregnant women and something that would also get you out of the house.  You could do a prenatal yoga class or something similar (depending on your interests).  Check with your local hospital for any sort of "moms-to-be" classes - that's a great way to meet other people, too.

    I know what you mean about your work friends, but you may want to take advantage of having that companionship while you are at work.  Maybe go for a walk with some of them at lunch or something.  Having someone to talk to (in person) is always a nice thing.

    Thanks for the advice - I will check out some activities.  I know my hospital offers some pamphlets that I can grab when I'm @ my next visit.  I do have a closer work-friend relationship with one woman and we do go on walks around 10am to stretch a bit - but with this crazy snow it has made walking rather uncomfortable (brrr!) so we usually talk while everyone else is at lunch since we both take late lunches :)  It does help :)

     

    imageevess5:

    Is there a reason you don't want to go to Korea with him? He could command sponsor and you guys would be there for 3 years but you would be together...

    That being said I lived in Korea and HATED it lol so I would understand why you wouldn't but at the same time being pregnant I would rather be with DH and have him experience everything rather than miss it. Some people love it there (it all depends on where you get stationed). If your up in Yongsan you will be fine, we were down south in Deagu and there was NOTHING there. Busan was an hour away but eh not much else. Good luck with everything and whatever you decide to do!

    I *wish* I could go to Korea with him, but as an E3 I am not allowed to go.  There are other details, like it being a 'remote' base, and probably other reasons too.  If I could go to Korea I'd be on that plane in a second :D  The base is Osan, btw, I don't think I mentioned that.

     Thanks for the adivce ladies - I'll keep my chin up.  Hubby and I just got off the phone (his plane got delayed in Seattle overnight) so that upped my spirits.  

    DH was an E3 when I was in Korea also, I have never heard of rank being an issue for CS, where did you hear that? There are certain camps that you can't CS for but if you get the paperwork done right when he gets orders they can change his location. Oh and Osan is where all the good shopping is...you can/will spend WAY too much money there :)

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